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Bullying is NOT an Option Hillcrest Middle School
I shall remember forever and will never forget Monday: my money was taken. Tuesday: names called. Wednesday: my uniform torn. Thursday: my body pouring with blood. Friday: it’s ended. Saturday: freedom A poem...
It was the last entry in Vijay’s diary. Vijay was 13 years old when he was found hanging from the banister rail at home one Sunday. He committed suicide as a result of ongoing bullying. Vijay is not the first and only child to commit suicide because of bullying.
There are many students all around the world who could be listed here. They took their lives because they experienced one of the following: Name calling, put downs, teasing Threats, beatings Relentless tauntings Constant ridicule Shunning, excluding, rumours, gossip Intimidating, tormenting
In order to have friends… You must first be a friend
There are basic principles involved in a healthy friendship
You control only 50% of the relationship You can ask your friend to do something – but never make them do what they do not want to do. True friends give their friends choices and not ultimatums.
You can influence 100% of the friendship You can choose to be polite, respectful, share, compliment and encourage others. Your friends will likely want to spend time with you when you treat them well.
If you yell, use putdowns, embarrass or intimidate others, they are less likely to want to spend time with you.
When someone says “no”, respect their decision. Honour their request and leave them alone.
Remember You always have a choice about friendships Everyone wants to feel that they belong Be thankful for your friends
Ten ways to keep your friends Show them kindness and respect Stick up for them Be supportive when your friends need help or advice Tell the truth If you hurt someone, say you are sorry
If a friend hurts you and apologizes, accept the apology If you make a promise, keep it Put an effort into your friendships otherwise your friends might feel neglected Don’t try to change your friends. Accept them the way they are Treat your friends the way that you would like to be treated
Empathy the ability to feel another person’s concerns True friends know how to empathize with one another
People with Empathy say….. You look upset. I understand how you feel. I am sad that you are hurt. I am happy for you.
People with Empathy …. Notice when people are hurting, and feel for them. Walk up and console them. Comfort others when they are hurt or upset. Feel happy for others when they win or succeed at something.
Taunting Involves an imbalance of power Is intended to harm and be hurtful Involves humiliating, cruel, demeaning comments or jokes Includes laughing at the person and not with them Is meant to diminish a person’s self-worth Induces fear of further taunting Continues even when the person is upset
When a bully says they were teasing… They were really taunting. They meant to be cruel, to demean the other person, as well as intimidate, embarrass, humiliate and shame the person.