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1 1 “If there is righteousness in the heart, There will be beauty in the character. If there is beauty in the character, There will be harmony in the home, If there is harmony in the home, There will be order in the nation, If there is order in the nation, There will be peace in the world.” (Chinese proverb)

2 2 Today’s Family Tree Gary Sarvel, Indianapolis News, Aug. 19, 1983

3  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity 3

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6  “Do you both have a scriptural right to be married to one another?”  “Does your prospective mate have most of the qualities that you desire in a mate?”  “Are you compatible with one another?” 6

7  “Do you both believe in the permanence of marriage?”  “Do you know the difference between true love and infatuation ?”  “Do you both have similar attitudes toward children and child-raising ?” 7

8  “Do you have similar attitudes toward work ?”  “Do you have similar attitudes toward money and finances ?”  “Do you have similar family backgrounds ?” 8

9  “Do you come from a similar soci- economic level ?”  “Do you have similar intellectual abilities and educational backgrounds ?”  “What kind of relationship will you have with your in-laws ?” 9

10  “Do you have very similar religious beliefs and convictions ?”  “Is your prospective mate a person of principle and character ?”  “Is this person your best friend ?” 10

11  Don’t date someone you wouldn’t consider marrying  Don’t think you’ll change the other person  Take your time  Fall in love with a Christian  Pray for God’s help 11

12  “Protestants”: 6.8% were separated  “Catholics”: 6.4% were separated  Mixed religious background: 15.2% were separated  No religious affiliation: 16.7% were separated (Maryland Study with 12,000 young people) 12

13  Who respects God’s word  Who has spiritual goals and values  Who can adjust and compromise  Who willingly corrects major flaws  Who shows signs of maturity  Who can and will communicate 13

14  Who can offer more than physical attractiveness  Who knows the difference between sex and love  Who is a good friend  Who views marriage as permanent (L. A. Stauffer, Family Life: A Biblical Perspective, pp. 90-94) 14

15  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 15 A Careful Choice

16 16 HERMAN “You’re supposed to say ‘I do’ not ‘I’ll try.’”

17  Marriage is a permanent relationship  Divorce is sinful  Remarriage is adultery 17

18  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 18 Whole-Hearted Commitment

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20  Create a conducive atmosphere for communication  Learn to be a good listener  Think about not only what you say but how you say it 20

21  Set aside some time every day to talk  Communicate your love and affection for one another  Speak your mate’s language 21

22  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 22 Effective Communication

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24 24 “As unto the bow the cord is, So unto man is woman; Though she bends him she obeys him, Though she draws him, yet she follows, Useless each without the other!” (Henry W. Longfellow, Hiawatha, Pt. X, l. 1-5)

25  The roles of headship and submission  The roles of breadwinner and homemaker  The sexual relationship 25

26  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 26 Mutual Cooperation

27 27 THE LOCKHORNSBy Bill Hoest “I told you that I loved you twenty years ago. Have you forgotten already?

28  Complaining & criticism  Nagging  Thoughtlessness  Unfair comparisons  Unrealistic expectations  Unkindness 28

29  Interest  Appreciation  Kindness  Patience  Tolerance  The Golden Rule 29

30  Love  Nourish  Cherish  Know  Honor 30

31  Submit  Fear  Love  Be kind 31

32  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 32 Care & Concern

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34  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 34 Resolving Conflicts

35 35 THE LOCKHORNSBy Bill Hoest “I think I liked it better when you never took me anywhere.”

36  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 36 Contentment

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38  Religious Discord  In-Law Interference  Infidelity  Immaturity  Sexual Incompatibility  Irreconcilable Differences  Financial Irresponsibility  Alcoholism 38 Sharing & Caring

39  Poor Choices  Half-Hearted Commitment  Inadequate Communication  Insufficient Cooperation  Little Consideration  Unresolved Conflicts  Discontentment  Complacent Co- existence 39

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41 41 “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers ”


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