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1 1 SAFE Ambassador Program

2 2 SAFE Ambassador Program OCPS Jody Bernier ~ Avalon MS Cynthia Bocanegra ~ District SAFE Amy Ellis ~ District SAFE Rick Frederick ~ District SAFE Adrienne Sears ~ Walker MS Summer 2007

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4 4 RESONABLERESONABLE RESPECTFUL R E L A T E D CONFIDENTIALITY

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7 7 PERCEPTION Your perception is how you view the world. Everyone has a different perception. Ten people may have ten different perceptions of one event…and that’s okay!

8 8 Active Listening Verbal & Nonverbal  B ody Language  E ye Contact F Facial Expression T Tone of Voice  O n/Off Topic Things to Avoid  C C C Crossing your Arms  Y Y Y Yawning  L L L Looking at the Clock RRRRolling your Eyes  TO LISTEN OBJECTIVELY WITHOUT INTERRUPTING

9 9 Nonverbal communications is just as Important!  7% of communication is verbal.  38% of communication is how you say what you say.  55% of communication is nonverbal (body language).  Texting  Instant Messaging  Internet  Internet

10 10 Communication Styles  Passive – submissive, not voicing concerns, thoughts and feelings thoughts and feelings  Assertive – clear, honest, respectful  Aggressive – hurtful, using threats, intimidation and anger intimidation and anger

11 11 Gossip & Rumors Gossip: B Based on facts T To talk about other people’s business Rumors: U Unverified information; hearsay T To talk to others about what may or may not be true. D Damaging to someone’s reputation & malicious. They are both HURTFUL and examples of POOR COMMUNICATION!! Can you think of a personal experience that involved Rumors???

12 12 Tattling vs Telling TTTTattling is getting someone INTO trouble. TTTTelling is getting someone OUT OF trouble.

13 13Collusion Collusion is letting other people assume that you think the same as they do by not telling them that you think differently. You may have a different point of view, but to openly state these views would be more difficult than “going along with the crowd.”

14 14  Silence  Inappropriate laughter  Negative body language  Hurtful behaviors Collusion is something that we’ve all done at some point in time. Breaking the code of silence and the cycle of collusion starts with SAFE Ambassadors! Collusion contd… Collusion takes on many forms:

15 15 Silence Hurts In Germany they came first for the Communists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Communist. Then They came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics, and I didn’t speak up because I was a Protestant. Then they came for me, and by that time No one was left to speak up. Martin Niemoeller ( )

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17 17 Diversity Is… Being different from one another.

18 18 What Do We Do About Diversity When We Really Don’t Get to Know One Another ???? We…… Diversity Cont’d…

19 19 Stereotype Oversimplified belief or over generalization about a group of people. Oversimplified belief or over generalization about a group of people. Making assumptions about a person based on what they look like without knowing them Making assumptions about a person based on what they look like without knowing them (i.e. categorizing ). (i.e. categorizing ).

20 20 Prejudice is: ~ a negative feeling about a group based on stereotypes ~ a preconceived judgment or opinion ~ an adverse opinion formed without grounds or before sufficient knowledge. Discrimination is: ~ the unfair treatment of a person or a group based on prejudice.

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22 22 1. Tolerating to put up with something or someone. 2. Accepting to receive willingly, to receive willingly, but not necessarily but not necessarily agreeing with it. agreeing with it. 3. Respecting to consider worthy of high regard or esteem; to show consideration. 4. Welcoming to greet hospitably and with courtesy or cordiality. Stages of Acceptance Defined…

23 23 Welcoming Respecting accepting tolerating Stages ofAcceptance

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25 25 Violence… is the threat of or actual use of physical force against self or others.  T here were 14, 504 deaths by homicide 1 in every 36 min. here were 31, 655 deaths by suicide 1 every 17 min. here were 95, 136 raped women 1 every 5 min.

