Honne These may be contrary to what is expected by society or what is required according to one's position and circumstances, and they are often kept hidden, except with one's closest friends.
Honne It is not something one is encouraged to show in public, especially during business dealings. It is not something one is encouraged to show in public, especially during business dealings. It is something a Japanese shows only to his closest friends (or sometimes when very drunk). It is something a Japanese shows only to his closest friends (or sometimes when very drunk).
Tatemae Literally "façade," is the behavior and opinions one displays in public. Tatemae is what is expected by society and required according to one's position and circumstances.
Tatemae They may have a specific role due to their social status or position in the specific group (such as corporation or company). They behave as they are expected to behave in the specific situation, regardless of their personal opinions about the matter.
Tatemae Tatemae is the “face” that a Japanese person shows in public. Core of tatemae is politeness to avoid confrontation that may or may not match one's honne.
Tatemae Tatemae is displayed when the words and the true intentions of somebody don’t really match completely. To the westerner, this may sound dishonest.
「はい・いいえ」の表現 Meskipun ada jawaban “ya” dan “tidak” sebagai tanda untuk memberikan hal yang sama atau tidak terhadap pendapat orang lain, namun orang Jepang tidak memikirkan pendapatnya sendiri itu benar atau salah.
「はい・いいえ」の表現 Seperti contoh berikut ini: Contoh Honne- Tatemae.doc
飲み会 Nomikai, where work colleagues gather to chat, eat and drink in an ikazaya (traditional Japanese bar). On those occasions you are supposed to show your Honne, talk about your work problems, family problems, etc; so that your colleagues can help you and give their advice.
飲み会 Nomikai are also the moment to complain about your boss or about the asshole of some other department. Let’s say that alcohol plays an important role when evolving from your Tatemae to your Honne mode.
Kesimpulan In Japan, it is very important to maintain harmony, thus most of the time the true feelings and thoughts (Honne) are usually not expressed in a direct way in order to not hurt the feelings of others. We could say that the Tatemae is used as a lubricant in the relations between people.