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2 © 2008 The Post Institute – 1 Healing for the Attachment Challenged, Angry and Defiant Child Bryan Post

3 © 2008 The Post Institute – 3 Pathways of Emotional Expression Attitudes Feelings Behaviors Anger Depression Trauma Triangle ©2009 B. Bryan Post

4 © 2008 The Post Institute – 3 Critical areas of the brain for love and attachment Orbitofrontal Cortex Pituitary Gland Amygdala Hippocampus Adrenal GlandsSpinal Cord Neural Circuitry (Fight, Flight, or Freeze) (Lower Limbic/Reptilian) (Short-term Memory) (Social/Emotional Control Center) Brain Stem Hypothalamus (Oxytocin Response)

5 © 2008 The Post Institute – Understanding Oxytocin Best available layperson reference on oxytocin is The Chemistry of Connection by Susan Kuchinskas (*special offer to follow later!) Oxytocin is known as the anti-stress hormone Swedish Scientist Kerstin Moberg, MD, author of The Oxytocin Factor, dubbed oxytocin the “calm and connection system” The Oxytocin Response is use-dependent It is essential to the development of effective self-regulation Tremendous oxytocin release occurs during orgasm which presents its own challenges to sexual acting out. Science is just now beginning to discover all of the implications for this hormone as it relates to human relationships 4

6 © 2008 The Post Institute – How to Trigger it… In The Chemistry of Connection Susan Kuchinskas offers a very simple checklist of activities for triggering oxytocin: Offer a sweet kiss Share a warm hug Cuddle Make Love Have an orgasm Sing in a choir Give someone a neck rub Hold a baby Stroke a dog or cat Perform a generous act Prayer Root for your team (Kuchinskas 2009) And More… Make eye contact Breathe Practice Mindfulness Listen without judgment Positive touch Proximity Play-Wrestle-Laugh-Dance Think loving thoughts Smile 5

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8 Behavior Emotions Stress LoveFear It is through the expression, processing, and understanding of the Fear that we calm the stress and diminish the behavior. Triggering Sensory Event

9 © 2008 The Post Institute – 8 Two important terms – Regulation & Dysregulation 8 The ability to experience and maintain stress within ones window of tolerance. Generally referred to as being calm, focused, or relaxed. This term is utilized by literally every scientific discipline. The experience of stress outside of ones window of tolerance. Generally referred to as being stressed out, or in a state of distress. It is believed that affect dysregulation is a fundamental mechanism involved in all psychiatric disorders (Taylor et al, 1997.)

10 © 2008 The Post Institute – 9 Trauma and Memory “If all we do is focus and become consumed with diminishing, reducing, changing, controlling, suppressing the behavior what we’re going to be doing is ignoring everything underneath of it.” Bryan Post

11 © 2008 The Post Institute – 10 Traumatic Events Common with Regulatory Difficulties Abuse Neglect Adoption and Foster Care Frequent Moves Chronic Pain Emotional Absence Parental Depression Needs Left Unmet

12 © 2008 The Post Institute – 11 The four levels of memory Cognitive Emotional Motor State

13 © 2008 The Post Institute – 12 State level of memory, cont. Your earliest memory to develop Associated with your personality traits Where you store your personality Highly unconscious Typically your childhood Cognitive EmotionalMotor State Trauma is Buried at the State Level, which directs all other responses!

14 © 2008 The Post Institute – 13 Techniques for addressing challenging behaviors in attachment challenged children “Any therapy or technique that is confrontational, aggressive, threatening blaming or fear based will ultimately not be effective for creating healing environments for attachment challenged Children.” Bryan Post

15 © 2008 The Post Institute – Principles of Family-Centered Regulatory Therapy Stress Impacts all members of the family. Parents establish the foundation of the family Treatment impacting a child is initiated within the family unit, beginning with the parents. The therapeutic environment is the primary catalyst to healing. Assessment incorporates generational family dynamic.

16 © 2008 The Post Institute – Principles of Family-Centered Regulatory Therapy cont. Diagnosis does not dictate treatment focus, outcome, or prognosis. The therapist’s “state” creates the foundation for trust and emotional security. Parental regulation is the single greatest factor in the maintenance and on-going regulation of children. Family behaviors and psychic dynamics are rooted in stress both past and present. Validating the emotional belief of the client is more important than establishing therapist’s belief.

17 © 2008 The Post Institute – Principles of Family-Centered Regulatory Therapy cont. The primary motive of healing is reflected in the ups and downs of behavior change but not determined by it. The Family-Centered Therapist serves as guide, support, secure base (Bowlby, 1969), and advocate. Examining and encountering Fear-based emotional states is both necessary and preferable. Focus on Integration over resolution

18 © 2008 The Post Institute – Principles of Family-Centered Regulatory Therapy cont. Families are innately equipped to create and perform their own healing rituals. The Family-Centered Regulatory therapist strives to be mindful of their own “family-based states” which may create impediments to to the families process.

19 © 2008 The Post Institute – 16 Reasons You Should Join the POST Inner Circle Today! The first 20 people to join Bryan Post’s Inner Circle today will receive the 16 Week A to Z Family Centered Blueprint Webinar Course ($997 value program created for parents and professionals) Course Includes: Introduction to Attachment and Beyond The Psychology of Regulation The Impact of Stress on Development and the Brain Understanding Trauma and Memory Diagnosis Medication Family Centered Regulatory Therapy part 1 and 2 Ethics of Touch in Psychotherapy Family Centered Regulatory Parenting part 1 and 2 Dealing with Challenging Behaviors Regulation in the Classroom The A to Z Review Everything Bryan Post from 10 years of research, clinical experience, and life’s journey Sign up for only $2.95 ; after the first 30 days monthly membership is $29.95 Cancel at any time. To Sign Up Complete the Yellow Form or Go to :

20 © 2008 The Post Institute – Exploring the Parenting Continuum Death Penalty Perfect Love LOVEFEAR  Time-In  Containment  Guidance  Understanding  Emotional Processing  Breathing  Patience  Affection  Discipline RESPONSIBILITYREACTIVITY  Time-Out  Isolation  Spanking  Consequences  Behavior Modification  Yelling  Physical Tactics  Medication rather than modification

21 © 2008 The Post Institute – 20 There are negative and positive feedback loops Negative Neurophysiologic Feedback Loop Teacher/ParentChild

22 © 2008 The Post Institute – Exploring the Hidden Communication Positive Neurophysiologic Feedback Loop Teacher/ParentChild A B C D E F G H B, D, F, HA, C, E, G

23 © 2008 The Post Institute – Common Behavior or Symptom of Dysregulation?

24 © 2008 The Post Institute – Common Behavior or Symptom of Dysregulation?

25 © 2008 The Post Institute – Common Behavior or Symptom of Dysregulation?

26 © 2008 The Post Institute – Common Behavior or Symptom of Dysregulation?

27 © 2008 The Post Institute – Common Behavior or Symptom of Dysregulation?

28 © 2008 The Post Institute – 27 – Final thoughts… “If you always do what you’ve always done, you always be where you’ve already been.” Bishop T.D. Jakes

29 © 2008 The Post Institute – 28 Finally let us love not in word or speech, but in truth and action “Focus on healing because healing allows you all the mistakes you need to make. So go out there and give it a shot. Expect to mess up, look at it and try to see the fear, try to see the stress, it’s there.” Bryan Post

30 © 2008 The Post Institute – 29 For more information please contact us at… Post Institute & Associates LLC 2819 Haden Martin Road Palmyra, VA Office: (434) Toll Free: (866) 848-POST Fax: (434)


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