Presentation on theme: "DATING RELATIONSHIPS AND RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCE"— Presentation transcript:
1 DATING RELATIONSHIPS AND RELATIONSHIP VIOLENCE Ms. FitchwellHealth Education
2 Dating RelationshipsIt is Important to remember that the teen years are a time of trying different relationships and rolesBreaking up, making up, and breaking up again can be painful, but it is part of a process of becoming emotionally matureHonesty and open communication are essential
3 Dating Relationships Going out in Groups Good way to ease into dating Less responsibility for keeping the conversation goingLess likely to feel self- consciousBeing less nervous allows you to have a better time and be yourself more easilySome teens choose not to date at all due to other interests, commitments, or not emotionally ready
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5 Relationships Peer Pressure PEER PRESSURE: the control and influence people your own age may have over youMANIPULATION: a sneaky and dishonest way to control or influence othersA person who manipulates others does so to get what he/ she wants without respect for the well- being of the other personTypes of Manipulation includeMocking or teasingBargainingBribingMaking threatsUsing blackmailUsing guilt trips
6 Responding to Negative Peer Pressure Be Assertive!THE PASSIVE WAY: giving up, giving in, or backing down without standing up for your own rightsMay lead to BullyingQuestions to Consider:How is Bullying a form of Peer Pressure?How do bullies try to manipulate other people?What are some healthy ways to deal with bullies?
7 Dealing with Bullying Bullying IS a BIG Deal BULLYING: when a person is picked on over and over again by an individual or group with more powerCould be physical strength or social standingWhat are the two main reasons people are bullied?Appearance:Clothes they wear, haircut, etc.Social Status:The way someone acts, race, religion, sexualityknow-about-bullying
8 Dealing with Bullying Bullies Attack Physically Shoving, tripping, punching, etc.Bullies Attack PsychologicallyVerbal insults, labeling, name calling, etcCyber bullyingCyber Bullying MissouriOne of the MOST painful aspects of Bullying is its RELENTLESSNESSStudies show that people who are abused by their peers are at risk for mental health problemsDepressionAnxietyPeople who are bullied may also develop physical illnessStomach pains, extreme stress levels, etc.
9 Bullying Bullies are at risk for developing problems as well Often leads to more violent behavior as the bully grows upAs many as 25% of elementary school bullies have a criminal record by the time they are 30 years oldMay end up being rejected by their peersDo not do as well in schoolOften do not have the career or relationship success that other people enjoy
10 Who Bullies? Both boys and girls can be bullies May be outgoing and aggressiveMay try to manipulate in subtle, deceptive waysLike to dominate othersHave often been bullied in the past themselvesOften have poor social skills and poor social judgmentPeople who are insecure with themselvesPut others down to make themselves feel more interesting or powerfulSome have personality disorders
11 What Can You Do About Bullying? Ignore (can be harder than loosing your temper)-bullies thrive off of attentionDo not show emotions, anger is the response they are looking for.When to tell an adultYounger kids should ALWAYS tell an adultTeens should tell an adult if there have been threats of physical danger or harmMany teens have died when threats, and attacks were unreported and the silence gave the bully an “ok” to become more and more violent
12 What Can You Do About Bullying? Don’t Get PhysicalDo NOT use physical forceYou cannot be sure how the bully will respondTalk About ItGuidance Counselor, Teacher, or FriendGood outlet for fears and frustrationsFind Your True FriendsFind one or two good friends you can confide in that the bully has hurt your feelingsTell those friends about the truth of the rumors the bully may be starting about you
13 Where Violence Occurs Violence can occur in any relationship Family ViolenceSpousal Abuse- abuse of wife/husbandChild Abuse- abuse of childNeglect- failure to provide for a child’s physical/emotional needsDating ViolenceRape- any forced sexual activity that is unwantedDate Abuse- mental, emotional, physical abuse of a BF/GFCommunity ViolencePersonal Assault- unlawful attack with the intent to harmHomicide- willful killing of another personGang Related
14 What is abuse? Physical- harm to the body Punching, Kicking, Pushing, Biting, Shaking, Use of WeaponsEmotional- attacking a person’s sense of worthPutdowns, Shouting/Screaming, Name calling, and Threats of other violenceSexual- sexual contact against persons willTouching, Gestures, Speaking, Intercourse
15 Bell Ringer Feb. 11thDefine the term manipulation. How do bullies use manipulation to bully others? (provide at least 3 forms of manipulation)What are the 2 main reasons people are bullied?List 3 benefits of going out in groups.
16 Signs of Abuse ANY physical harm Controlling Humiliation Threats Dress, Friends, What you sayHumiliationPuts you down, then tells you “I love you”ThreatsEspecially if you want to leave relationshipTwists the truthWants you to feel at faultKeeps track of youJealousy/Anger when you are around others
18 1. Honeymoon Stage- Both people are happy in relationship CYCLE OF ABUSE1. Honeymoon Stage- Both people are happy in relationship2. Tension Phase- Tension build between people, abusive person gets frustrated with other.3. Abuse Stage- Shortest stage / Most harmfulThis stage is based on one specific incident that leads to an explosion of anger.4. Apologies/Excuse Stage-Abuser calms and tries to make up for abuse by returning to honeymoon phase
19 How YOU can Avoid Violence RecognizeBecome aware of the acts that are abusiveThe Best way to protect yourself is to become aware.ResistIf anyone tries to abuse you, be assertive and stand up for yourself.ReportIf treated in an abusive manner, get away and tell someone ASAP.Report abuse of others.
