Presentation on theme: "Discretion vs. Simplemindedness"— Presentation transcript:
1Discretion vs. Simplemindedness Recognizing and avoiding words, actions, and attitudes that could bring undesirable consequences.
2ExampleDo you say or do in private what you would not want to explain in public?
3What do you say that you will regret? As responsible people, we should be careful what we say, how we say it, and to whom we say it to.Words can not be taken back once they are said.How many times have you said something that you regret saying, but it was to late?
4A discreet person will avoid saying things that may have a negative outcome. Stop: before you say anything, take a deep breath and exhale slowly. By then you would have time to think about what you may say.Listen: make sure they are done talking before you speak.Look: look for different ways to say things so as to say them properly and articulate every word.
5Rules for discretion What is your motive for what you have said? Check to see why you want to say what you are about to say.Are you responding to something that they have said that was negative?How is you attitude before saying anything?
6More rules Practice being honest without being rude or unkind. Speak the truth, but softlyDeal directly with the person if possible, if not, you might not want to deal at all.Always leave off on a positive noteDon’t throw in a bunch of stuff from the past
7More rules Consider the other persons view and feelings. Don’t disclose information that you shouldn’t about anyone else.Confidentiality should remain confidentNever insult a person in front of anyoneMake sure their understanding what you are saying before you walk away
8More rules Evaluate your own life How do people perceive you? Is your life in order?Are you setting the example?Are you giving people a reason to talk about you when your not there?
9Simplemindedness Definition: Foolish Silence is the best and surest way to hide ignorance, most people won’t know your simple until you open your mouth.
10Keys to Discretion Always consider what the outcome may be Choose your words carefullyPractice good manners, be kindLearn from the past mistakesAvoid any trouble if at all possible
11ApplicationGreet people with a friendly smile and handshake. Stand when greeting.Address them by their proper name until given permission to greet them informally.Make eye contactStand when a lady or an older person enters the room.Open doors for those ladies or elderly
12Desirable consequences RespectGood first time impressionFriendshipsResponsibility for you and othersRestoration of good morals and etiquetteEnthusiasm from others to work with youA happy family of respect and honor
13GroupJohn took a phone call on his cell phone from his wife while at work. He has people around him that are trying to get his attention. She would not call unless it was important.Johnny, his 7 year old son is sick and there is no one to watch him at home and she has to go to work, the babysitter can’t make it.Simple but complex, how will we communicate to each other without causing undesired consequences?How do we handle the other people at work that are also trying to talk to you? Role play this!