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www.StopthePorn.org How to Protect, Prevent and Prepare Your Teenager from Porn exposure Parent Resource
www.StopthePorn.org Is this your parenting style?
www.StopthePorn.org Sex #1 Search Topic 1 st Exposure To Porn - Avg. 11 years old 11 to 17 year olds Largest Porn Consumers Teens see 50 porn clips per week Girls 13 year olds exposed Admitted Porn is a Major Problem in their home Christians 67% Boys 93% 45% Porn is Everywhere
www.StopthePorn.org Generates more $$ than all the combined professional football, baseball and basketball teams combined. $3.0B $12.0B U.S. Porn Revenues Child Porn Revenues $57.0B Worldwide Revenues All that money lures desperate people into a life of abuse, drugs and porn. Money Motivated
www.StopthePorn.org How Common is Sexting? “Sexting” Shockingly Common Among Teens. 1/2 of teenagers admit to sending sexually suggestive images. High School Principals say it’s so common, they no longer police it.
www.StopthePorn.org Evolution of Online Safety Time Protecting from WhomFrom What? 1990 - 2010Bad AdultsPornography & predators 2010 - TodayPeersCyberbullying, Inappropriate content Sexting
www.StopthePorn.org GASP GASP Avoidance How do you Protect Them?
www.StopthePorn.org GASP GASP Avoidance G G od them A A ccess Controlled S S care them P P repare them
www.StopthePorn.org 1.Christ knows all and is always watching. 2.Porn separates you from Christ. 3.Porn does not treat others as we would want to be treated. 4.Bible condemns lust and immoral sexual acts. 5.Leads to bizarre and un Godly acts. G OD THEM GASP What to focus on:
www.StopthePorn.org What the Bible says… 1 John 2:16 “the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes … is not from the Father but is from the world. Romans 13:13 Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality …. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires. Matthew 5:28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Thess 4:3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor. G OD THEM GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Age Graded Exposure Rated G: Appropriate for all ages Rated PG: some material may not be suitable for children Rated PG-13: may not be suitable for children under 13 Rated R: Restricted under 17 requires accompanying parent or adult guardian Rated NC-17 (X): No children under 17 admitted WHY? Younger kids have a hard time telling fantasy from reality (Santa). They can’t process mature content. The line between right and wrong is blurred in the brain of a teen. Age 1 6 10 13 17 A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Age Graded Access Proverbs 22:6 - Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proven that early exposure to Porn can ‘scar’ a child and alter their personality. AGEACCESS > 12Tight Control 12 – 14Moderate Control 14 – 16Easing Control with Monitoring 16 – 18Full internet access with monitoring and discussion A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org #1. Protect your Computers Computers Monitoring Software – Windows 8 Family Safety Monitoring Best “out of the box” product on the market – Covenant Eyes – Accountability Filter Filtering Software – General Suites: AVG, McAfee, Norton – Specific Apps: Net Nanny, Safeeyes Establish Internet Rules – No phones/tablets to restroom/behind closed doors – No internet computers upstairs A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Configure Search Engines Google SafeSearch to prevent unwanted websites from coming up when you search for something. – Best Image filtering for searches – Works across all Chrome domains YouTube - has a “Safety Mode Picasa/Flickr and other photo share sites A ccess Controlled GASP Computers #1. Protect your Computers
www.StopthePorn.org YouTube - has a “Safety Mode” that can be enabled to filter out unwanted videos. These are videos that Google has flagged or that have found pornographic images through their pornographic image detector. To activate Safety Mode: – Go to YouTube.com and scroll down to the bottom of the page. – Find the “Safety: Off” button and click it (Note: if the button says “Safety: On”, Safety Mode is already enabled) to open the preference setting – Select the “On” option and save Google -uses Google SafeSearch to prevent unwanted websites from coming up when you search for something. – To set it up: Go to http://www.google.com/preferenceshttp://www.google.com/preferences – Scroll to “SafeSearch filters” and click “filter explicit results”. To make this permanent, click on “Lock SafeSearch” (You will need a Gmail account to lock SafeSearch) Picasa/Flickr and other photo share sites Reddit, Plague, Ello, Google +, Tinder, Swarm, Quora – http://tinyurl.com/n5md38s http://tinyurl.com/n5md38s Configure Search Engines A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Think through the smart phone decision! Mobile Devices Don’t just do it… …because everyone else has one. Consider a “trainer” or flip phone 1st. Cell Phone Agreement! (Resign it ever year.) Phone and service plan belongs to parents. A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Cell Phone Agreement PHONE ACCESS: If my grades fall below B's (79 or below), my phone privileges will be limited so I can focus more time on improving my grades. If they are below 70, I will lose complete access to my phone. I will TXT my parents my phone password anytime I change it. I will also give my parents passwords to any or all accounts when asked. I will give my parents full access to my