9 Survival mode at an ‘attitudinal’ level How easily do you fall out of each box?
10 the four life positions YOU ARE OK I AM OK Healthy YOU ARE NOT OK I AM NOT OK Submissive StuckCritical
11 Survival mode at a ‘feeling’ level How much do we own up to ourselves and others?
12 Openness When you are not open you: Alter the story Are guarded and hidden Talk at a task/superficial level (ignore or avoid emotions) Unaware or unreceptive When you are open you: Speak your truth Acknowledge and express feelings and emotions Share how you are in the moment Consider the possibility ‘if only 1% were true’
13 Survival mode at an ‘actions’ level How self-responsible are we?
14 Choice When you are not exercising choice you: Blame others or circumstances Are ambivalent Are rigid or close minded (defensive) Dismiss (e.g. ‘this is not me’) When you are exercising choice you: Accept accountability Feel empowered See your options and are open to change Choose to be open and seek to understand
Survival mode at a team and organisational level
17 Life Positions Conflict between dept Sales people within team Hungry birds syndrome Blame, cover back culture Different agendas Set up rival co’s Go through motions Lacks energy No aim or goals Committee meetings They are not OK Olympic teams SAS team F1 team Round world yacht crews They are OK We are OK We are Not OK Compromise Lack of confidence Abdication Lack of decision making Self regard Other regard
18 Life Positions Critical (Culture of blame, unethical, disrespect, burnout, lie to customers, short termist e.g. sales) Hopeless (e.g. CSA, declining industries, resigned, survival mode) You are not OK Healthy (Company is positive, energy, values customers, staff etc) You are OK I am OK I am Not OK Submissive (Helping professions, NHS, Teaching. Undersupported, low recognition ) Self value Valuing others