Presentation on theme: "Information Forum A I M S To provide information about separation and its effects on parents and children To increase your awareness of primary dispute."— Presentation transcript:
Information Forum A I M S To provide information about separation and its effects on parents and children To increase your awareness of primary dispute resolution To increase your awareness of the services of the Family Court. –Counselling and Consultancy –Registry –Judicial To provide a framework for the Court processes To provide information about community mediation services Please note: Length of forum – approx. 1 hour Presenting organisations: Family Court Counselling and Consultancy Service Family Court representative Please: Turn off mobile phones Take attendance certificate at session closure Take information handouts
THE FAMILY COURT COUNSELLING AND CONSULTANCY SERVICE ROLE OF FAMILY CONSULTANT– Children’s Matters only Assessment Negotiation Mediation Case Management Report preparation
Understanding the Emotional Process of Separation Adjusting to separation is a process Feelings and moods change over time People have different rates of adjustment Feelings include denial, disbelief, loss, grief, shock, anger and a sense of failure Different reactions depending on role Managing your reactions helps children cope
VIDEO – “Consider the Children” (5 segments – 12 Minutes) You can help children of all ages by: protecting your children from the conflict between the parents recognising children’s emotional needs reassuring them of your love explaining they are not to blame looking after them cooperating with the other parent respecting similarities and differences
Children’s Ages Video – depicts ages 6-17 Children from 1-5 also affected –AGEREACTION –InfantsChanges in eating/sleeping, may be more fearful or anxious. –Toddlers Become clingy, cry, tantrums, sulk, problems sleeping/eating/toileting. –PreschoolersFeel a sense of loss, fantasise “mummy/daddy coming back”, worry, blame themselves, attack the parent they blame for the separation, become depressed.
FAMILY VIOLENCE AND SEPARATION Family violence can include: –physical, sexual, verbal and psychological abuse; or –financial controlling behaviour which is abusive. Family violence can come from a desire for power and control. When that control is threatened by the other partner leaving, the risk of violence can increase. Social isolation, emotional abuse, and physical assaults, can have long-lasting effects for all members of the family, including the children.
Risks to children Children who witness family violence may: –Try to protect an adult victim, and be harmed themselves –Copy the violent behaviour they witness, both as children and as adults –Develop stress related illness and relational difficulties –Lose confidence, be afraid and angry, and blame themselves for the violence REMEMBER: Everyone has the right to feel and to be safe. If you are involved in family violence seek help.