phone whenever they ask. APPROPRIATE USE: I will not buy anything on-line (apps or services) without my parents prior approval. I will obey rules of etiquette regarding cell phones in public places. I will make sure my phone is turned off when I am in church, in restaurants, or quiet settings I promise I will alert my parents when I receive suspicious or inappropriate communications from people I know or don't know. I will also alert my parents if I am being harassed by someone via my cell phone. I will treat everyone as I want to be treated and will not use my cell phone to harass or bully anyone. I will not send inappropriate or embarrassing photos of my family or friends to others. In addition, I will not use my phone's camera to take inappropriate or embarrassing photos of others. I will never open, view or forward inappropriate content. I will not engage with anyone and then delete or hide it from my parents I will not share personal information such as name, address, phone#, school, age, etc. with anyone online. I understand that a cell phone is a privilege that I must continually earn by being responsible and trustworthy and using it responsibly as outlined in this agreement. My Cell Phone Agreement The following is an agreement between me and my parents for the cell phone they have provided to me for my use. I understand that having a cell phone is a privilege, and that if I fail to adhere to this agreement, my cell phone privileges may be revoked. Signed __________________________ Date __________________________ Cell Phone: Guidelines & Responsibilities GENERAL USAGE: Cell phones are not allowed in the bedroom when I are supposed to be sleeping. Cell phones are not allowed behind closed doors including in the bathroom. My parents pay more than $40.00/month for my phone. I will show them the appreciation for this generous privilege which can be revoked at anytime. If I'm asked to turn off / stop playing / get off the cell phone, I will do so within one minute with a respectful attitude. I understand that I am responsible for knowing where my phone is and for keeping it properly charged. I will be responsible for keeping it in good condition and will pay for any repairs or replacement as necessary. My chores will be done before I use / text / play on my phone. I will not be on my cell phone to the family dinner table. I will obey all school rules regarding cell phones. A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org #2. Protect your Devices Mobile Devices Device Protection is 4 Step Process: A.Limit Inappropriate Data from Cell Service B.Enable Restrictions on Devices C.Monitor Activities D.Control Access & Apps A ccess Controlled GASP A. Limit Cellular Data Content: Sprint, ATT, Verizon, T-Mobile – Allow you to turn off explicit content. Some providers allow more powerful Parental Controls and other service limitations.
www.StopthePorn.org B. Restrict your Devices Apple products, such as iPhones and iPods, have settings that allow you to control restrictions on your child’s device. These settings can only be changed with a 4-digit passcode. To set up these restrictions: Find the Settings icon and tap it, then tap General, then Restrictions Choose what to restrict, such as installing or deleting apps, iTunes, Safari, etc. Before installing apps - gain understanding of apps and that some may bypass internal iPhone controls (Chrome, YouTube app) Don’t allow deletion of apps that you want to see history on (Safari) Android, Window’s Phone & Kindles have restriction settings as well. A ccess Controlled GASP Mobile Devices #2. Protect your Devices
www.StopthePorn.org C. Monitor Your Devices: Teen Safe - monitoring service that allows parents of teens to remotely monitor an iPhone or Android smartphone as well as view Facebook and Instagram activity – $14.95/mo (unlimited tracking) Web Watcher - WebWatcher allows you to monitor multiple devices (such as a PC and an iPhone) from the same user interface so you get one unified view – $99.95/yr/device A ccess Controlled GASP Mobile Devices Monitoring can empower your teen to say NO! #2. Protect your Devices
www.StopthePorn.org D. Control Your Devices: Parent Control Apps to consider – Our Pact – Shuts down all non-Apple apps. http://www.ourpact.com/ – Free http://www.ourpact.com/ – Parent Kit/Curbi - gives parents monitoring abilities on their child’s mobile devices. Can set up profiles to shut down access to certain functions ~$4.99/mo – Ignorenomore – ability to remotely lock phone and force a call home http://www.ignorenomoreapp.com/ – Canary Teen Safety - cell phone blocker while driving http://www.thecanaryproject.comhttp://www.thecanaryproject.com A ccess Controlled GASP Mobile Devices #2. Protect your Devices
www.StopthePorn.org D. Controlling/Banning Apps? Apps to understand and what can be accessed through them – Facebook – Instagram – Snapchat – Ask.fm – Yik Yak – Twitter – Vine – Tumblr – Photoshare apps (Flickr, Picasa, etc) – Other new apps every day! A ccess Controlled GASP #2. Protect your Devices
www.StopthePorn.org Protecting your home Computers Modem Devices A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org #3 Protecting your Wireless Modem 1.Internet Providers (Comcast, ATT) offer NO filtering on content into your homes. 2.Any Cell Phone can access that content. 3.OpenDNS – Reconfigure DNS Settings A ccess Controlled GASP www.StopthePorn.com Petitioning Congress to require ISP’s to provide robust filtering defaulted “ON” Britain's Prime Minister Cameron implemented this in 2013.
