Presentation on theme: "Unhealthy Relationships"— Presentation transcript:
1Unhealthy Relationships Situations and factors that are associated with or could lead to unhealthy relationships
2Violence Factors that can lead to violence include : A physical force that is used to harm people or damage property.Factors that can lead to violence include :Feeling threatenedUnmanaged angerLack of respectBullyingGangsSexual harassment
3Bullying Aggressive behavior Intended to hurt, control, intimidate or humiliateUsually escalates over timeBy someone who has more power than the targeted personCan be in written, verbal, electronic or physical expression
4Cyberbullying…Cyberbullying involves using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies, cell phones or other electronic devices to engage in written, verbal or physical expression that has the effect of harming someone.
5Cyberbullying…Cyberbullying is usually not a one time occurrence but constant harassment. Because of the constant role technology plays in our lives, it is often difficult for victims to escape from cyberbullies.If you or someone you know is being cyberbullied:Don’t respondDon’t retaliateTalk to a trusted adultSave the evidenceBlock the bullyBe a friend, not a bystander
6Bullying…AISD AISD expands on bullying as… … having the effect of physically harming a student, damaging a student’s property or placing a student in reasonable fear of harm.… being sufficiently severe, persistent, and pervasive that the action or threat creates an intimidating, threatening or abusive educational environment for a student.
7Where do you see bullying? We have all witnessed bullying in a wide variety of places, but do you ever notice who is being bullied or what they are being bullied for?People can be bullied for many reasons, however, the most common reasons people are bullied are due to:GenderRaceReligionSexual Orientation
8Bullying prevention…Many schools provide support for students who are being bullied or discipline for those who bully, but limit their outreach to these two groups.An often overlooked audience is the students who witness bullying— the peer bystanders. Because they make up the majority, they can be influential in changing the social climate of a school.
9Bullying prevention…Peer bystanders, more than adults, are in a unique situation to send targets of bullying the crucial message that it is not their fault and nothing is “wrong” with them.Bystanders can provide support for youth who bully others by having a positive impact as well-behaved, well-respected peers who want to connect with them.Bystanders can be personally affected by witnessing bullying— it can teach an important lesson, which will hopefully lead them to act positively and effectively in the future.
10Ways to Stop BullyingDon’t participate by not passing on rumors, not standing and watching or recording and posting on-line when someone is being bullied.Intervene yourself (if it is safe to do so) or with friends by speaking up, or get an adult.Report incidents to teachers, parents, or other authorities.Let people know that you don’t respect people who mistreat other people.Support the one being bullied.**Video on picture
11Gangs… A GANG is a group of peers who claim a territory. Gangs continue to be a major public safety threat because they are often associated with crimes and violence.
12Gangs…Gangs intentionally recruit teenagers because young people are very susceptible to peer pressure.It can be difficult for a teen to understand the harm that joining a gang can bring if they are worried about losing their friends.A teen might feel immense pressures to join a gang if their parents, older siblings, or most of their friends are gang members, or if they come from a neighborhood where they are “expected” to join a gang.
13Keys to staying Gang Free… Learn to deal with peer pressure and practice saying, “NO.”Choose your friends wisely.Get involved with positive activities such as sports, afterschool programs, volunteer work, or job training.Learn to distinguish between positive and negative influences at school and at home. ex. Positive role models
14Sexual HarassmentUnwanted and unwelcome sexual behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable, offends you, hurts your reputation, frightens or threatens you and interferes with your ability to get an education or participate in school activitiesSexual harassment:Is defined by the targetIs a violation of school rules, state and federal law81% of students experience some form of sexual harassment during their school lives and 27% experience it often (AAUW, 2004).
