Presentation on theme: "Dysfunctional Families"— Presentation transcript:
1Dysfunctional Families Most dysfunctional families are a direct outgrowth of TROUBLED PARENTS.
2Troubled parents may: Have addictions Use physical violence May be unable to provideExploit children (use them as possessions, use strong authoritarian control)
3Regardless of the parents’ intentions, children may suffer: DepressionLive troubled livesBy withdrawing from societyHave low self-esteem
4Abusive Parents1. Physical- satisfying their emotions by taking their anger out on their children, by not correcting their children, by using little effort to control their children.
52. Sexual –Contact between an adult and child that must be kept secret.
63. Verbal – Frequent belittling or criticism, using profanity toward their children, verbally abusing them instead of their actions.
7Roles in a Dysfunctional Family Addict-a family member that is under the influence of alcohol, drugs, porn, work, etc. to the point of disrupting the family.Enabler-a family member that allows the addict to continue their addiction; excuses, ignoring the problem, denial, etc.
8Family Hero Child: “9 going on 40” Takes over parent role, early ResponsibleSelf-sufficientLooks good on the outsideGood student, good in sports, prom queen, etcMake parents look good
9Family Hero Adult: Controlling, judgmental, compulsive, driven “Success” on the outsideCut off from their inner emotional lifeHard time admitting that there is anything that needs to be healed.
10Scapegoat (Child) Family feels ashamed of Acts out the tension the family ignoresProvides distractions from real issuesHas trouble in schoolBecomes pregnant or addicted as teenagers
11Scapegoat (Adult) Become cynical and distrustful Have a lot of self-hatredCan be very self-destructiveUsually first to get help
12Lost Child (Child) Attempts to be invisible Daydream, fantasize, read a lot, watch TVDeal with reality by withdrawing from itDeny they have feelingsDon’t bother getting upset
13Lost Child (Adult) Unable to feel Low self-esteem Terrified of intimacyRelationship phobiaWithdrawn, shy, socially isolated
14Mascot/Family Clown (Child) Takes responsibility for emotional well-being of family“Social” director/clownDiverts family’s attention from the pain and anger
15Mascot/Family Clown (Adult) Valued for kind heart, generosity, ability to listen to othersWhole self is centered on othersDon’t get their own needs metCannot receive love only give itWork in “helping” professions to overcomeHave low self worth and guilt and to overcome, work hard to be nice