3 AGENDA 0900-0930 Health and Wellness Briefings Finance/Medical BriefingsIn-Process (Medical, Finance)
4 BRIEFINGS Chaplain Safety Family Advocacy Program/Life Skills Family Support CenterForce Health ManagementFinance
5 Mission Specific, Redeployment Brief Chaplain, Captain, Christian Biscotti1 FW/HCClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
6 INTRODUCTION 3 illustrations, integration of meaning, and application. My story, Your story, Our story…A. Worldview, Faith, Belief, & IdealismPurpose & Hope from Tragedy & ChaosClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
7 THE HUMAN SHAPE Spirituality Heart (passion, call) Abilities PersonalityExperiencesWhat is your SHAPE? Experiences? How has this deployment changed you, the way you see the world, and maybe your beliefs?Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
8 MY STORY Abbeygale and Bailey A. Worldview, PTSD, deeper faith Klaus KujawaA. 17 July, years, flashbacks…B. Today- a deeper faith, a deeper love.16th Engineer Battalion, BosniaA. Mass grave uncoveredClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
9 YOUR STORY 5 senses: see, smell, touch, taste, hear. 1. What did you see?2. What did you smell?3. What did you touch?4. What did you taste?5. What did you hear?Iraq is now a part of your experience and who you are!Iraq may affect you for the next few months, years or decades!Where do we go from here?Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
10 OUR STORY You are not alone. We need to talk about it. Grief is a process…Life is a journey, run like a marathon, not a 100 yard dash.Sacramento airport, baggage sculpture and YOU!Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
11 APPLICATION Caring for one another. Telling your story. Listening to someone else’s story.Worldview, belief, and faith.Grand Canyon clip.Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
12 QUESTIONSClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
13 GROUND SAFETY WELCOME HOME 1 FW/SEG Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
14 GROUND SAFETY OVERVIEW SURVIVED THE DEPLOYMENT…NOW WHAT? APPLYING RISK MANAGEMENT ON & OFF DUTYLOCAL TRAFFIC CONDITIONSCHOOSING TO BE SAFEGROUND SAFETY1 FW/SEGClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
15 YOU’VE SURVIVED THE DEPLOYMENT NOW STAY ALIVE HERE!- DON’T DRINK AND DRIVE- DON’T DRIVE FATIGUED- USE SPORTS AND RECREATION SAFETY- LINE OF DUTY DETERMINATIONMOTORCYCLE REQUIREMENTSGROUND SAFETY1 FW/SEGClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
16 GROUND SAFETY APPLY RISK MANAGEMENT 3 RULES TO REMEMBER…. - PLAN AHEAD - KNOW THE RISK INVOLVED- CHOOSE TO BE SAFE!- MYRTLE BEACH EXAMPLEGROUND SAFETY1 FW/SEGClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
17 LOCAL TRAFFIC CONDITIONS ON BASE- WEST GATE CONSTRUCTIONOFF BASE- SAME BIG MESS AT MERCURY & I-64- SCHOOL BUS AWARENESS (ON & OFF)GROUND SAFETY1 FW/SEGClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
18 GROUND SAFETY CHOOSING TO BE SAFE LAFB FORM 29B (MANDATORY) - USED FOR MEMBERS UNDER AGE 26- LET YOUR LAST DECISION BE TO CHOOSE TO BE SAFE!GROUND SAFETY1 FW/SEGClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
19 GROUND SAFETY SUMMARY SURVIVE HERE! APPLY RISK MANAGEMENT LOCAL TRAFFIC CONDITIONSIT’S YOUR CHOICE TO BE SAFE1 FW/SEGGROUND SAFETY1 FW/SEGClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
20 Family Advocacy Program Life Skills Support Center AndLife Skills Support Center
21 FAMILY ADVOCACY PROGRAM Part of MDGProvide counseling for AD families to prevent and treat family violenceNo administrative or legal actionClipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
22 REINTEGRATION TIPS Apologizing Normalcy of stress Listen You both changedNew balanceInterestsPace yourselvesFinancesFeeling unwantedApologizingSTRESS - Recognize that stress is common.LISTEN - Everyone has a story to tell about what the time apart was like for them. Listen to each others’ stories.CHANGES - Recognize that your experiences have changed you both more than you realized.NEW BALANCE - Recognize a shift in roles/responsibilities has occurred. Slowly negotiate a new balance.INTERESTS - Build common interests again, go on dates.PACE - Pace yourselves, the many different emotions you are experiencing can be exhausting.FINANCES - A new system for handling finances developed while apart, slowly renegotiate how money will be handled.UNWANTED - Both spouses may feel unneeded or unwanted.-Active duty member: The family developed a routine in your absence and spouses are frequently very proud of the many responsibilities they assumed during the deployment. Contributions you made to the family are now being made by someone else and you may feel like they don’t need you-they do.-Spouse: The active duty member may have spent a great deal of time alone or with co-workers. When they are suddenly thrust back into a family the active duty member may withdraw for privacy in a way they didn’t prior to the deployment-don’t take this a rejection, they just need space until they get used to the system.Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
