1. My Healing Journey Presented By: Dr. Jaime Romo, educator, author and organizational consultant

2. Imaginal cells

3. Johari Window Blind Hidden PrivatePublic

4. Granddad and Grandma Quien? Quieres cacahuates? No seas indio.

5. K-12 in N.E. LA

6. College as escape: Storming

7. Adult/ identity: Forming

8. Professional Identity: Norming M.Ed., UCLA, 1998; Ed.D. USD 1998 – “Voices Against Exclusion and Discrimination: Latino School Leaders’ Narratives for Change” “Voices Against Exclusion and Discrimination: Latino School Leaders’ Narratives for Change” Romo, J. & Salerno, C. (2000). Toward Cultural Democracy: The Journey from Knowledge to Action in Diverse Classrooms. Toward Cultural Democracy: The Journey from Knowledge to Action in Diverse Classrooms. Romo, J., Bradfield, P., & Serrano, R. (2004). Co-editors Reclaiming Democracy: Multicultural Educators’ Journeys toward Transformative Teaching. Reclaiming Democracy: Multicultural Educators’ Journeys toward Transformative Teaching.

9. Teaching Teachers: Performing University of San Diego Department of Learning and Teaching, Border PedagogyBorder Pedagogy (2005). Border Pedagogy from the inside out: an autoethnographic study. Journal of Latinos and Education. (2008). Experience and Context in the Making of a Chicano Activist. In The High School Journal, April/ May. Reprinted, San Francisco: Left Coast Press

10. Traumatic Transformation Diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, 2005 Romo, J. (2007). In Crosses: Portraits of Clergy Abuse,” Carmine Galasso (Ed.) New York: Trolley Books. Took medical leave of absence, 2006 Intensive treatment, spiritual reconstruction Became member of Pilgrim UCC, Carlsbad

11. Hurting to Healing to Helping Anger Revenge Hatred/ rage Jealousy Insecurity, guilt, unworthiness Fear, grief, depression, despair, powerlessness Frustration, irritation, impatience Overwhelm Disappoint- ment Doubt Worry Blame Optimism Hopefulness Contentment Boredom Pessimism Joy, knowledge, empowerment freedom, love appreciation Passion Enthusiasm, eagerness, happiness Positive expectations, belief Optimism

12. What has helped? Break silence (journal, group) Connecting with community/ family Anger into action New life (spiritual) Use experience to help others (TIR) Journey/ discovery/ re- discovery

13. I- ll We-ll

14. Past Present Future Help kids who are poor/ hungry (education as social justice vehicle- teaching, admin, teacher ed) Chiapas, roots, multicultural ed/ border pedagogy School safe place- Kids play soccer, bonding with my kids Seminary, then lay leader, Catholic University/ social justice 2002, explosion Church Abuse Poor/ Hungry Latino (grandmother, rosary, service, Spanish, respeto, extended family) Violent alcoholic dad  School safe place/ achievement Soccer (escape, travel, dad activity) Church Abuse Now: Integration/ synthesis/ creating something new Help kids/ adults who have experienced sexual abuse/ social justice (teaching/ writing books, course) Commissioned Minister for Healing and Healthy Environments Promoting healing/ ending abuse in organizations Wounded healer- explorer/ pioneer, legacy of healing, effective educator/ change agent Trauma Incident Reduction facilitator SAMHSA consultant/ trainer

15. Crisis: Danger + Opportunity There is problem- widespread trauma, abuse, denial, impact (consequences if untreated) There is a solution, beginning with survivors- recognize experience, reconcile, integrate, transform beginning with selves Opportunity to break silence and learn with others, wherever in the continuum: victim-> thriver

16. Physician, heal thyself Who am I? What do I want? What is my purpose? How can I serve? Action (Body) Memory (Mind) Desire (Spirit)

17. “If you bring forth that which is within you, then that which is within you will be your salvation. If you do not bring forth that which is within you, then that which is within you will destroy you.” – From the Gnostic Gospels

18. Haim Ginot “I’ve come to a frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element in the classroom. It’s my personal approach that creates the climate. …I can humiliate or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or dehumanized.”

19. Our deepest fear It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.