26 26 Orange County Statistics for 2006 County Level Student Behavior Stats th-8th 9th-12th Alcohol 19.0 % 41.8 % Binge Drinking 8.4 % 23.0 % Marijuana 5.2 % 16.0 % Attacking Someone with Intent to Harm 6th-8th 9th-12 th 16.3 % 16.0 %

27 27 Risk Factors for Violence  Poverty  Family Violence  Media Violence  Violence in Video Games  Availability of Weapons  Drug Abuse  Gang Membership

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29 29  A bystander is a person who witnesses an act or an event without participating in it. an event without participating in it.  Bystanders are the majority and they have the power to make a difference…,when they choose power to make a difference…,when they choose to do so! to do so!  Bystanders feel… 1. Fearful 1. Fearful 2. Powerless to change the situation 2. Powerless to change the situation 3. Guilty. 3. Guilty. Bystander Behavior

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31 31 The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese At approximately 3:20 on the morning of At approximately 3:20 on the morning of March 13, 1964, twenty-eight-year-old March 13, 1964, twenty-eight-year-old Ms. Catherine (Kitty) Genovese was returning to her home in a nice middle-class area of Queens, New York, from her job as a bar manager. She parked her red Fiat in a nearby parking lot, turned-off the lights and started the walk to her second floor apartment some 35 yards away. She got as far as a streetlight when a man grabbed her. Ms. Catherine (Kitty) Genovese was returning to her home in a nice middle-class area of Queens, New York, from her job as a bar manager. She parked her red Fiat in a nearby parking lot, turned-off the lights and started the walk to her second floor apartment some 35 yards away. She got as far as a streetlight when a man grabbed her.

32 32 She screamed. Lights went on in the 10-floor She screamed. Lights went on in the 10-floor apartment building nearby. She yelled, “Oh, my apartment building nearby. She yelled, “Oh, my God, he stabbed me! Please help me!” Windows God, he stabbed me! Please help me!” Windows opened in the apartment building and a man’s opened in the apartment building and a man’s voice shouted, “Let that girl alone.” The attacker voice shouted, “Let that girl alone.” The attacker looked up, shrugged and walked-off down the looked up, shrugged and walked-off down the street. Ms Genovese struggled to get to her feet. street. Ms Genovese struggled to get to her feet. Lights went back off in the apartments. The Lights went back off in the apartments. The attacker came back and stabbed her again. She attacker came back and stabbed her again. She again cried out, “I’m dying! I’m dying!” And again cried out, “I’m dying! I’m dying!” And again the lights came on and windows opened in again the lights came on and windows opened in many of the nearby apartments. The assailant many of the nearby apartments. The assailant again left and got into his car and drove away. again left and got into his car and drove away. The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese

33 33 Ms Genovese staggered to her feet as a city bus drove by. It was now 3:35 a.m. The attacker returned once again. He found her in a doorway at the foot of the stairs and he stabbed her a third time--this time with a fatal consequence. It was 3:50 when the police received the first call. They responded quickly and within two minutes were at the scene. Ms Genovese was already dead. The only person to call, a neighbor of Ms. Genovese, revealed that he had phoned only after much thought and an earlier phone call to a friend. The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese

34 34 He said, “I didn’t want to get involved.” He said, “I didn’t want to get involved.” Two social psychologists, Bibb Latané and Two social psychologists, Bibb Latané and John Darley, unsatisfied with the above John Darley, unsatisfied with the above explanations, began a series of research explanations, began a series of research studies to identify the situational factors that studies to identify the situational factors that influence why people may be reluctant to influence why people may be reluctant to come to the aid of others. Their explanation come to the aid of others. Their explanation has been called diffusion of responsibility or has been called diffusion of responsibility or the bystander effect and holds that an the bystander effect and holds that an individual is less likely to provide assistance individual is less likely to provide assistance as the number of bystanders increases. as the number of bystanders increases. The Murder of “Kitty” Genovese

35 35 Your Role as a Bystander…  If you find yourself in a bystander situation…what will you choose to do???  Friends & acquaintances often put pressure on people to fight. These same people can play a role in preventing fights to resolve conflict by… 1. Ignoring those people who make negative remarks about other people; about other people; 2. Refusing to spread rumors; 2. Refusing to spread rumors; 3. Refusing to spread a threat, insult or rumor from one 3. Refusing to spread a threat, insult or rumor from one person to another; person to another; 4. Staying away from any area where you expect a fight 4. Staying away from any area where you expect a fight could take place; could take place;  If you find yourself in a bystander situation…what will you choose to do???  Friends & acquaintances often put pressure on people to fight. These same people can play a role in preventing fights to resolve conflict by… 1. Ignoring those people who make negative remarks about other people; about other people; 2. Refusing to spread rumors; 2. Refusing to spread rumors; 3. Refusing to spread a threat, insult or rumor from one 3. Refusing to spread a threat, insult or rumor from one person to another; person to another; 4. Staying away from any area where you expect a fight 4. Staying away from any area where you expect a fight could take place; could take place;

36 36 How one feels by putting Oneself in another person’s shoes. Empathy Ally Someone that can be counted on in times of need.