15AISD Policy on Discrimination, Harassment and Retaliation ExamplesSexual advancesTouching intimate body parts or coercing physical contact that is sexual in natureJokes or conversations of a sexual natureOther sexually motivated conduct, communications, or contactAISD Policy on Discrimination, Harassment and Retaliation
16When does flirting become sexual harassment? Flirting is welcome attention.Sexual harassment is not wanted.Flirting goes both ways.Sexual harassment is one-sided.Flirting makes you feel in control.Sexual harassment makes you feel put down or ugly.Flirting makes you feel good about yourself.Sexual harassment makes you feel powerless.Flirting is legal in school.Sexual harassment is a violation of school rules.
17WHAT IS SEXTING?Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photos electronically, primarily betweencell phones.
18THINK before you hit SEND! THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT SEXTING… Images sent by mobile phone can easily fall into the wrong hands, and once posted online, may never really go away.It is illegal to take sexual photos of minors, and it is also a crime to passthem on.Sexting can lead to public humiliation, cyberbullying or even sexual assault.Others may copy and post your images in other places online where friends, parents, teachers can see them.THINK beforeyou hit SEND!
19THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT SEXTING… Sexting laws in Texas state that:“You are illegally engaging in sexting if you – knowingly or on purpose – send, forward or keep a picture or video of a minor – including yourself – engaging in ‘sexual conduct’.”Penalties for sexting in Texas can range from:A Class C misdemeanor with up to a $500 fine.A Class A misdemeanor, for repeat offenders, with up to a $4,000 fine and one year in jail.
20Did you know… 1 in 5 teen girls and boys (20%) say they have electronically sent or posted online nude or suggestive images of themselves.
2140% of young people say “pressure from guys” is a reason girls and women send/post sexual messages and images.20% of young people say “pressure from friends” is a reason guys send/post sexual messages and images.**Video
22Consequences of Sexting Psychological-stress, fear, shame, guiltLegal-child pornography charges, sexual harassment, attorney feesEmotional-sad, embarrassed, feeling usedSocial-being labeled, judged, comments, rumors
23Is sexting sexual harassment? Yes, if it makes you feel uncomfortable in a sexual way.
24WHAT IS PHYSICAL ABUSEAny unwanted contact with the other person’s body. Physical abuse does not have to leave a mark or a bruise.SlappingKickingChokingSpittingPinchingBurningPulling HairScratchingBitingPushingPunchingShovingStranglingPhysical Restraint
25VERBAL / EMOTIONAL ABUSE Saying or doing something that causes another person to be afraid, have lower self-esteem, or manipulates or controls their feelings or behaviors.This can include online posts or digital communications designed to threaten, harass, or embarrass.Insulting the person or his/her family or friendsTelling the person what to doName callingYelling or screamingMaking the person feel guiltyThreatening to commit suicideEmbarrassing the person in front of othersIntimidating the personSpreading negative rumors about the personPut downs
26AISD Policy on Discrimination, Harassment and Retaliation Dating ViolenceDating violence occurs when one partner in a dating relationship, either past or current, intentionally uses physical, sexual, verbal or emotional abuse to harm, threaten, intimidate, or control the other partner.AISD Policy on Discrimination, Harassment and Retaliation
27Dating Violence…Nearly 1 in 3 (29%) teens that have been in a dating relationship experienced sexual abuse, physical abuse, or threats of physical harm to a partner or self.1 in 3 teens reports knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, or physically hurt by a partner. 45% of teen girls know someone who has been pressured or forced into having intercourseor oral sex.
28Consent =YesBoth people freely and willingly agree to engage in a specific sexual activity by stating their mutual understanding and agreement.A person who is drunk, drugged, unconscious, or mentally disabled is not legally able to consent to sexual contact.In Texas, children younger than 17 cannot legally consent to sex with someone more than 3 years older.
29What is sexual assault?Any nonconsensual physical contact of a sexual nature including touching, kissing, sexual intercourse, rape, attempted rape and child molestation.
30It does not always take physical force to sexually assault a victim It does not always take physical force to sexually assault a victim. Threats and intimidation can make a victim feel afraid or unable to refuse the sexual activity.Sexual assault happens across all socio-economic, age, gender, ethnicity and religious categories.
