Presentation on theme: "Friendships and Relationships: a Cross-cultural Perspective"— Presentation transcript:
1Friendships and Relationships: a Cross-cultural Perspective Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words.(George Eliot, English novelist)
2Major Topics: Defining terms Good neighbors Friendship Obligations and connectionsMen and women relationshipsFamily relationshipDorm-mate relationship
3Defining Terms Friend: one attached to another by affection or esteem Friendship: a relationship in which people know, like and trust each otherFriendliness: behavior, characterized by smiling, chattiness, and warmth, that demonstrate interest in another personBUT, the understanding and expectations of a friend vary from culture to culture, from person to person
4Intimacy: very personal or private relationship marked by warmth and familiarity Intimate relationships: romantic, close family, deep friend relationshipsIndividualists: "I" identity, personal privacy and relationship privacy Collectivists: "we" identity, family and ingroup network connection
5Diverse Personal Relationships Close childhood friend, best friend, new friend, family friend, classmate, teammate, colleague or co-worker, roommate, girlfriend or boyfriend, acquaintanceCasual, friendly relationshipsDeeper, closer friendshipsFriendly relationshipsCommitted relationships
7For the cleaning of the shared areas: Germans define duties and responsibilities precisely in a formal written contract or lease agreement, and relationships with neighbors may tend to be formal and distant.(low-context)Americans talk together and find a solution acceptable to everyone, or else pay for a service.Chinese imply from the relationship, or behave in a certain way by acting that way yourself, hoping others will follow you.(high-context)
8Chinese Friendship1. There are few limits on what you can ask or expect of a friend.2. Chinese friends give each other much more concrete help and assistance than Western friends do: personal connections, money, direct and specific advice3. A true friendship is a relationship that endures through changes in the lives of the friends.4. Relationships with friends are much more informal than similar Western relationships.
9American Friendships (1) For Westerners, friendship is mostly a matter of providing emotional support and spending time together.Americans expect friends to be independent.Americans develop friendships easily and quickly, and they are satisfied with transient relationships and friendships.
10American Friendships (2) Friendship depends on frequent interaction with the other person.True friendships require time and commitment, which many Americans lack.Friendships are tied to specific circumstances or activities: work friends, leisure activity friends and neighborhood friends.Friendships in the West is based on equality. Friends should exchange similar activities and give similar things to each other.
11Social ObligationsRelationships in China ordinarily involve a system of social debts and credits.In Western countries, relationships do not include social obligations. They avoid obligations and personal commitments.
12Case study: 1) who are you trying to fool? 2) You can afford it 3) What is true friendship?
13Discussion:What do you think are important qualities of true friendship?loyalty, forgiveness, kindness, commitment, common interests, kindness, generosity, respect, equality, understanding, trust, honesty, fun
14Importance of Connections China:relation-based, personal relationships, background, connectionsThe U.S.:rule-based, professional obligations, qualifications, performances
15Men and Women Relationship Refer to the handout for the understanding of the basic differences between Men and Women.Is marriage a choice or a necessity?
16Family RelationshipCritical incident:the Arrival of the In-laws
17Dormitory Life Formal or informal Intimate or distant Obligations Describe the relationships between dorm-mates:Formal or informalIntimate or distantObligationsFriendly or indifferent
18Cross-cultural Friendships: Barriers and Strategies different expectationslanguage inadequacyunfamiliar environmentStrategies:Understand cultural differencesBe empatheticDevelop communication skills