2 Parenting and Families p47 Section 1Parenting and Families p47
3 Objectives:Explain how a knowledge of child development can help parents.Identify and describe Galinsky’s six stages of parenthood.Describe the challenges and rewards of parenthood.Develop a self-assessment for judging a person’s readiness for parenthood.Explain how good resource management skills relate to parenting.
5 Opener – Read and Discuss Parenting and Families p47Does this sound like a job you would apply for?Why/Why Not?
6 Parenting: A Learning Process p47 Parenting=caring for children and helping them grow and develop.Involves understanding and meeting the needs of children.
7 Parenting: A Learning Process p47 cont. Requires Good JudgmentKnow when to help and when to let them try on their own. They need to learn how to bounce back when they fail.Know when to encourage children to try new things, explore likes and dislikes. Avoid pushing.Know when to change parenting skills to match the stage the development the child is in.
8 Who besides parents, would benefit from these skills? Other relativesFriendsTeenagersTeachersSunday school teachersClub leadersPeople in general
9 Having Reasonable Expectations p48 Having reasonable expectations of children is necessary to understanding them. Do these sound familiar: Act your age Grow up How old are you You act like a child
10 Having Reasonable Expectations p48 cont. If you understand the stages and what they are capable of in each stage, you will have more reasonable expectations.However, every child is individual and develops at their own rate.
11 DiscussionIdentify some of the possible frustrations of having a young child help with the dishes.What are some words of encouragement you could give to a child doing dishes that would reinforce positive actions?
12 Developing Parenting Skills p49 Does being a good parent come naturally or is it learned?Discussion
13 Ways to gain/learn parenting skills: Classes or workshops in child development –schools, hospitals, community groups, health depts., private sectorsEx: feeding, behaviors, health, financial stress, relationshipsRead books, magazines, internet (be sure it’s reliable – snopes.com or some reputable organization.
14 Ways to gain/learn parenting skills: cont. Work with childrenTalk with family and friends (don’t try recreating the wheel and do it all on your own)Observe parents with children
15 Reading Check p48 teacher’s text Who needs to have good parenting skills?Why is it important for adults to understand child development?What are some ways to develop parenting skills?
16 Galinsky’s Stages of Parenthood p50 Time PeriodParent’s TaskImage-MakingPregnancyBegin to imagine themselves as parentsNurturingBirth to Age 2Become emotionally attached to child.May question relative worth of other priorities.AuthorityAge 2 to Ages 4-5Determine rulesClarify role as authority figureInterpretiveAges 4-5 to Age 13Rethink their role as parentsDecide what knowledge, skills, and values child needsIndependentAdolescenceEstablish boundariesFind disciplinary methods appropriate for teens.DepartureChildren Leave HomeEvaluate their parenting
17 Assignment: Choose one of Galinsky’s stages to research. Prepare a one-page summary of your findings.Share your report with the class.
18 The Changes That Parenthood Brings p50 Life radically changes – How? Brainstorm
19 AssignmentFor 3 days, write out your daily schedules including one weekend day.Include all your activities on the schedule.Imagine you have just become a parent.Re-examine your schedule.How would your daily life change?What activities would be added?What activities would be dropped?
20 Challenges of Parenthood p51 When you become a parent, your life is no longer your own. Your first responsibility is your child?Even though there are numerous changes, most parents adjust to them.
21 In addition to learning what to expect, plan for it. Talk over issue ahead of time to prevent problems later.Who will be the wage earner.Budget expensesDecide what to give upDecide who will baby sitAsk parents if they will help in certain area
22 In addition to learning what to expect, plan for it. Cont. Decide ahead of time how you will share parenting duties.Make time to be alone as a couple.Relax, keep a sense of humor.Don’t expect too much of yourself. (your house may not be a tidy, you may not have the best mowed lawn etc.)
23 New ResponsibilitiesLess time for yourself – take care of the child’s needs firstChild’s needs:Physical care – health, food, clothing, shelterEmotional careFinancial supportLoveGuidance
24 Changes in Lifestyle Takes a huge amount of time and energy Feeding, bathing, diapering, playing, comforting, supervisingLess time for leisure and outingsLess time for restLess time for solitude
25 Emotional Adjustments p52 Not all the emotions are happy. It’s common to feel the following:FearFrustrationWorryJealousyDepressionHow can parents deal with this?
26 Changes in Relationships p52 Conflicts with spouse – tires, exhausted, money problemsFriends – no time to hang outYour parents – may feel closer to them, they help out, you understand their sacrificesYour parents – may resent advice
27 Employment p53One parent may give up a job or go part-time, to stay home with the child – reduced incomeMay choose to work at homePromotions and job moves may be on holdMay not accept overtimeMay change jobs if you travel have to travel
28 Rewards of Parenthood p53 Personal satisfaction and enjoyment –Baby’s / child’s accomplishments, smiles, snugglesEnriches a strong marriage
29 Making Decisions about Parenthood p54 Look at the following:Emotional maturityDesire for parenthoodHealth considerationsFinancial concernsResource management skills
30 Emotional MaturityResponsible enough to consistently put someone else’s needs before their own needs.Secure enough to devote their attentions to a child without expecting anything in returnControl their temper when an infant cries for hours on end or when they break a favorite possessionAble to handle being constantly on callSound judgment
31 Emotional Maturity cont. Reasoning and emotional control are centered in the frontal lobes, the front part of the brain, which is one of the last parts of the brain to mature.Frontal lobes do not fully develop until late teens or early 20s
32 Desire for Parenthood p55 Parenthood is not a cure for a poor marriage or poor self-esteem.
33 Health Considerations p55 Both should have checkups before conceptionRiskier for women under 17 and over age 35Teens less likely to have proper nutrition, gain adequate weight, and seek good prenatal care.Women over 35 are at greater risk for diabetes, hbp, downs syndrome
34 Financial Concerns p55It is expensive. (clothes, diapers, food, equipment, health care, child care, loss of income, space…)Consider the cost of having a baby and not just for the first year.Many parent have to change their way of life after they have a baby.Will both parents continue to work?
