Ethics in pastoral care is all about what is best for the care receiver.
Speaking of ethics raises our consciousness about issues, values and commitments Essential to recognize the common worth and dignity of all Ethics violations damage the whole congregation A care receiver is vulnerable Dual Relationships
Threatening to hurt of kill himself or herself Looking for ways to kill himself or herself: seeking access to pills, weapons, or other means Talking or writing about death, dying, or suicide Hopelessness Warning Signs
Rage, anger, seeking revenge Feeling trapped, like there’s no way out Increasing alcohol or drug use Withdrawing from friends, family or society Deep depression A recently experienced loss
Anxiety, agitation, unable to sleep or sleeping all the time No reason for living, no sense of purpose in life. Making final arrangements and giving away special possessions Sudden loss of interest in something that was once quite important
What to do if you suspect someone is suicidal: Ask directly about suicidal thoughts. Don’t avoid using the word “suicide.” Ask the question without expressing a negative judgment.
Determining Seriousness of Intent Does the person have the means to die by suicide? Has preparation been made? Is the method highly lethal? Is the plan a near term plan? Is intervention possible? Has the person made a suicide attempt in the past?
Boundaries: personal and programmatic Frame time prior to and after time with someone Have another LPA or minister to debrief with Strong spiritual practice Know when to say “no” Know thyself and thy triggers