Presentation on theme: "Prevention and Partnerships… How to Play Well With Others Presented by: Jill Nugin, EdM Nathaniel Nugin, EdM Army Community Service Fort Carson, CO 12."— Presentation transcript:
Prevention and Partnerships… How to Play Well With Others Presented by: Jill Nugin, EdM Nathaniel Nugin, EdM Army Community Service Fort Carson, CO 12 August 2009
Presentation Objectives Review regulatory prevention program requirements Tailoring programs to specific populations Prevention Partnerships Adapting to our changing mission What are we doing? What is working?
Regulatory “Requirements” IAW AR 608-18 Ch3 Sec 1 there are various training requirements that the FAPM is required to coordinate. ACS FAP staff will provide primary and secondary prevention programs and MTF staff is responsible for tertiary prevention programs. They include: Community Education Safety Education Commander Education Spouse Abuse Prevention Troop Education Victim Advocacy Services Education for Professionals Family Life Education Parent Education and Support
To Stay or Not to Stay in Our “Lane”???? When thinking about “Domestic Violence” it is important to consider all of those factors that influence relationships, between couples and parents and children. Don’t get stuck in a narrow lane. It is important for the families we serve that we see a broad view of prevention.
Primary Prevention Programs Stress Management Family Wellness PREP Marriage Enrichment New Parent Support Programs Nurturing Parenting Programs Financial Strategy Seminars Strengthening Step Families Infant Massage Boot Camp for New Dads
Secondary Prevention Programs Teen Mom Support Group Anger Management Single Parent Support New Mom Support Group EFMP diagnosis specific Group Waiting Families Group
Tertiary Prevention These are programs and services that are available through the MTF, specifically through Family Advocacy Social Work Service. This will include assessment, intervention and treatment programs and are put in place after an allegation has been made.
Targeting programs to meet Installation needs SWS Data IPT trends Risk Reduction stats Deployment Cycle Support Leader feedback MP/civilian police reports Customer requests Needs assessments Others???? There are many sources that help us with identifying specific populations so that we can target our prevention efforts.
Targeting Efforts Often you will be able to access historical or even anecdotal data about your installation that will lead you to the need for certain programs. Trends after redeployment (increase in divorces) Newly arrived units Training densities (JRTC, NTC) Multiple deployment casualties/injuries Wounded Warrior surges (high risk Soldiers)
Targeted Approach Examples Divorce: developed at returning unit request as they identified this as an issue. Communicating with Children: Required per the DCS, adapted for installation. Building Resiliency: Installation request, initially for female Soldiers, expanded for Rear Detachment Commanders and Family Readiness Group Leaders.
Child, Youth & School Services Fort Carson, Co. Communicating with Children “Keeping the Child in mind”
Chief, Social Work Services Evans Army Community Hospital
Building Resiliency Building Resiliency involves two things simultaneously, in a stressful situation…. Self Soothing Self Confronting
Female Soldier Resiliency Workshop Anyone entering Ft. Carson through the B Street Gate drives past signs bearing the Warrior Ethos. None of them differentiates between men and women. This workshop is not intended to differentiate, but to highlight the importance of resiliency. Why females Soldiers? While all Soldiers share many things, there are ideals, beliefs, values, needs and experiences that are unique to women as there are some that are unique to men. Frank and open discussion of some subjects has been shown to be difficult if not impossible in mixed groups. This is part of the rationale behind holding these workshops for specific segments of the Ft. Carson family. The first was held this past June for FRG Leaders. Plans are underway for Rear Detachment personnel. Our hope is that this event provides you a much deserved respite from what is certainly one of the most important professions in our world. Please use this opportunity not only to learn, but to teach, to share, to grow. Army Community Service29 Sept 08
