Presentation on theme: "Leadership & Self Deception By The Arbinger Institute."— Presentation transcript:
Leadership & Self Deception By The Arbinger Institute
WHAT WE WANT IS WHAT WE DON’T GET!
Philosophy An underlying issue that undercuts both Individuals Organisations
the problem of not knowing one has a problem SELF DECEPTION
we often create our own problems
we seem unaware that we create problems
we actively resist solutions
The result of self Deception is…
Politics / Conflict Low Morale / Motivation Silo Thinking / Lack of Departmental Interaction Lack of Trust / Lack of Empowerment Poor Leadership - Not walking the talk! Lack of Ownership, Accountability, Responsibility No Initiative The list goes on and on………..
To solve it, we try different strategies
selection of the right people
robust management methods
Key Performance Indicators (KPIs)
and more! Performance Management Systems Incentives and Rewards Shared Vision, Values BPR Leadership Dialogue Improved Communications
With all these strategies in place …
how much time do we still spend on managing people problems?
at what cost to the team? at what cost to the organization?
A BOLD CLAIM!
Poor Communications Poor Relationships Poor Teamwork / Lack of Cohesion Politics / Conflict Low Morale / Motivation Silo Thinking / Lack of Departmental Interaction Lack of Trust / Lack of Empowerment Poor Leadership Lack of Ownership, Accountability, Responsibility No Initiative PEOPLE PROBLEMS SINGLE DEEPER PROBLEM
SENSE: Share the information with Mark to help him with his work CHOICE Betray the sense Honour the sense Person [Responsive Way] Object [Resistant Way] In Self-Betrayal, I feel JUSTIFIED How I started to see Mark Competitor/threat Won’t appreciate it May not need it May misconstrue my intentions Too dependent Lazy How I started to see Myself Deserve to be on top Hardworking Busy -Horribilise -Be defensive -Blame with thoughts & emotions
Why is the BOX a big deal?
L1: CustomerL2: Coworker L4: BossL3: Team Member Focused on Myself Focused on my doings Seeking Justification Their impact on me CONSTANTLY MEASURING OTHERS’ IMPACT ON ME
focusing on… what others need to do
focusing on… other’s mistakes
focusing on… other’s negative qualities
NOT focusing on… being a better team member
focus on myself focus on my doings focus on others measure my impact on others SEE OBJECTS! SEE PEOPLE! Remember … When I am in the box … When I am out of the box … focus on results SOLVING THE BETRAYAL PROBLEM measure others’ impact on me
A WAY OUT OF THE BOX
….EMBED A WAY OF WORKING
THAT DOESN’T ALLOW US TO FOCUS ON OURSELVES OR OUR DOINGS
BUT INSTEAD KEEPS US FOCUSED ON OTHERS AND RESULTS
L1: Customer L2: Coworker L4: BossL3: Team Member Focus on Others Focus on Results My impact on others CONSTANTLY MEASURE MY IMPACT ON OTHERS!