Presentation on theme: "Preventing Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault"— Presentation transcript:
1Preventing Sexual Harassment and Sexual Assault Understand the problems and be a part of the solutionFor Study Abroad StudentsPresented by Callista Lee, M.S.California State Certified Sexual Assault Victims CounselorVolunteer for Community Service Programs of Orange County
2Clarifying Sexual Harassment Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature when…submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual’s work performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment. (U.S. EEOC)
3Colleges prohibit sexual harassment too Between studentsBetween staffBetween students and staffThe learning environment (both on and off-campus) is to be a safe and welcoming space for everyone.Refer to your college catalog for policies on student conduct.
4Examples Written – suggestive or obscene letters, notes or posts Verbal – derogatory comments, slurs, jokes, epithetsPhysical – touching, impeding movement, pulling at/off clothingVisual – spying, flashing, inappropriate pictures
5Continuing to express sexual interest after being informed that the interest is unwelcome. Using one’s power over another to coerce sexual behavior
6Impact of Sexual Harassment in Schools EmotionalFeeling embarrassedFeeling self-consciousFeeling afraidFeeling confused about one’s selfFeeling depressedEducationalNot wanting to go to schoolNot wanting to participate as much in classFinding it hard to pay attentionMaking lower gradesDropping out
7Coping with Cultural Differences Many Italian men believe that all foreign women are wanton sluts who find Latin lotharios irresistible and whose repeated insistence that they want to be left alone is merely a cute foreign way of saying “Please take me to bed, you delicious Italian stallion.”
8Things are changing slowly in Italy But the majority of Italian women still report that they have been the victim of at least one of the following forms of sexual harassment:Obscene telephone callsActs of exhibitionismUnwanted touchingSexual intimidation on the jobThe E.U. supports equality and a harassment free society but in many cases, attempts at reform are considered part of a moral crusade imported from the U.S.
9Getting the Italians on your side Complain loudly and repeatedly so that everyone in the vicinity is aware of what is happening. The majority of Italians, especially women, are appalled by this barbaric behavior and will do all they can to assist you.But if you are clearly intoxicated you will receive considerably less sympathy and assistance. Italians think badly of women who allow themselves to get drunk.A woman dining alone can signal that she does not want to be disturbed by putting a book or her work on the table.
10Avoid looking like a target Don’t allow yourself to get drunk in public. Tourists who are drunk are magnets for the dregs of society who are looking to rob or assault you.Use the buddy system and have a designated “sober friend” if you do go out partying.Dress and act as well-behaved Italians do.Ask the restaurant to telephone a taxi for you.
11Spiked DrinksAt clubs, watch your drink at all times. Spiking drinks with powerful sleeping drugs (e.g., Rohypnol) is on the increase.Feeling abnormally woozy?Tell female members of the staff you think you have been drugged. Ask them to call the police. Really.No one should be allowed to “help you” get home before the police arrive or you lose consciousness.If any man appears, insisting that he is there to help, loudly insist that you do not know him and do not want his help.Otherwise, you just look like yet another very drunk tourist.
12Males can be victimized too Just because you are man doesn’t mean that it is safe to go out alone at night.Follow the same precautions to avoid drinking too much or appearing like an absent-minded tourist.Watch your drinks; the drugs will knock you out too.Don’t assume that pickpockets can’t get into tight pants pockets. They are professionals, after all.When it comes to sexual harassment, U.S. laws and College policies do not discriminate – tell someone if you are being sexually harassed.
13Be a part of the solution Look out for each other.Speak up if something inappropriate is going on.
14What are Italian attitudes about rape? Rape law in Italy underwent major revision in 1996, when it finally became considered a crime against the person.Punishments are still determined by the amount of harm done to the victim - in the judge’s opinion.Courts are allowed to evaluate the victim’s character and sexual history.Sentences can be reduced if the woman was not a virgin or may have “assisted” the rapist.
15A “blame culture” exists Talking about rape is taboo in the poorer south where shame in being a victim is embedded in tradition.2007 poll of young people by Amnesty International – more than 25% said they thought the woman was partially or totally responsible for being raped if she was wearing sexy or revealing clothing.So…what are U.S. attitudes about rape?
