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Presenter: Dr. Midge Mougey Jefferson Elementary North Platte, Nebraska 69101
How does it look? How does it sound? How does it make you feel?
Bullying is: aggressive behavior that is intentional and involves an imbalance of power or strength.
Bullying is: **aggressive behavior that is **intentional and involves an (intends to intimidate, hurt, manipulate) **imbalance of power/strength. (Can be social status…can be real or imagined)
Not everything is bullying! The three criteria must be in place: **aggressive **intentional **imbalance of power
Some behavior is inappropriate…but not bullying. Some behavior is mean…but not bullying. Some behavior is nasty…but not bullying.
Facts about bullying: **Most common form of violence in our society **Bullying is often a factor in school related deaths. **Direct physical bullying increases in elementary school, peaks in middle school and declines in high school.
More facts: ** Verbal abuse remains constant across age and grade levels. **15% of all school absenteeism at school is directly related to fear of attack or intimidation. **Mean behavior among kids is a universal problem.
Focus class time on addressing prevention efforts and in training whole groups to ACT against bullies. EMPOWER the MAJORITY!!
Teach children: 1.Use Authority…Adults can help! Report all bullying situations 2.Use Distraction…If you see a bullying situation, try distracting either the bully or the victim…ask them to get involved in another activity with you. 3.Vote with your legs…Walk away/Don’t participate…don’t be part of the audience. If you are not in a position to help, don’t watch. Walk away and get help. (Bully B’Ware Productions)…www.bullybeware.com
Bullying is an evolutionary reality. We used to say “Boys will be boys”, or “Oh, that’s just kids being kids!” If you don’t make the distinction…the LAW might.
ARE YOU a victim of adult bullying? http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/10/b usiness/10women.html?_r=1&em
Horizontal violence : Female-to-female bullying, especially of successful women, which is often a hidden barrier to women’s success.
What adult bullying IS NOT: 1.Receiving a direction or mandate from a boss is NOT BULLYING 2.Having expectations communicated by the boss is NOT BULLYING 3.Having to complete tasks in order to receive a paycheck is NOT BULLYING
I thought I was the only one. I definitely thought I was the only one because no one ever talked about [horizontal violence] to me. I thought it was just me. I thought I was just bad. This is an incredibly important piece of work. [Women] need to know! Women need to know that they’re not helping.Peg
“We’re just like a bucket of crabs. When one of us gets ahead, the rest of us grab hold and try to pull [her] back into the bucket.” Robin
Publicly questioning her authority Noncompliance Gossip Sabotage Talking behind her back Eye rolling Poor eye contact Snubbing or overt exclusion
Name-calling Belittling Withholding information Taking credit or stealing ideas Sarcasm Pouting Rumors about men Keeping a ‘notebook’ on the administrator
Horizontal violence is a reality for women. Female leaders are victimized by horizontal violence. Horizontal violence can be devastating in the development process of female leaders. Power is a motivating factor.
Jealousy by subordinates toward female superiors is a motivating factor for horizontal violence. Socialization of women contributes to the perpetuation of horizontal violence. A female leader’s own socialization patterns may affect her leadership style …thus affecting reality of horizontal violence. There are specific strategies women can employ to minimize the effects of horizontal violence.
There are varying degrees of success with any specific strategy. A female leader’s competence and confidence can be an indicator of future success with female subordinates. Horizontal violence continues to be “women’s dirty little secret” in that there continues to be a high degree of secretiveness among victims of horizontal violence and a reluctance to talk about experiences of horizontal violence.
In summary: There are all kinds of bullying…and there are only four “jobs”: Bully Victim Audience Person of action Which Position Will You Fill?