Why students need it and counselors must use it! By Charlie Piper
Preview Why grief counseling? What are the stages of grief? Grief does NOT affect everyone! What type of atmosphere should be maintained? Technology is so impersonal; should I use it?
Why grief counseling? As Baker and Gerler (2004) state: “because they lack experience and their cognitive development is incomplete, children and adolescents often respond to the death of loved ones and contemporaries maladaptively and may manifest inappropriate responses in school” (p. 119).
Why grief counseling? So the other question is…will a student really be affected by a death? Statistically…
Sample Child Deaths By State, Age 1-14, 2005 Deaths per 100,000 From New York State Health Statistics, 2005 http://www.health.state.ny.us/nysdoh/vital_statistics/index.htm http://www.health.state.ny.us/nysdoh/vital_statistics/index.htm
10 Leading Causes of Death in New York, 2005 Deaths in 1,000’s From New York State Health Statistics, 2005 http://www.health.state.ny.us/nysdoh/vital_statistics/index.htm http://www.health.state.ny.us/nysdoh/vital_statistics/index.htm
What are the stages of Grief? According to Dr. Kubler-Ross (five/six stages): Denial (and isolation) Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance Hope
What are the stages of Grief? Denial (Isolation) Anger
What are the stages of Grief? Bargaining Depression Pleas Mood Swings Frustration
What are the stages of Grief? "It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on Earth and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it were the only one we had." ---Elisabeth Kubler-Ross "Optimism is a cheerful frame of mind that enables a tea kettle to sing though it's in hot water up to its nose." ---Unknown Acceptance Hope
Grief does NOT affect everyone! What about the students who have NOT lost loved ones…yet? Prepare lesson plans for all students Initiate preventive classroom opportunities Read stories about dealing with grief Let each student share how they feel Listen to songs
Grief does NOT affect everyone! Yes, but what about the ones affected? Utilize intervention counseling Group counseling Create memory books Discuss the stages of grief Be a role model!
What type of atmosphere should be maintained? Safe and open Truthful One that allows laughter One that allow rituals An understanding climate
What type of atmosphere should be maintained? Stay engaged in activities: Write letters to the deceased Discuss ways to help others Share information about funerals Draw pictures of happy times Remember a funny situation with a loved one
Technology is so impersonal; should I use it? The simple answer is… UHH, YEAH!!
Technology is so impersonal; should I use it? Technology encompasses many things Computer use Sites about other students dealing with grief http://kidscopewithgrief.com http://kidsaid.com http://amandathepanda.org Are these kids tech literate?
Technology is so impersonal; should I use it? Lastly, remember to use technology with personality Which reminds me of a story
Feelings Write down how you felt after hearing my story So what can you do about those feelings?
The Everyday Visuals - Dance and Holler on Vimeo.mht http://www.vimeo.com/2024437 What in that video replicates what was presented today?
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