20 Breaking the Cycle The Cycle of Violence You can help break the cycle of abuse. If you or someone you know is being abused…Tell a trusted adult. Ask them for help to resolve the problem.Contact an abuse hot line or crisis center that can help.Report the abuse to the police.The Cycle of Violence
21 Community Support Who can you turn to for help? Parents, Teachers, Trusted AdultStudent Assistance Team at BVACrisis Centers/HotlinesLocal Law EnforcementFamily CounselingSupport Groups- groups of individuals with similarproblems
22 Discussion Questions: What are some reasons why people would not report the abuse that they are receiving?Low self-esteem: doubt self and think you’re the one who is overreactingFEAR: fear retaliation , assume their name will not remain anonymousEmbarrassment: Worried that others will judge themSome people assume that it is not their business to report abuseLOVE: Hope that the abuser will change, do not want to make abuser angryAre the reasons different for the following relationships: Family, Dating, Community?
23 Bell Ringer Feb. 12th1.Provide 5 resources that you could go to report an abusive relationship.2. Draw and label the cycle of violence.Trusted AdultSAP TeamPoliceFamily CounselingSupport Groups
24 Dating Violence Dating violence Abuse in dating relationships which can be physical, emotional or sexualGateway CheerleaderMt. LebanonProblem: Teens often see abuse or dominant treatment as a sign of love and emotion.Solution: Recognize that no one deserves to be abused or controlled.
25 Warm-Up Feb. 13th1. List 3 signs that a relationship may be turning towards abuse.2. How can you avoid violence?
26 Signs Indicating Unhealthy Dating Relationships These signs may indicate that an unhealthy relationship is moving toward abuse:Expression of JealousyAttempts to control a partner’s behaviorsCell phones, keeping tabs on what you doUse of insults or put-downs to manipulate a partnerUse of guilt to manipulate a partnerRemember, healthy relationships involves kindness, caring and respect, not control and abuse.
27 Date Rape vs. Acquaintance Rape 1 person in a dating relationship forces the other to participate in a sexual actAcquaintance RapeSomeone known casually or considered a friend forces a person to perform a sexual actALARMING STATISTICSOver 80% of rape victims know their attackers.One of the most common types of acquaintance rape is date rape. If you are a female between the ages of 16-24, you run the greatest risk of being raped by a date.The use of alcohol or drugs also increases your risk. In one study, 74% of the men and 55% of the women had been drinking or using drugs prior to the sexual assault.
28 Stages of Date Rape Date Rape typically occurs in 3 stages: Stage 1 - The aggressor (usually the male) enters the other person's "personal space" (kissing, hand on thigh, etc.).Stage 2 - The partner (usually the female) does not assertively stop the behavior, and the aggressor thinks it is okay.Stage 3 - The aggressor gets the couple to a secluded place where the rape occurs.
29 Drugs and RapeAlcohol is involved in as many as 2/3 of all date rape cases in college students.In recent years, drugs are becoming more common.GHB and Rohypnol= Date Rape DrugsCause blackouts and loss of memorySlipped into food and drink
30 Effects of Rape Physically Socially Mental/Emotional STI’s HIV/AIDS Scars, Cuts, Bruises from forceMental/EmotionalFeelings of hopelessnessStress and anxietyFeeling of uncleanSociallyBecome more introvertedLess likely to trust othersMay be seen as “less than whole” by others
31 Dating Violence Statistics 1 in 11 adolescents reports being a victim of physical dating violence CDC 2006.1 in 4 adolescents reports verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual violence each year (Foshee et al. 1996; Avery-Leaf et al. 1997).1 in 5 adolescents reports being a victim of emotional violence (Halpern et al. 2001).1 in 5 high school girls has been physically or sexually abused by a dating partner (Silverman et al. 2001).72% of eighth and ninth graders reportedly "date" (Foshee et al ); by the time they are in high school, 54% of students report dating violence among their peers (Jafe et al. 1992).
32 NEED MORE???Dating Violence Statistics 70% of girls and 52% of boys who are abused report an injury from a violent relationship. (Foshee 1996).8% of boys and 9% of girls have been to an emergency room for an injury received from a dating partner (Foshee 1996).Victims of dating violence are not only at increased risk for injury, they are also more likely to engage in binge drinking, suicide attempts, physical fights, and currently sexual activity CDC 2006.Rates of drug, alcohol, and tobacco use are more than twice as high in girls who report physical or sexual dating violence than in girls who report no violence (Plichta 1996).
33 Dating Precautions Know your date more than casually Similar age dates Assertively set boundariesAvoid being aloneDo not use drugsWatch food and drink. Get them for yourself.
34 Homework Criteria Example: Homework Directions Pittsburgh Action Against Rape(Main Number)1-866-END-RAPE (HOTLINE)Homework DirectionsUse the Yellow Pages and/or Internet to identify 5 community resources for Relationship ViolenceResources must be local (412 or area code)Identify the following for each resourceName of OrganizationPhone NumberHotline NumberWebsite (if applicable)
35 Find Local HelpDirections: Using the following key words and the Yellow pages, look for community help in your area.Key Words: (Pennsylvania)Counseling,Child Abuse,Crisis Intervention,Social Workers,Domestic Abuse,Human Service Organization,Social and Human Service Organization
36 Answer Your QuestionsStudents are told to write down any question they may have concerning dating.The teacher will read any questions and the class will discuss in a open forum their thoughts and opinions.The teacher will assist in correcting any incorrect knowledge as the class conversation progresses.
37 Kids Health (Abusive Relationships) ResourcesKids Health (Abusive Relationships)Kids Health (Abuse)T.E.A.R