1. Self Harm Children and Youth Leader TrainingJanuary 2011

2. 1. What is self harm?  Who does it?  Why do it? 2. How can I help a self harmer?  How can I tell if someone is self harming?  What do I say? 3. What about you?

3. ‘Self-injury is any deliberate, non suicidal behaviour that inflicts physical harm on your body and is aimed at relieving emotional distress.’ 2009 Self-Injury Guidance & Network Support

4. Neurotransmitter produced during stress / distress Initiates ‘fight or flight’ response. Increases heart rate. Also known as Adrenaline, this is a very powerful hormone.

5. Why Self Harm? To cope A way of connecting to reality Self punishment A sign of pain To push others away Why Self Harm?

6. Signs to Look Out For Unexplained, recurring cuts / bruises. Long sleeved clothing in warmer weather. Traces of blood on clothing. Itching arms and wrists through clothing. Emotional rollercoaster. Signs to Look Out For

7. Do’s and Don’ts Do…. Acknowledge their pain. Distract them. Bring up the subject, if you have a good relationship with them. Be aware of what triggers them. Be aware of your own behaviour. Educate yourself. Liaise with Jon Knight/Chris Kidd/Lydia Sheard. Do’s and Don’ts

8. Don’t… Ignore the subject. Draw up a no harm contract, or ask them to stop. Confiscate sharp implements. Pressure them into uncomfortable situations; dressing up, swimming etc. Do’s and Don’ts

9. But what about you? Don’t take self harm personally. Spend time understanding your own feelings. It’s ok to feel overwhelmed, confused, angry, helpless, repulsed. Take care of yourself. Recharge your batteries. Receive prayer.