35 Read together:Looking At Real Life p55 and answer personal application questions.
36 Resource Management Skills Use the resources you have wisely – money, time, skills, energy, family, friends,Most resources are limited so you need a plan
37 Resource Management Skills cont. 5 steps to good resource management (read together p56 & 57) 1. Set Goals 2. Identify Resources 3. Make a plan 4. Put the plan into action 5. Reevaluate the plan from time to time
40 Objectives: Distinguish between sexuality and sexual activity. Summarize what people consider when making responsible decisions about sexual activity.Describe the possible consequences of sexual activity.Evaluate the challenges of teen pregnancy.
42 Teen Sexuality p58Sexuality refers to a person’s view of himself or herself as a male or female. It has physical, intellectual, emotional and social aspects. It involves: Physical maturity or the ability to be sexually active. How people feel about themselves A sense of responsibility for and understanding of other people and their feelings.
43 Teen Sexuality p58 cont.People show their sexuality by their attitudes, the way they walk, talk, move, and dress.Hormones=chemical in your bodyThey dictate changes as teens become sexually mature (puberty)The changes can be emotional and physical.
44 Teen Sexuality p58 cont During puberty social development changes: Attractions to new friendsAttractions to the opposite sexRelationships with family changeBecome more independentWant to spend more time with friendsQuestion authority
45 Values and Sexuality p59 Passed on from family Trust Self-respect Respect for othersCommitmentLoyaltyHow to treat the opposite sexHow to balance old friendships with someone of the opposite sex
46 The Consequences of Sexual Activity p 60 Sexuality Transmitted DiseasesAbstinence = avoiding sexual activity altogether and is the only way to avoid STDsRead together p61 –Chart on STDsAIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome)Starts with HIV – human immunodeficiency virus which can lay dormant in your body for years before becoming activeAIDS doesn’t kill you, but allows other illnesses to kill you.
47 The Consequences of Sexual Activity p 60 Health RisksTeens are not physically and emotionally ready.Greater risk for developing complications.Toxemia – deprives the baby and mother of O2 and can lead to premature birth.Teens don’t always eat as they should so their body may not be able to provide the needed nutrients.A critical period of development occurs before teens even realize they’re pregnant.Babies are more likely to be born early and with low birth weights which can lead to learning difficulties.
48 The Consequences of Sexual Activity p 60 PregnancyEducationFinancial ProblemsGood medical care, delivery fees, food, clothing, housing, etc for the child which lasts 18 years.Paternity=legally identifies who the father is.Even if the father is not in the picture he still has a financial responsibility.
49 The Consequences of Sexual Activity p 60 Emotional and Social StressAdjusting to new relationshipsThe change in the old relationships – may not have as much in commonMay have to give up past activities
50 Deciding to Abstain p62 Dangerous and Foolish Attitudes: “It can’t happen to me.”“It won’t happen on the first time.”“It won’t happen if I only do it once.”“People can’t get pregnant the first time.”“If you love me you will do it.”“Everyone’s doing it.”
51 Deciding to Abstain p62Think about this decision before you are in the “heat of passion.”Once this decision has been made, stick to it and remember why you made it in the first place.Don’t let others push you into it. They may have their own agendas for pushing you.They may say they think it’s cool but may really wish they hadn’t.They may not want others to succeed where they failed.They may want justification – “Everyone’s doing it.”
52 Before you have sex ask yourself --- Am I ready to be a parent? Emotionally Physically Socially Financially
53 When Teen Pregnancy Occurs p63 Don’t ignore the symptoms.Some people are in denial.
54 Weighing the Options p65 Single parenthood Can be rewarding but draining and even harder for teens.Teen parents suffer from burnout or depression.Teens need support: emotional and financial.Be realistic about how much help they will need and be able to receive.Don’t romanticize the situation- if the boy isn’t interested in marriage before the birth, most likely won’t be afterward.
55 Weighing the Options p65 cont. Marriage p65After the new wears off, the strains of responsibility and the new social situation sets in.Can be rewarding if there is a positive maturing – 2 parents to care for the child and a health home.If the relationship is not positive and maturing – can be stressful for everyone.
56 Weighing the Options p65 cont. Adoption p66It is when you legally give up your rights to your child and let someone else raise them.Think about it carefully as it is a permanent decision.2 types:Confidential = the birth parents don’t know the adoptive parentsOpen Adoption = birth and adoptive parents know each other.
57 Career Opportunities p67 Read togetherAssignment p66Review QuestionsAssignment p68Reviewing the ChptLearning from Research p69Choose one, write a report, present to class.