23 REINTEGRATION TIPS Readjustment Period Previous problems Patience RespectSchedulesTime togetherFutureChildrenGRIEFActive duty member - As strange as it sounds, you may miss the deployment and its camaraderie, significant responsibilities, predictable routine, focus on the mission without distractions, and the foreignness of the deployment site.Spouse - Your spouse may miss the undisputed control over the household and kids, and the ability to focus on his/her own personal growth.OLD PROBLEMS - Realize problems that were there before you deployed may still be there.PATIENCE - Practice flexibility and patience.RESPECT - Communicate respect.SCHEDULES - Don’t try to pack too much in. The active duty member may feel overwhelmed by the every day noise and confusion of home life.TIME TOGETHER - Make time for one another. Be aware that interruptions by family and friends will reduce the amount of time you have together.FUTURE – Together plan for your combined future in military. Your worldviews may have changed. Previous priorities may seem much less important now.CHILDREN - Expect changes in your children. They may have residual feelings of anger/abandonment about your absence. Younger children may be shy and reluctant to hug you. Teenagers may act like they don’t care-they do, reach out to them. Children frequently have a sense of loyalty to the parent left behind, if you criticize that parent the kids may feel compelled to take their side and defend them. They may test the limits with you-it does not mean they are out of control or dislike you. Take it slow in re-building relationships with them. Make time for each individual child. Focus on things your child did well in your absence and limit criticism.Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
24 FAST Couples counseling for those who may be at-risk Voluntary Short termNo documentation in OPRCommunity referralDeployments: considered a risk factor for family violence
25 NEW PARENT SUPPORT PROGRAM Eligibility: Pregnancy - age 3 years oldVoluntaryHome VisitationChild Development InfoWelcome BagClassesVideo, books, tapes, CDs
26 Combat Stress Management LIFE SKILLS SUPPORT CENTERCombat Stress Management
27 OVERVIEW Definition of Stress Definition of Combat Stress Signs of Stress/Combat StressPrevention
28 DEFINITION OF STRESSA state of disequilibrium that occurs when there is a disharmony between demands occurring within an individual’s internal or external environment and his or her ability to cope with these demands
29 DEFINITION OF COMBAT STRESS Combination of physiological and psychological reactions manifested by a variety of symptoms during or immediately following combat
30 COMBAT STRESS Very common for people returning from deployments May have thoughts or dreams about the eventsMay experience difficulty sleeping, eating, or concentratingWitnessed or experienced an event that involved actual or possible death or serious injury, with a response that involves fear, helplessness, or horror*Sense of numbing, detachment, or lack of emotional response*reduction in awareness of surroundings (e.g. being in a daze)*Inability to recall certain parts of the event*derealization*depersonalizationExperience the traumatic events in one of the following ways: recurrent images, thoughts, dreams, illusions, flashback episodes, or a sense of reliving the experience; or distress on exposure of reminders to incidentMarked avoidance of stimuli that arouse recollections of the trauma (thoughts, feelings, conservations, activities, people, places)Marked symptoms of anxiety or increased arousal (difficulty sleeping, irritability, poor concentration, hypervigilance, exaggerated startle response, motor restlessness)Causes distress in various aspects of person’s life (work, family)Clipart from A Bit Better Corporation. No Federal Endorsement intended.
