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THE PATH NOT TAKEN: Strength-Based Approaches for Adolescents in Trouble Bill O ’ Hanlon www.billohanlon.com
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Set a convenient time for the parent/teacher or counselor for the child to practice the desired behavior
The best time to get his/her attention and make the learning more effective is during a time when the child would rather be doing a favorite activity such as: playing with friends, watching his favorite television program, or going to soccer practice. If you are a teacher, the best time may be during recess, lunch, or after school. Determine which time you think will have the most impact on the child.
Let the child know, without anger and perhaps with a little sadness/empathy that his/her behavior lets you know that he/she needs some help learning/mastering some behavior
For example: (said with sadness or unemotionally) “Uh oh! Your behavior is telling me that you need a ‘Cleaning your room’ Practice Academy."
Keep the practice going until the child has mastered it and is bored
Restart the practice if the misbeavior re-occurs
PRINCIPLE: The child is never the problem; the problem is the problem
The child has become identified with and as the problem This method separates and externalizes the problem to give soem distance and leverage Thereby it helps create a new story, a new identity story and a new story about the problem