Presentation on theme: "YOU CAN STOP BULLYING Presented by Family Voices of Tennessee"— Presentation transcript:
1 YOU CAN STOP BULLYING Presented by Family Voices of Tennessee Adapted from U.S. Dept of Health and Human Services
2 Just 15 Minutes Undivided attention can make difference. Promotes healthy child development.Prevents youth and school-based violence.They DO look up to you!Other adults can step in.
3 What is Bullying? Direct – seen and felt. Indirect – deliberate exclusion, name calling, rumors, etc.Sometimes hard to identify and solve.BoysGirlsBoys are more often direct bully’s and girls are more often indirect bully’s
4 Imbalance of PowerBullying is defined by a power imbalance between the bully and the target (victim)Power = size, strength, verbal skills, popularity, or gender.Bullying can include hitting, name calling, threatening, intimidating, kicking, spreading rumors, teasing, pushing, tripping, excluding someone from a group, or destroying some ones property.The target or victim can feel tormented, helpless and defenseless.
5 The Effects of Bullying Increased absenteeism/drop out rateLess safe, less satisfiedCan lead to child abuse/spouse abuseCriminal activityVictims can grow socially insecure, anxious, low self-esteem, depression, possible suicide.The longer bullying lasts, the harder it is to change. Bullies identified by age 8 are six times more likely to have a criminal conviction by age 24, . Bullying can also be linked to other delinquent criminal and gang activities, such as shoplifting, drug abuse and vandalism.All of this can continue into adulthood.
6 Conversation Starters What does "bullying" mean to you?Do you ever feel lonely at school or left out of activities? How does that make you feel?Who do you sit with, what do you do, and what do you talk about?
7 Other QuestionsHave you ever been scared to go to school because you were afraid of being bullied?What ways have you tried to change it?Have kids ever bullied you by hitting or pushing you, or other things like that?
8 Is Your Child Being Bullied? Seems unwilling or afraid to go to school.Seems depressed or downhearted.Chooses illogical routes to school.Loss of interest in school.Poor appetite, stomach aches.Stealing money.Use full list during workshop
9 High RiskChildren with special health care needs are at higher risk to be victims of bully’s AND higher risk to bully others.Children with obesity or weight issues are often bullied by their peers.Use hand out to explain the % increase.
10 What Can You Do?Parents and Schools should take bullying seriously, investigate the facts and work together to find a healthy solution.Parents need to speak to the school immediately.
11 How to Help Your Child Let them know it’s not their fault. Discuss ways of responding to the bully.Tell your child not to react, but to walk away and get help if pursued.Tell a trusted adult.File criminal charges for assault or injuries.
12 Don’t Don’t tell your child to solve the bullying themselves. Don’t tell them to fight the bully.Don’t blame either the victim or the bully-investigate and consider all the facts.If you tell your child to solve this on their own and the difference is power the child is going to suffer more, and if they fight it is a school violation and the child may get injured. If you investigate consider all the facts such as your child’s behavior and the style of interaction with others or in certain situations. (William would be a good example of how he would perceive being bullied when another child might see it as horse play.)
13 Warning Signs of a Bully Seeks to dominate others.Poor winner and poor loser.Is excited by conflicts between others.Pattern of impulsive and chronic hitting, intimidating and aggressive behaviors.Lacks empathy towards others.Other signs,Enjoys feeling in powerful and in controlSeems to derive satisfaction from others fears, discomforts, or pain.Good at hiding behaviors or doing them where adults can’t notice.Blames others for his/her problemsDisplays uncontrolled anger.May use drugs, alcohol or be a member of a gang.
14 What You Can Do If you think your child may be bullying, act quickly. Let them know this is not acceptable.Help your child learn alternative ways with dealing with anger and frustration.Help them understand the impact on their victims.Seek professional help if behavior continues.You can get help at school, counseling, and other outreach programs. Stay calm-try not to become angry and defensive, Make yourself really listen.
15 Don’t be a VictimHelp your child learn good social skills and a healthy self-confidence.Teach your child to speak out for his or her rights.Teach them to seek help if bullied.
16 Don’t be a Bully Model non-violent behavior. Let your child know violence will not be tolerated.Seek help from mental health/school counselors to stop aggressive behaviors.
17 You are the Key Remember to talk with your children. Only 15 minutes CAN make a difference.Remind them you are there to talk or listen.Be a good role model, they are always watching.
18 Resources www.samhsa.gov www.pacerkidsagainstbullying.org School councilorSTAR program