31 PREVENTION Maintain Exercise Program Practice Relaxation Techniques Sleep ScheduleEat HealthyPlan for Recreation ActivitiesLimit Alcohol Use (Drink Responsibly)Utilize Support System (Family, Friends, Unit)…even when you don’t want to
32 CONTACT INFORMATIONLife Skills Support Center and Family Advocacy:/2427After Hrs (via UCC):Located in Bldg 74 (Aerospace Medicine Bldg)
34 PERSONAL & FAMILY READINESS ACHIEVING MISSION READINESS …THROUGH PERSONAL AND FAMILY READINESS
35 EFFECTIVE REUNIONS Overview What is an effective reunion? What is the best time to address reunion?What can we do to help the process?What are some points of emphasis?
36 EFFECTIVE REUNIONS What is an effective reunion? The process of reintegrating the service member and family back into a stable and “normal” period of one’s life.Notice that a reunion is a PROCESS … not a specific act !! Sure reunion consists of a specific act but it is much more in-depth than that.Why is this important?- How well the reunion goes can often result in how well themember readjusts back into a valuable member of the AirForce.Why is reunion such a tough phase of the deployment cycle?- Lots of reasons which will be discussed later but one of thebig reasons is that it is probably the most overlooked.The Bottom Line ….- Family separation is a way of life for military families. Beingable to successfully conduct missions is paramount. That’swhy we’re here! It always ties back into READINESS !!
37 EFFECTIVE REUNIONS Reunions effect people ... Military Member Spouses ChildrenSingle AirmenCo-workersBrief overview of the different players.
38 MILITARY MEMBER & REUNION Possible thoughts and feelings ...Sense of reliefProud of accomplishmentHow spouse may have changedHow will the children reactFinancial worriesLoss of importance to the familyLoss of freedomWork reunionPlus many more!Sometimes member underestimates the effects of change. Often, the member believes things will be exactly the same as before they left.
39 SPOUSES & REUNION Possible thoughts and feelings … Relieved! Proud of accomplishmentHow they are perceived by returning spouseLoss of freedomHow will children reactStability of relationshipPossible resentmentPlus many more !Lots of pressure …They take over the family leader role without help from the spouse.Single Parent, Money Manager, House custodian, etc.
40 Remember kids are still developing ! CHILDREN & REUNIONPossible thoughts and feelings ...Happy!Possibly resentfulWonder if Dad/Mom will leave againClingingWill want to “talk your ear off”Worry about how things will changeRemember kids are still developing !This reunion process with kids can be greatly enhanced by talking with them throughout the deployment cycle.Often thought that kids just “roll with the punches”
41 SINGLE AIRMEN & REUNION Possible thoughts and feelings …Proud of accomplishmentWanting to reestablish living situationFinancial ConcernsSocial Life / Significant otherWork ReunionChanges in friendsOften overlooked !Married folks come home to their families …Single folks come home to their dorm room …BIG DIFFERENCE !!!
42 Possible thoughts and feelings … CO-WORKERS & REUNIONSPossible thoughts and feelings …Happy … friend returnsRelieved due to more helpPossibly resentfulFeel under appreciatedChange in work rolesPersonnel changesBe aware of these !People who remained behind felt a little left out of the glory. Long hours to make up for manning shortages contributed to stress.
43 Communication and Patience are the Key ! EFFECTIVE REUNIONSSome things to consider …Be Realistic !Show appreciationRespect changesAllow for couple / children timeReestablishing intimacyAvoid the “Who had it worse” gameCommunication and Patience are the Key !Field of Lillies AnalogyLawn Mowing StoryCheckbook SquabbleEveryone goes through the separation in their own wayWho had it worse … always good for an argument!