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10 ideas for supporting recovering anorexics during school mealtimes Dr Pooky Knightsmith
@PookyH www.inourhands.com firstname.lastname@example.org Parents and teachers of young people recovering from an eating disorder often find themselves in a situation where they want to offer support at mealtimes, but they don’t know how best to help. It will depend entirely on the individual and, as long as they are well enough, you should always be guided by the young person in question, but here are ten suggestions to help you on your way.
@PookyH www.inourhands.com email@example.com Think about meal timings and locations The school lunch hall or cafeteria can be a difficult place for a recovering anorexic to spend time in. You should never insist that their meals are taken there, even if it is your school’s usual policy. Perhaps your school has more than one lunch sitting and the pupil would feel okay in the cafeteria at a time when their peers aren’t there. Or perhaps you should find somewhere different altogether such as a medical wing or pastoral office.
@PookyH www.inourhands.com firstname.lastname@example.org Trust them to keep their own food diary Many recovering anorexics are expected to keep a food diary. It can be very tempting to complete this on their behalf because you know what they have eaten and are keen to ensure that it is recorded accurately. However, it can be an important show of trust to allow the pupil to complete their own food diary. Of course, if you have reason to suspect it is wildly inaccurate then consider again.
@PookyH www.inourhands.com email@example.com Let them eat with a friend Having a friend or a trusted adult with them whilst they eat can make a lot of young people feel more at ease. If you arrange for this, you should ask specifically whether the friend should also be eating at the same time. Some young people will not feel comfortable eating whilst their friend is not, whilst others will want to focus on their meal and would like their friend just to talk to them, usually about something entirely non-food related if possible.
@PookyH www.inourhands.com firstname.lastname@example.org Provide specific meals If it’s practical, you can agree meals ahead with the young person and their parents and have the school provide them (or they may bring their own packed lunch). This will enable them to stick with foods they feel safe with and will also add some predictability to their meals which can help them feel safe. Equally, you may find that if ‘normal’ school meals must be taken, that making the young person aware of what meal will be provided beforehand will help them to prepare themselves (though for others it will give them longer to worry, so you need to decide what is right in your situation).
@PookyH www.inourhands.com email@example.com Accept unusual food choices However revolting or bizarre, if they are eating then let it pass without comment.
@PookyH www.inourhands.com firstname.lastname@example.org Let them serve themselves Even if it is not the done thing in your school canteen, if possible let the young person serve their own food as this will help them to feel more in control of the meal. Of course, if they repeatedly serve themselves portions which are simply too small then you will have to revert to a pre-served meal. On the other hand, some young people feel less guilty eating a meal they’ve been presented with rather than one they’ve served themselves.
@PookyH www.inourhands.com email@example.com Don’t ‘watch’ Make sure that even if you are watching them, that the young person never feels like they’re being watched or spied upon. How would you like it?!
@PookyH www.inourhands.com firstname.lastname@example.org Don’t talk about how much they’ve eaten This can be really hard, especially if they’ve done really well and you want to congratulate them, but it’s generally not a good idea to pass comment as ‘Well done for eating half a jacket potato, that’s fantastic!’ can so easily be heard as ‘Oh my God, I can’t believe you ate so much you greedy fat pig.’ If they volunteer that they are pleased with what they’ve eaten, a safe reply is something along the lines of ‘Well done, I realise that must have been really difficult for you’
@PookyH www.inourhands.com email@example.com Don’t discuss food and weight concerns over lunch If possible, steer the conversation as far away as possible from concerns about food and weight. This might be a good time to start watching soap operas to give yourself something meaningless to discuss until the meal is over.
@PookyH www.inourhands.com firstname.lastname@example.org After lunch matters too… After they’ve eaten, recovering anorexics often feel really panicky, depressed or ashamed and some may try and purge themselves of the calories they’ve consumed e.g. by vomiting or exercising. For these reasons it’s really helpful to make sure that the young person is busy and not left alone with their feelings after lunch.
Need more support? Dr Pooky Knightsmith specialises in mental health and emotional well-being in the school setting. She can provide training sessions or workshops for school staff, parents or students on a variety of topics, including self-harm, anxiety, body image and eating disorders. For further information and free resources visit www.inourhands.com Email: email@example.com Twitter: @PookyH LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/pooky **If you would like an editable version of this PPT please email me**