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“ a stage in life when the slightest turn towards the wrong will spoil character” Baba WORLD HEALTH ORGANISATION Adolescence. The age span of 10-19.

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3 “ a stage in life when the slightest turn towards the wrong will spoil character” Baba WORLD HEALTH ORGANISATION Adolescence. The age span of years in the life of a human being…… Youth The age span of in the life of a human being…..

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5 Identity Crisis Adult?? Child? ? Who am I???

6 Peer Group Influence

7 Economic independence Unstable emotions Resentment of Authority

8 Present Day challenges for parents Influence of Media, TV, Movies etc Money Power Fast foods Elevation in women’s status

9 Disturbing/non co operative behaviour  Arguing with siblings  Teasing,etc  Lack of concentration/Distraction  Disobedience  Closed Communication  Fear/Anxiety of…..  exams  teacher  one of the parents  a bully in the class Recognising problem signs……

10 DEFINITIONS “Counselling is a process that leads to healing, growth and change.’’ (Dr.B.J.Prashantham) EMPATHY ENCOURAGEMENT EMPOWERMENT ENRICHMENT EDUCARE The 5Es

11 “Life is listening, learning, lifting and living” Baba

12 LISTENING AND RESPONDING

13 story SUPERFICIAL PART/SELECTIVE ATTENTIVE

14 Communication Research(Dr Albert Mahrabian) Mehrabian -communication theory Words- Verbal 7% Voice- Paralinguistic 38% Body language- 55 %

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16 Listen to your child with full attention. Lack of communication leads to misunderstanding. Answer your child’s questions, do not avoid them This builds trust and faith Chinna katha dolls

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19 Admonishing What’s wrong with you? Why have you done this? Moralising/LABELLING You are such a bad student.careless fellow! You should be ashamed of yourself! Humiliating I am disappointed in you. I did not expect this of YOU. Sympathising \Sarcastic Oh!, that’s really bad! Poor thing! You can only be a street vendor if you don’t study 18

20 GUIDELINES DON’TS 1.Dont advice, preach, moralise, compare 2. Avoid ‘have to’, ‘should/should not’, ‘must /must not’ etc Avoid ‘why’ question as far as possible 19

21 DO’S Use Reflective responses A. Reflection of content B. Reflection of feelings SUMMARISE! It shows understanding and Empathy

22 STYLES OF PARENTING Autoritarian/Autocratic ONLY LAW Permissive Too much anuraga attachment LOVE Authoritative LAW+LOVE Uninvolved No LOVE or LAW

23 PERSONALITyPERSONALITy DOMAINSDOMAINS

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25 “Do all household work as acts of worship for Him: that is more fruitful than hours of meditation,hours gained by entrusting this precious work to paid helpers.”

26 “Education is for life, not for a living” Baba Recent structural MRI studies have demonstrated that the brain undergoes considerable development during adolescence.

27 “Love is the undercurrent of human life;Man will be able to manifest his innate divinity only when he develops love within” Baba Aware of feelings/emotions Coping with emotions Understanding others emotions Self concept

28 “Sow a seed of good thought Reap aharvest of good action Sow a seed of good action Reap a harvest of good habit Sow a seed of good habit Reap a harvest of good character Sow a seed of good character Reap a harvest of good destiny” Baba

29 Silent sitting / Guided visualisation Prayer/Chanting Group Singing Story-telling /Play acting Group Seva activities Transformation Tools The 5 techniques The Spiritual Tool Box used IN BAL VIKAS

30 5 Relationships that make the Home 1 Spouse Bond Relationship Husband & Wife 2 Power Structure Empowerment of Family Members 3 Family Time Activities & Customs 4 Communication Mode of communication within the family 5 Awareness & Connectivity Spiritual Belief, Network of Friends & Relatives Dharma Peace Non-Violence Truth Love

31 1.SPOUSE BOND “UNDERSTANDING FIRST, ADJUSTMENT NEXT” Baba Love

32 2. EMPOWERMENT OF SPOUSE. “HOME IS THE DWELLING PLACE OF RIGHT CONDUCT. A HOME IS A HOME IF BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE HONOURED AND RESPECTED WITHIN IT.SUCH A HOME IS THE HAVEN OF PROSPERITY AND PEACE.”Baba

33 “PARENTS CAN IMPART ELEMENTS OF THEIR CULTURE AND VALUES WHEN THEY SHARE PRIME FAMILY TIME WITH CHILDREN.” Baba BAD TIMES ARE TESTING TIMES (coping skills) PEACE COOPERATION, APPRECIATION RECREATION SHARING 3.FAMILY TIME

34 4.COMMUNICATION “50% OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION IS LISTENING. IF YOU GIVE AN EAR TO OTHERS,THEN OTHERS WILL GIVE AN EAR TO YOU.” RESPECT, EMPATHY, HONESTY AWARENESS OF OTHERS’ FEELINGS

35 Words! “Words can confer strength:they can drain it off.” “Power of the atom bomb” Baba

36 Cultural activities, functions, festivals etc sense of oneness, and belonging, connectivity- SELF AWARENESS, SPIRITUAL ACTIVITIES, PRAYER AND DEVOTION

37 “Have Constructive thoughts, Consoling words, and Compassionate acts” Baba

38 Prayer Bedtime Quiet/homework Household Chores Family activities Allowance Consequence Rules No rules land “Discipline is needed in every aspect to maintain the right course of life.” Baba

39 REMEMBER! Don’t label your child.. Correct only the wrong behaviour Labels: You are stupid You are foolish You are so slow

40 GUIDELINES  Acceptance and warmth  Loving friendly approach  Realistic expectations  Remembering the  divine connectivity

41 GUIDELINES Focus on ‘here and now’ Immediate acknowledgement of wrong or right Allow them to be part of family conversations, decision making…

42 41 Self-Concept Self esteem The Empty self esteem pot

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44 SELF EMPOWERMENT! SELF-CONFIDENCE Self Satisfaction Self Sacrifice Self Realisation

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46 The primary responsibility of a parent is to mould the character of the child.” Baba Exemplar/Role Model “BE, DO,AND THEN TELL”

47 EXEMPLAR PAR EXCELLENCE

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49 Baba says “Parents must feel that they are servants appointed by the Lord to tend the little souls that are born in their households, as the gardener tends the trees in the garden of the Master.”

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