www.StopthePorn.org #3 Protecting your Wireless Modem OpenDNS - Free Service Use OpenDNS to route all internet traffic through an open source (but powerful) web content filter. Not perfect, but it can filter many explicit / porn / gun / content sharing sites and much more. 1.Set up an account at www.OpenDNS.orgwww.OpenDNS.org 2.Change the Wireless / Cable modem DNS Settings to: 220.127.116.11 and 18.104.22.168 3. Configure/Tune OpenDNS to filter the appropriate amount of content. Change the DNS Servers on all Cell Phones Saved WiFi Connection too provide additional protection out side of the house! How to … A ccess Controlled GASP
www.StopthePorn.org S care Them GASP Drug awareness starts in Kindergarten But no one wants to discuss the dangers of porn at any age even when it’s more accessible than drugs.
www.StopthePorn.org Porn changes the Brain S care Them GASP Porn kills love and relationships Porn can lead to violence www.StopthePorn.com Full Teen Friendly Presentation can be found at:
www.StopthePorn.org How to Start the Discussion Do you have the Perfect Family? Prevents teens from opening up Break down the barrier of “perfect” Care enough to start P repare Them GASP Continue the discussion…
www.StopthePorn.org GASP Teach GASP Avoidance G G od is always watching A A vert your eyes S S tay pure P P orn destroys P repare Them GASP www.StopthePorn.com More on GASP in the teen presentation found at:
www.StopthePorn.org What if you catch them Don’t freak out! Continue the discussion Review GASP Remind them of the Consequences P repare Them GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Signs of a Problem Withdrawing from the family Quickly hiding the phone, screen or device when you enter the room Long periods of time in the bathroom P repare Them GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Break the Cycle BoredomSurfingBikinis3 clicksPorn Find another activity Go outside, read, etc. Stay on Safe Sites Resist the Temptation Decision Points Recognize the Pattern Just Don’t Click P repare Them GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Accountability Browsers – Many on the market that send reports to an accountability partner X3watch, Ranger Browser, Covenant Eyes, etc. Apps – Brain Buddy - App to determine your level of porn addition and a recovery program to reboot & repair the damage from it. Recovery P repare Them GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Focus on the Family (www.focusonthefamily.org)www.focusonthefamily.org – Pod casts, books, radio shows, marriage, parenting resources Family Life (http://www.familylife.com)http://www.familylife.com – Pod casts, books, radio shows, marriage, parenting resources, conferences CPYU - Center for Parent/Youth Understanding (www.cpyu.org)www.cpyu.org – Blog, resources, seminars Christian Resources P repare Yourselves GASP
www.StopthePorn.org Sources & Resources The Nature and Dynamics of Internet Pornography Exposure for Youth Psychologist Philip Zimbardo - The Demise of Guys - Why boys are struggling. Mind Armor – Staggering Statistics The great porn experiment | Gary Wilson Why I stopped watching porn | Ran Gavrieli Fight the New Drug The Impact of Pornography on Children & Youth Porn Proof Your Kids - Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids Porn Proof Your Kids Good Pictures, Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids Path to Purity / Abstinence - Resources by Laura Gallier P repare Yourselves GASP
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