Female Soldier Resiliency Resiliency Workshop for Female Soldiers 30 September 2008 0900-0910Introduction by Garrison Commander 0910- 0915CSM Kilpatrick, Garrison CSM 0915-0920Pat Randle, Army Community Service Director 0920-0930Melissa Nugin “ Poetry Reading ” 0930-0940Nathaniel Nugin, Administrative Tasks/Logistics 0940-1105Kirsten Holmstedt, Guest Speaker 1105-1130Book Signing 1130-1230Lunch; Chaplain Roberts 1230-1400Breakout Sessions, 2-40 minute sessions * Parenting, Rita Wiley; Carriage House (50) 1230-1310* Finances, Fred Lewis; Cripple Creek (30) 1315-1355* Relationships, Battle Buddies, Jill & Nate Nugin; Pavilion (50) * Single Soldiers, TerriAnn Naughton; Broadmoor Room (20) * Wounded Warriors, Latoya Lucas; 3rd Floor Board Room (20) * Panel- Sexual Assault/Sexual Harassment; 2nd Floor Board Room (20) 1400-1430Balance & Harmony, Wellness Center, Pavilion 1430-1600Pampering Session/Relaxation Stations * Chair Massage; Pavilion 1430-1510* Women at the Well; Carriage House 1515-1555* Aromatherapy; Pavilion *Breathing Techniques/Muscle Relaxation; Cripple Creek 1600-1615Closing; Chaplain Roberts & Evaluations; ACS, Pavilion
Prevention Programs and Partnering Partnering and Collaboration are crucial when developing prevention programs for several reasons: Manpower: Most FAP’s are not staffed sufficiently to be able to do everything that is required. Expertise: Most installations have a variety of folks who have expertise in areas the FAP may not. Relationship Building: Working with other agencies builds positive relationships that benefit in other areas. Other reasons??
Partnering Possibilities Installation Chaplains Military Family Life Consultants MTF/Social Work Child and Youth Service/School Liaison Community Assistance Centers Local Child Welfare Community Vet Center Victim Advocates Unit Prevention Leaders SRC Staff Local Law Enforcement/MP ASAP Others??
Good Partnership Fits Spouse Abuse Prevention/Marriage Enrichment: Chaplains, MFLC, SWS Child Abuse Prevention: CYSS staff, Chaplains, CYSS Consultants, Local Child Welfare Family Life Education: MFLC, SRC staff, VA Center, Financial Readiness Staff Others??
Adapting to a Changing Mission The changing mission of the military has significant impact on the way Family Advocacy Program provide Prevention Programs
Changes Deployment and mandated reintegration programs Younger families, more are new to the military as turnover increases Wounded Warrior families Families stay at installations longer (life cycle) Increases across the board in high risk behaviors Media scrutiny, focus on negative behaviors i.e.., DUI, Suicide, Homicide
Prevention Program Possibilities Marriage Enrichment-5 Love Languages CARE Team Training Boot Camp for New Dads & Nurturing Fathers Kid’s Chat Reintegration Training
Reunion Challenges for Military Marriages Reunion Expectations Negotiating Change Communication Techniques Handling Conflict Strengthening Commitment
Reunion Expectations What kind of adjustments are necessary when you first return from deployment? What kind of adjustments are necessary when you first return from deployment? Any “standard” amount of time it takes for things to get back to normal? Any “standard” amount of time it takes for things to get back to normal? Do things always get back to normal? Do things always get back to normal? What advice would you have for a couple experiencing their first reunion? What advice would you have for a couple experiencing their first reunion?
How Do You Communicate? What’s your style? What’s your style? Your partner’s? Your partner’s? Withdraw or Pursue? Withdraw or Pursue? When do you do it the best? When do you do it the best? When is it hardest? When is it hardest? What speaks louder, verbal or non- verbal? What speaks louder, verbal or non- verbal?
Fun and Friendship How did you meet your spouse? How did you meet your spouse? Fun things you did? Fun things you did? Friends first? Friends first? Last time you had fun together. Last time you had fun together. OK to have some interests that are different? Examples?? OK to have some interests that are different? Examples??