31Children and Sexual Abuse A form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation.This can include:TouchingSexual intercourseExposureVoyeurismChild pornographyForcing a child to engage in sex with others
32IncestSexual contact between persons who are so closely related that their marriage is illegal (e.g., parents and children, uncles/aunts and nieces/nephews, etc.)
33Preventing Sexual Assault Always respect your partner’s sexual limits.Be a good friend. Never leave someone in a vulnerable situation, especially if they’ve been using substances that make them vulnerable.Speak up or get help from an adult if you witness sexual harassment or are concerned about someone’s personal safety.
34Help After Sexual Assault Go to a safe place, away from further harm.Call for help.Don’t change anything about your body or environment.Don’t go to the bathroom.Don’t wash or comb your hair.Don’t take a shower.Don’t clean up.Ask someone to take you to the hospital.Contact a local crisis center.Seek counseling and support.
35Date Rape“Date rape” happens when someone you know forces or manipulates you into having sex when you haven’t given consent.It can happen between partners, on dates, or withfriends or acquaintances.
36Date Rape Drugs Some of the more common date rape drugs include: The term "drug-facilitated sexual assault" is often used to describe the use of date rape drugs.Some of the more common date rape drugs include:RohypnolGHBKetamine
37Effects of Date Rape Drugs These drugs are very powerful. They can affect you very quickly and without your knowing. Alcohol makes the drugs even stronger and can cause serious health problems — even death.Effects include:Muscle relaxationLoss of muscle controlLoss of consciousnessDrunk feelingNauseaConfusionProblems talking
381 in 5 women (20%) and 1 in 71 men (1.4%) are raped (completed and attempted) at some time in their life.More than half (51%) of female victims reported being raped by an intimate partner and40.8% by anacquaintance.
39Protecting Yourself from Date Rape *If you don’t know the person, suggest group dates or dates in public places.*Let family and friends know where you are going and who you are with.*Don’t be alone with your date.*Do not accept drugs or alcohol.*Know where a phone is at all times.*Do not allow anyone to have an opportunity to put drugs in your beverage.*Be wary of meeting anyone on the internet.*Avoid situations and substances that may put you at risk of pressuring someone for sex.*Set limits and communicate these limits clearly and firmly ahead of time.
41Cycle of Violence…Phase 1 Tension Building:Things start to get tense between the two people. In this phase:The two people argue a lot.• The abuser yells at the target for no reason.• The abuser makes false accusations about the target.• The target feels that she or he can’t do anything right.• The atmosphere is tense, as if things could blow up at any moment.In many abusive dating relationships, the physical, emotional and/or sexual abuse is not a one-time incident. It usually happens again and again.
42Cycle of Violence…Phase 2 Explosion:The tension is released in a burst of physical, sexual and/or verbal/emotionalabuse. The abuser may:• Scream and yell in a way that is frightening and/or humiliating.• Hit, grab, shove, kick, slam the other person against the wall, etc.• Throw objects.• Threaten to hurt the other person or someone he or she cares about.• Rape the other person or force him or her to go further sexually than he or she wants to.
43Cycle of Violence…Phase 3 Honeymoon:The abuser tries to make the target stay in the relationship by apologizingand/or shifting the blame for the abuse onto someone or something else.The abuser may:• Apologize and promise that the abuse will never happen again.• Say “I love you.”• Buy the other person flowers or gifts.• Accuse the other person of doing something to cause the abuse.• Blame the abuse on other things such as alcohol, drugs or stress.
44CYCLE OF VIOLENCE THE CYCLE CONTINUES…. OVER and OVER AGAIN!!! After the honeymoon phase:The tension starts to build again, leading to another explosion.Over time, the honeymoon phase may get shorter or even disappear, and the explosions may become more violent and dangerous.Some targets of dating abuse never experience the honeymoon phase—just the tension building and explosion phases.These phases do not happen in every abusive relationship. Someone may be experiencing dating abuse even if this pattern is not presentTHE CYCLE CONTINUES….OVER and OVER AGAIN!!!