Presentation on theme: "Getting on and falling out"— Presentation transcript:
1 Getting on and falling out Identify opportunities and possible challenges in using the material across the schoolDiscuss ideas as to how progress and impact may be measured
2 Getting on and falling out key strands FriendshipWorking together in groupsAnger and its managementConflict and its management
3 Getting on and falling out themes Week 1: Working cooperatively to help a groupWeek 2: Being a really good friendWeek 3: Keeping calm and overcoming feelings of angerWeek 4: Solving a difficult problem with a friend
4 …words words words….angerargumentconflictfriendshiptoken
5 What does it mean? anger argument trouble, vexation, also, physical pain or smart of a sore, strong passion or emotion of displeasure or antagonism, excited by a real or supposed injury or insult to one's self or others, or by the intent to do such injury, to excite to anger, to enrage, to provokeargumentproof, evidence, a reason or reasons offered in proof, to induce belief, or convince the mind, reasoning expressed in words, as, an argument about, concerning, or regarding a proposition, for or in favour of it, or against it, the subject matter of a discourse, writing, or artistic representation, theme or topic, also, an abstract or summary, as of the contents of a book, chapter, poem
6 What does it mean? conflict friendship strike or dash together, to meet in violent collision, to collide, to contend, to engage in strife or opposition, to struggle, to be in opposition, to be contradictoryfriendshipattachment, to a person, or between persons, affection arising from mutual esteem and good will, friendliness, amity, good will. kindly aid, help, assistance, aptness to unite, conformity, affinity, harmony, correspondence
7 What does it mean? token pact something intended or supposed to represent or indicate another thing or an event, a sign, a symbol, something by which the friendship of another person is to be kept in mind, a memento, a souvenir, something given or shown as a symbol or guarantee of authority or right, a sign of authenticity, of power, good faithpactan agreement, a league, a compact, a covenant
8 “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” What do you think?
9 What is friendship?Real friendship lasts through good times and bad times.Friendship is an in-depth relationship.Friendship is comfortable and relaxed.Friendship requires meeting the needs of both friends.
10 Important / not important What would a friendship ‘quality mark’ look like?
11 “The best way to destroy an enemy is to make him a friend.” Abraham Lincoln
12 Working together - checklist Which skills on the checklist are particularly important for your children to develop?How could you use this tool in your classroom / school?What changes would you make to ensure that this checklist was useful?
13 Activity think of a child … parent … Fireworksmatch – the triggerfuse – the build up (can vary in length)firework – packed with dynamiteActivity think of a child … parent …What appears to be their trigger?What often causes the build up?Is there anyone thing that causes the explosion?
14 Firework display It is hard to think sensibly or reasonably It is hard to see someone else’s point of viewIt is hard to understand what people are saying (you may not even hear them)It is hard to consider the consequences of what you doQ: Do you have the water standing by? Have you equipped them with calming down strategies?
15 “Hotting up …. Cooling down” ActivityIn pairs think of as many ways as you can to make conflict worse – in the playground or in the staffroom…Now think of ways you could reduce conflict or respond to the suggestions you made in the previous activity
16 Ready… Steady… Ready Steady Are you ready to think together? How are you feeling and why?Are you calm?Steadytake it in turns to talk it throughlisten without interruptingsay what has happened, how you feel and whysay what you would like to happenthink of all the different things you could do to help you both feel OKagree something that you both feel OK about
17 Go! try out your idea and replay in slow motion think about how you did itcheck if things are OKWhat went well? What would you change next time? What did you learn?
18 Staffroom activity – groups of 4 number the participants from 2 to 5 (or whatever the number in the group, leave 1 and the highest number on the die)participants should take it in turns to throw a diethe person rolling the die gives a compliment to the person with the same number to the one the die lands onif the die lands on number 6 (highest number), everyone in the group pays the ‘roller’ a complimentthe participant receiving the compliment should smile and say ‘thank you’
19 challenge if you throw your number: say something good about your self if you throw 1: say something good about everyone elseif you throw 6: everyone says something good about you
20 Activity Arranged in a circle & pass the moose: Red cooperationActivity Arranged in a circle & pass the moose:I like… ‘x’ likes …I sometimes feel lonely when…When I play with a friend I feel …
21 Song time… If you're friendly and you know it, clap your hands. If you're friendly and you know it, and you really want to show it,If you're friendly and you know it, clap your hands!
22 Red Squeak & SnappyCould be adapted for older pupils – view points …If Snappy was re-telling the story what would s/he say?If Squeak was re-telling the story what would s/he say?
23 Red What do you think are the most important parts of being a friend? How can we make sure our cross or angry feelings don’t hurt other people?
24 "The only way to have a friend is to be one." But no one can form a friendship until he/she realises that the basis of being friends is meeting the needs of the other person."The only way to have a friend is to be one."Ralph Waldo Emerson
25 Blue What am I like? absolutely me ………………….definitely not me I eat anythingI’m untidyI like PEI like drawingI like cooking
26 "A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked."Bernard Meltzer
29 Blue Different points of view ActivityIn 3sRole play card: blueWhat are we like as listeners?
30 SilverJoint drawingEach person with a different colour pen … if the pen touches someone else’s pen, to say hello to that personStoryRecognise how someone is feeling (feeling fans)
31 Getting on and falling out Theme overview ActivityTake a strand across each age group (red, blue, yellow or green): identify what you would observe to show that children have demonstrated this learning.Consider where opportunities may be built into the curriculum and across the whole school day to enable children to demonstrate their learning.
32 Getting on and falling out Theme overview Feedback Q: Which areas are you strongest in promoting opportunities for development, which areas are less well developed?
33 Bean bags Activity Circle time When I help other people I feel ... Walk around the room – beanbag on headCircle timeWhen I help other people I feel ...When other people help me I feel ...My friends are special to me because ...I think it is unfair when ...I would like ...
34 Yellow cooperation Activity Jigsaws Q: What makes you angry? Q: What is a win-win situation?Q: Is there a difference between consensus and compromise?
37 Silver KS2 What is happening in the playground? Is it wrong to fall out with other people?Do you have to be everyone’s friend?How do you feel when you fall out with a best friend?Important / not important
39 The tyres on my bike are flat, The sky is grouchy gray. At least it sure feels like thatSince Hanna moved away.Chocolate ice cream tastes like prunes,December’s come to stay.They’ve taken back the Mays and JunesFlowers smell like halibut.Velvet feels like hay.Every handsome dog’s a muttNothing’s fun to laugh about.Nothing’s fun to play.They call me, but I won’t come outJudith Viorst
40 Green feeling linesActivityDraw a line to represent the feeling you have been givenIt must start on one side of the paper and finish on the otherIt can be any colour, thickness or shapeQ: What are the similarities and differences between the lines?
41 Green ‘levels of friendship’ / circle of friends Q: What are the features of the friends at each different level Why do some children struggle with the different levels?also a family activity
42 Green reflection & enquiry Why do most people have friends? What would the world be like if there were no friends?Why are there leaders?What would the world be like if there were no leaders?If lots of people think something, does it mean they are right?Is it better to follow or to lead?How do we decide what to do?
43 Self assessmentladderwashing lineworking together wall
44 Family SEALScenariosWhat advice would you give?
45 Friends smile at you. They like your face. They want to be with you Any old place. Friends have fun with you. Friends share They’re glad when you’re happy--- When you’re sad, they care. If you’re a friend Then you care, too. That’s why your friends Are glad you’re you!!!