THE Five LOVE LANGUAGES Presenters: Presenters: Nathaniel Nugin, EdM Nathaniel Nugin, EdM Jill Nugin, EdM Jill Nugin, EdM Army Community Services Army Community Services Fort Carson, Colorado Fort Carson, Colorado
The Five Love Languages Your love language and that of your spouse may be as different as Chinese and English. Your love language and that of your spouse may be as different as Chinese and English. We may be sincere when expressing our love to each other, but that might not be enough. We may be sincere when expressing our love to each other, but that might not be enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love. We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love. We must also understand our own primary love language. We must also understand our own primary love language.
Love Languages Basically five emotional love languages Basically five emotional love languages Each has numerous dialects Each has numerous dialects Each person develops a primary LL based on unique psychological makeup and how love was expressed to them Each person develops a primary LL based on unique psychological makeup and how love was expressed to them Most important to speak the love language of your spouse Most important to speak the love language of your spouse
The Five Love Languages Words of Affirmation Words of Affirmation Quality Time Quality Time Receiving of Gifts Receiving of Gifts Acts of Service Acts of Service Physical Touch Physical Touch
CARE TEAM TRAINING “When you allow your friend to talk about the one who died, you are a healer.”
Why Be A CARE Team Member?? What is my motivation to do this? What are my strengths? How will I care for myself? How will this job affect my family, my children? Will this increase my own stress about my spouse? What are my support systems?
Boot Camp for New Dads Program began at Fort Carson in Feb 2000. Taught for Dads, by Dads (in our case our male troop educator). Meets at lunch time, first 3 Wed of each month. Session on How Dads learn to be fathers, caring for Mom, caring for Baby. Is often a CRC recommendation for a dad with a child abuse/neglect allegation.
Boot Camp adaptation When a large unit returns from deployment, there is often a request for a unit specific Boot Camp for all Soldiers who have become fathers during the deployment. Done in one session, at the unit.
Kid’s Chat Kids Chat was developed at Fort Carson in response to concerns that the children of Soldiers needed an opportunity to share how they were feeling about deployments. There had been an increase in MP reports concerning teens and CYS was reporting an increase in negative behaviors in the classrooms. FRG leaders and Rear D Commanders asked ACS/FAP to address these concerns…….and Kids Chat was born.
What Kid’s Chat looks like Children are divided in to 3 age groups, 5-8, 9-12 and 13 and up. Each group is facilitated by 2 or more staff. Each group has specific curriculum, and it can include games, crafts, stories and discussion While the kids meet, parents are invited to participate in a discussion group about their concerns, facilitated by FAP. After 90 minutes, the groups meet for refreshments (unit provided) and parents get feedback, as appropriate. Kid’s Chat can be done before deployment, during or getting ready for reunion.
A Network of Partners ACS Mob & Dep ACS FAP Coordinator DV Trainer Financial Readiness Sexual Assault Trainer New Parent Support CYSS ASAP Vet Center DVBIC UMT JAG Preventive Med Unit Rear Det FRSA’s Volunteers Soldiers and Families Ed Svcs ACAP BOSS DFMWR
DAY-1 Positive Outlets –Education Services –DMWR –ACAP Communication –w/Spouse –Single Soldiers –Divorcing –w/Children Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) Soldier Battlemind I –Breakout Groups Spouse Battlemind DAY-2 Money Matters ASAP Medical Threat Legal Domestic Violence Prevention Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Suicide Prevention FT. CARSON ACS REINTEGRATION UNIVERSITY
Breaking it down… Day One Positive Outlets- Ed Center, DFMWR, ACAP Communicate w/Spouse- FAP Coordinator Communicate (Single Soldiers)- FAP / Vet Center Communicate (Divorce)- MFLC Communicate w/Children- CYSS TBI- DVBIC Spouse Battlemind- Mob/Dep Soldier Battlemind- UMT Battlemind Breakout Groups- Vet Center/MFLC
…and More Day 2 Domestic Violence- FAP Trainer ASAP- Ed Coordinator Medical Threat- Preventive Medicine Legal- JAG Money Matter- Financial Readiness Program Sexual Assault- Trainer Suicide Prevention- UMT
Prevention Wrap-Up Be creative…most things that you develop for families are prevention. Use all of the installation and community resources that you can! CASE……copy and steal everything (with permission of course!) Have fun with prevention!