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Why the Sexes Still See Love and Commitment So Differently By John Marshall Townsend What Women Want- What Men Want Presented by: Julia Baird, Lily Garcia, Kathleen VanDusen
Basic Sex Differences Men and women have different sex drives Women’s sex drives are discontinuous; they can go weeks, months, and sometimes years without sexual activity Men have a greater variety of stimuli such as visual stimuli Men are more likely to desire a variety of sex partners Men are aroused by the sight of an attractive woman, fantasize about a stranger Women’s arousal is more internal, less aroused by external stimuli Pornographic magazines directed towards women were unsuccessful compared to the success of magazines such as Playboy, Hustler, Penthouse, etc.
Do Gay Men and Lesbians Show the Same Differences in Sexual Behavior as Heterosexuals Do Gay men tend to have large number of partners and low investment Sexual activities focus on sexual stimulation through genitalia More contact with anonymous strangers, behave the way that heterosexual men would if females were more willing Lesbians tend to have less partners, follow same pattern as heterosexual women Lesbians focus less on genitalia and more on emotional connection
How Does Evolutionary Psychology Explain Sex Differences? Men and women have different risks and opportunities in the mating process Women face greater risk in becoming pregnant and her child bearing years are limited Women are picky when it comes to selecting a mate they need someone to invest for both her and her offspring: attention, affection, time, energy, money, and other material resources Men have a lot to gain by being easily aroused and attempting to mate with many partners Man with two wives increases fertility, women with two husbands doesn’t increase fertility Men are not biologically required to invest in offspring Difference in parental investment of men and women have evolved different sexual psychologies
Sexual Strategies and Emotions Men and women have evolved emotional mechanisms that alert them when their sexual strategy is interfered with Women’s negative emotions resulting from casual sex. A women needs sufficient signs of investment to continue a sexual relationship, if she doesn’t get them then her emotions act as an alarm to get out of the relationship Men can maintain sexual relationships without investment and be content Men find it impossible to maintain low investment relationships because women demand investment and commitment or they will end the relationship
Women’s Stages of Sexual Awareness Concerning their Reactions to Casual Sex Stage 1: Coming Out A woman begins to test her sexual attractiveness and power. She is not yet concerned with signs of investment from men. Stage 2: Awareness and Denial Women are more experienced with casual sex. They are aware that negative feelings arise from not enough investment from men. These women may deny their strong emotions. Stage 3: Rejection of Casual Sex Women have experienced casual sex and realized that they don’t want it. They realize that they cannot control the balance between investment desired and investment received, they realize sex causes them to become emotional and feel attached, and monogamy feels most right to them.
Culture or Biology? Sexual double-standard cannot be the reason for women’s negative emotional reactions. Women that reject other traditional sex roles cannot control their emotional responses to sex Feelings of degradations and remorse for casual sex are not necessarily from having sex, but from lack of control of the level of investment from the male Women that have engaged in sexual relationships without commitment were ok with it when they made the decision to end it, they had the upper hand Women that have permissive attitudes towards casual sex react emotionally to it and are seeking higher investment relationships Women’s emotions act as alarms to guide them to higher investment relationships
Dating-Mating Market Surplus of younger women, allows men to avoid making commitment Marriage Squeeze- there aren’t enough older men for prospective women to marry Men’s tendency to marry younger women leads to large numbers of divorced or widowed women over 30 Financial independence allows women to be choosier when selecting their mate Contemporary women want both types of investment: significant material advantages, emotional attachment, and sexual fidelity
The New Polygyny Most men who can attract a mate, marry If divorced they remarry relatively quickly Functional Polygyny- refers to men who use their potential for investment to coast in relationships, limit their investments, and indulge their desires for partner activity Women with economic independence and no children are less likely to lower their socioeconomic requirements for a mate are are therefore less likely to marry or remarry Both high status and low status women are competing for the small pool of higher status men
Marrying Up Hypergamy- the tendency of either sex to mate with individuals of superior status Hypergyny- when women marry up Hyperandry- when men marry up Polygyny and hypergyny cause higher status women to suffer drastically reduced fertility rates More than 90% of young women enter adulthood with the expectation or desire to have children There is no evidence of a narrowing age gap once women gain more status
Apparent Anomalies Evolutionary psychologists claim that men and women’s behavior are predispositions; and whether they emerge in behavior depends on environmental conditions A study conducted by Blumstein and Schwartz revealed that women prefer monogamy because it allows the possibility of obtaining all of a man’s emotional and material investments It also gives the woman more sexual bargaining power
Critical Review Interesting Facts: Gay men are leading the heterosexual male’s dream of being able to sleep around or have casual sex. Heterosexual females and lesbians also share the same desire for their mate. Even as women gain a higher status or earn more money, they still seek the same aged partner. How men and women have sexual strategies and their emotions can be alarms to keep them on track of their strategies.
Critical Review Cont. Further questions / confusing: He asked the question of why there is a sexual double standard, but never really answered the question; he only said that women don’t desire casual sexual relations for a long period of time. The author mentioned something about Psychotherapy and how it can help with people’s emotions, but he didn’t really explain the reasons why it works or go into further detail about its effects. The women were more talked about than man where.