At one, a child feels distress when another child falls or cries.
After one, infants become more aware that they are distinct from others and try to soothe another crying child.
Around two: Someone else’s feelings differ from their own Become sensitive to cues revealing what another child feels.
Late childhood, children can understand distress beyond the immediate situation.
Parental empathy forms a positive bond at birth between baby and parents (bonding) …
… which continues as the child grows older (attachment).
Attachment is a reciprocal relationship between parent and child.
Attunement is the process of being present and responsive to the child’s needs.
Empathic parents are: Attuned to the subtle and overt signals of children’s needs or wants. Respond in empathic ways that maintain that child’s dignity. Consider the child an equal in respect to the feelings
Interesting Facts: Gender differences in empathy:
Males have action oriented empathy: ability to observe others and situations and problem solve.
Females have emotional oriented empathy: being aware of the feelings of another.
Bavolek found females express significantly (P>.001) more empathic parenting beliefs than males.
1. Identify your Family Morals 2. Morals become Family Values 3. Establish a set of Family Rules 4. Teach children to care for plants, animals, and their belongings 5. Empathize the value of Cooperation 6. Build Quality Time In
7. Practice massage daily as a night time routine 8. Catch children behaving and use Praise for Doing 9. Send unconditional love messages and use Praise for Being 10. Have fun and laugh a lot
11.Develop the child’s sense of spirituality 12.Volunteer to help others including animals and the environment 13. Model and teach appropriate ways to express feelings 14. Treat your children with dignity 15. Tell “Power Stories”
16. Get your needs met 17. Help children get their needs met 18. Take time away from “doing” parenting 19. Have a family meal daily 20. Make “parenting” one of the most enjoyable experiences you and your family will ever have.