16Sexual Assault in the United States In the U.S. about 1 in 6 females are sexually assaulted at some point during their lives; for males it is about 1 in 33.The vast majority of perpetrators are males.However, most males do not commit these crimes and represent a mostly un-tapped source for prevention.
17Who are the victims?15% of female victims are under age 12 (the majority of male victims are children)12-34 are the highest risk years for femalesGirls ages are 4 times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assaultBabies get raped; grandmothers get rapedNo race or ethnicity is exempt from this traumaNo neighborhood is rape-free; the CDC declared sexual assault an epidemic several years ago
18Who are the perpetrators? Most of the time it is someone you know, at least casuallyRarely, women will commit sexual assaults; their victims are usually childrenMen assault other men to humiliate them in the worst possible wayThe vast majority of perpetrators are heterosexual malesThey are more often in their late teens or twenties but some continue offending into later life
19Are they crazy, or what? Generally not, but we do find that they often Have low self-esteemHarbor hostile attitudes toward womenTend to be very conservative and moralisticHave sex-negative attitudes about intimacyAssociate with peer groups that accept rapeMay grow up feeling guilty about sex and see sex and nudity as foul and shamefulHave access to willing sexual partnersUse alcohol or other substances to create vulnerability in their victims
20How about when a date just “goes badly?” Most men will accept a “no” if it is clearly stated.Rapists ignore a “no” because they don’t believe it … or …Rapists ignore a “no” because they don’t care what the other person wants – they seek to overpower, control, and humiliate.Only 1 in 20 men ever commit a sexual assault. What can the other 19 do to help reduce these crimes?Legal sex requires informed consent.
22Sex vs. Sexual AssaultFeelings and motives in both parties change dramatically as behavior moves from consensual to non-consensualYes!Happy, excited, eager, sexy, loving, horny, confident, joyful, hopefulNo!Victim – shocked, betrayed, scared, angry, violated, shameful, regretfulRapist – angry, powerful, resentful, frustrated, dominant, self-righteousFalse police reports of rape are incredibly rareNothing a woman (or a man or a child) does can force a man to rape; it is always his choice…his crime
24Rape is an under-reported crime By pointing the finger of blame at the victim we get to live in comfortable denialVictim BlamingHe would never do a thing like that; she’s just a whoreNobody I know would ever do a thing like that; she’s a liarWhat did she expect, dressing and acting like that?Bad things only happen to bad people; the world is fairRape doesn’t happen here; I’m safe and my loved ones are safe
26Justice is best found in healing and learning to thrive again Justice is best found in healing and learning to thrive again. Seek counseling.Victims cannot always count on the legal system to give them justice.This 46% figure is high. Typically we seefar fewer sexualassaults reported topolice.
27What to do if it happens to you Tell someone – do not suffer in silenceCall your local rape crisis center – no-pressure helpIf you think you might be making a police report, do not destroy evidence on your body or your clothesSeek counseling for as long as you need it; its never to late to beginClick on Get Help for their online hotline or to find a service provider in your area
28Orange County’s Rape Crisis Center hotline numbers (714)or(949)Click on Victim assistance and then sexual assault for information about their services
29Associazione Nazionale Telefono Rosa Address: Viale Mazzini Roma Telephone: /62 Fax: Website: (Italian language)
30What to do if it happens to a friend Listen and believe themLet them know you aren’t judging themAvoid asking for explanationsAccept silences – follow their leadHelp them explore their optionsEncourage them to make their own decisions – to take back their powerBe patient – healing can take a long timeEncourage them to get professional counseling
31Prevention Communicate clearly Avoid increasing your vulnerability Be clear – avoid mixed signalsGet consent for sexAvoid increasing your vulnerabilityAlcohol is the #1 “date rape drug”HeadphonesLock upLearn self-defenseBack Off!Listen to your intuitionWatch out for others who appear vulnerableSpeak upSummon help
32Take care of yourself and one another So that you can have fun on your study abroad adventure!