3Families are Interconnected When things aregoing well…
4Families are Interconnected When things areout of balance…
5The Good Grief cycle Denial Shame Panic 1 Acceptance 3 Hope Shock 5 7 Source: Jeanne Mendoza, Ph.D., (1989) SEARCH: Exploring the Systems of Family Support.San Diego State University, Special Education Department. San Diego, CA.The Good Grief cycleFamily Consultant TrainingSection 3/Family Systems & EcologySep96-22.cdrDenialNot me!ShamePanic1What willAcceptance3peopleWhat willHopethink?happen to myThere will beShockchild? WhatPerhaps wedays filled with5will I do?will getanger and griefHandicap is7through this.and days when Idiagnosedwill feel strength.1011694Isolation82BargainingGuiltI must protectmy childAngerDepressionJust let me getIf only I'dfrom people.through this....not takenWhy me?I can't go on...then no morepills, etc.please!what's the use?
6Shock Occurs when the child is first diagnosed and may reoccur as new problems areidentified or as the child missesdevelopmental milestones.
7Depression The family may be unable to deal with people offering help or advice.
8Denial The family may not be ready to discuss the disability.They may blame others forthe problem.
9Guilt, Shame, Isolation The family may avoid friends, and service providers. They may want to protect andisolate their child.
10Panic The family may get on an endless round of looking for a cure for the disability.
11Anger The family may lash out at caregivers over minor things like lost clothing.
12Hope and Bargaining The family may be willing to work with providers to develop some workablealternatives for their child, but may onlybe able to deal with certain issues.
13Acceptance The family may be at a point where they understand that their will be good andbad days in how they feel about theirchild.
14Activity 4.3 Quiz on Grief Cycle With a partner, complete the quiz in yournotebook.
15Activity 4.4 View Videotape Refer to your discussion guide as you watch this tape.
16Coping Strategies Passive Appraisal Reframing Spiritual Support Social SupportProfessional Support
17Activity 4.5What are the local resources for families in your community?How can families locate them?