Classroom Whole School Non-classroom Family Student School-wide
“Arguably the quality of the relationships teachers have with students is the key-stone of effective management and perhaps even the entirety of teaching” Robert J. Marzano
Energy Flows Where Attention Goes
Ratio at least 4:1 Interact positively once every 5 minutes Follow correction for behavior violation with positive reinforcement for rule following Acknowledge Appropriate vs. Inappropriate Behavior Acknowledge Appropriate vs. Inappropriate Behavior
Due to the nature of the behavior, we want to focus on: Interacting with a student when they are demonstrating a positive behavior rather than a negative one Dealing with a negative behavior privately (avoid embarrassing/humiliating) Ignore “junk” behavior (don’t get drawn into a power struggle) What Does 4:1 Really Mean?
Praise Publicly and rebuke/redirect privately
“Relationships are like emotional bank accounts. … we, are constantly making credits/ deposits OR debits / withdrawals to our relational accounts by our words and actions.” “Bank Account” Analogy $$$ Seven Habits of Highly Effective People By Stephen Covey Also in “Incredible Years” Parenting Program
How will staff in your building make deposits into students’ bank accounts? (so that when you need to make a withdrawal there’s not a negative balance)
1. Rapport 2. Relationship 3. Respect The Three R’s Culturally & Linguistically Responsive Teaching and Learning By Sharroky Hollie
Building Rapport Non-Contingent Feedback Getting To Know Students Meet & Greet by Name Active Supervision Interactions Casual Conversations Non-verbals (tone, smiles, thumbs up, high five, nod, hug etc.)
1. Greet them at the door (smile & first name) 2. Respond to journal entries with personal notes 3. Learn about their lives (interview them) 4. Share your life with students 5. Regularly say: “I’m so happy you’re part of my class”, “I’m so glad you’re here today”, “It’s great to see you today.” 6. Call parents to celebrate (in front of students) 7. Have lunch with kids 8. Deliver consequences with empathy 9. Encourage discussions that let students be the center of attention 10. Attend students’ extracurricular events or community activities Ways to Build Relationships
What can ALL staff do the first 6-8 weeks of school to build positive relationships with students?
Teachers who stand at the door and greet their students have fewer disruptions throughout the day -Boynton, M. & Boynton, C. (2005) True for Elementary and Secondary students TUMS Touch Use name Make eye contact Smile Meet and Greet
Top Rapport Building Ideas It really is ALL ABOUT YOU! Lighten Up…be playful when you can.
SMILE…Keep Smiling…Smile Some More! Let students get to know you…tell stories about you
Know your students’ names and get to know them individually Increase your accessibility
Use local and personally relevant examples Learn about your students’ racial & cultural background
Treat students respectfully- avoid sarcasm Don’t take a student’s misbehavior personally Explain why when there are problems
Be enthusiastic about what you teach
Think about a favorite teacher you had when you were in school? Why were they a favorite?
“In years to come, a child may forget what you taught them. But will always remember how you made them feel.” “In years to come, a child may forget what you taught them. But will always remember how you made them feel.” ~~ Steven Krushen
The Tipping Point 3 positive emotions to 1 negative emotion More resilient to adversity Effortlessly achieve what they once could only imagine. Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, Univ. of No. Carolina
15 minute observation of newlyweds’ conversation Used 5 to 1 ratio to predict who would stay together 10 year follow-up: 94% prediction accuracy Dr. John Gottman, The Gottman Relationship Institute
Teams High Performance = 5.6 P/N Medium Performance= 1.9 P/N Low Performance = 0.36 to 1 (more negative than positive) (Losada & Heaphy, 2004)
Team Action Planning As a TEAM…. Update your action plan to include how you will train staff on Tier 1—Individual Student *How?*Who? *What materials will you need? Quad Sharing… Break up into levels: --Early Childhood --Elementary --Junior High --High School *Share ONE IDEA for how your team will implement Tier 1 Individual Student practices 10 mins 10 mins.