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38 38 Harassment… is any unwanted remarks or is any unwanted remarks or actions that cause a actions that cause a person emotional or physical harm.

39 39 Forms of Sexual Harassment may include (but are not limited to): 1. Making comments about a person’s body part 1. Making comments about a person’s body part 2. Touching inappropriately 2. Touching inappropriately 3. Spreading rumors about a person’s body part. 3. Spreading rumors about a person’s body part. 4. School Games 4. School Games 5. Flirting vs. Sexual Harassment 5. Flirting vs. Sexual Harassment Sexual Harassment… is any uninvited sexual remarks or sexual advances.

40 40 What should you do about Sexual Harassment?  S peak up assertively when you feel disrespected.  U se your refusal skills to reject unwanted sexual advances.  A void having to be alone with someone you don’t trust.  R eport behavior that you may think is sexual harassment.

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42 42 What is Bullying? A student is being bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more students.

43 43 Bullying is… Bullying is… Longstanding violence Imbalance of power Imbalance of power The use of verbal or nonverbal threats, physical force or threats, physical force or exclusion to intimidate and exclusion to intimidate and control another person control another person

44 44 Physical Verbal Nonverbal Cyber bulling Hitting, kicking, shoving, spitting, getting someone to assault another person Hitting, kicking, shoving, spitting, getting someone to assault another person Taunting, teasing, racial or ethnic slurs, sexual harassment, spreading rumors, telephone Taunting, teasing, racial or ethnic slurs, sexual harassment, spreading rumors, telephone Threats, obscene gestures, deliberate exclusion Threats, obscene gestures, deliberate exclusion Texting, e~mails, IM, websites, My Space Texting, e~mails, IM, websites, My Space Types of Bullying

45 45 Bullying Hurts Everyone Bullies :  l earned their behavior earned to feel good at the expense of others  t ake out their frustrations on others  h ave high self-esteem  a re more likely to fail in school and become criminals. Victims/Targets: re targets of bullies  h ave lower self-esteem & more illnesses ave higher absenteeism  a re more likely to be depressed  e xperience thoughts of suicide.

46 46 Provocative Victim: One who is a target of bullies and often exhibit bullying behavior, has low self-esteem, has been victimized or is presently being victimized. Bystander: One who observers bullying; may feel helpless or afraid and have feelings of guilt, fear & shame by doing or saying nothing.

47 47  Be an ally  Tell an adult  Say something  Distract  Pull the victim away from the situation Strategies to Stop Bullying…

48 48 Reporting I Promise to Notice: Acts of Bullying Acts of Bullying Violence Violence Harassment Harassment Threats & hurtful Threats & hurtful behavior behavior I promise to report & act on behaviors considered to be Red Flags to: SAFE Coordinators SAFE Coordinators Administrators Administrators Teachers Teachers Guidance Guidance Parent Parent

49 49 You have the POWER to STOP and PREVENT unwanted acts and to make your campus a Safer Place. If you do NOTHING you are saying that what is happening is OK with you!!!

50 50  Talk of Suicide  Knowledge of Homicide attempt  Physical Fighting  Weapons  Knowledge or witnessing drug deal deal  Alcohol or Drugs on Campus  Rape  Under the Influence School Hotline Signs to Look for…  Gang Activity  Potential Violence  Threats  Family physical or Sexual Abuse Abuse  Cutting/Self Injurious Behavior Behavior  Acts of Retaliation  Relationship Violence  Drag Racing RED FLAGS

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52 52 Face: ones public self image. Face: ones public self image. Losing Face: To lose dignity; embarassment. Saving Face: To regain ones dignity & control. Graceful Exits

53 53  One more time  Slowly  Last Word  Laugh  Lie

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58 58 Affirmations Plate Activity

59 59 What do you plan to do to make a difference at your school and in your community? Personal Action Plan

60 60 Alcohol, Tobacco and Other Drugs

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64 64 Thank you for choosing to be a SAFE Ambassador! Acknowledgments

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