Presentation on theme: "Unit on Marriage. IN THE BEGINNING Genesis 1:26-28 26 Then God said: "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness.… 27 God created man in his image;"— Presentation transcript:
IN THE BEGINNING Genesis 1:26-28 26 Then God said: "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness.… 27 God created man in his image; in the divine image he created him; male and female he created them. 28 God blessed them, saying: "Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it. KEY POINTS Man Created in God’s Own Image Male & Female GOD’S BLESSING: Be fertile & multiply; Fill the Earth
A SUITABLE PARTNER Genesis 2:18, 24 18 The LORD God said: "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a suitable partner for him." 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and the two of them become one body. KEY POINTS Suitable partner for man = woman Suitable partner = βοηθός (boēthos); (life giving; essential) Man clings to his wife and the two become one flesh
JESUS ON MARRIAGE Matthew 19:3-6 3 Some Pharisees approached him, and tested him, saying, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?" 4 He said in reply, "Have you not read that from the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate." KEY POINTS God made them Male & Female to become one flesh Marriage is what God Joins together
ST. PAUL Ephesians 5:21-25 21 Be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives should be subordinate to their husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of his wife just as Christ is head of the church, he himself the savior of the body. 24 As the church is subordinate to Christ, so wives should be subordinate to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her KEY POINTS Subordination (follow; obedience; humility) is out of reverence for Christ! Submissive: means to support her husbands mission. Husband’s mission to love his wife. Husbands are like Christ Wives are like the Church
ST. PAUL Ephesians 5:21-25, 31-32 31 "For this reason a man shall leave (his) father and (his) mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak in reference to Christ and the church. KEY POINTS The 2 1 flesh The Great Mystery is in reference to Christ and the Church
FIRST MIRACLE John 2:1-12 Jesus, Disciples & Virgin Mary Wedding Feast at Cana First Public Miracle of Jesus KEY POINTS Sometimes Scripture TELLS; sometimes Scripture SHOWS First Miracle at Wedding isn’t random; it continues to SHOW the importance of Marriage
JEWISH THEOLOGY Day before the wedding bride & groom fast Veil of the bride symbolizes modesty & conveys that Soul & Character are more important; Rebecca veiled her face before marrying Isaac (Gen 24:65) According to the Talmud, Rav Yehuda taught that 40 days before a male child is conceived, a voice from heaven announces whose daughter he is going to marry, literally a match made in heaven! Bashert = Soul Mate
DEVELOPMENT OF DOCTRINE St Ignatius (107 AD) It befits the bridegroom and the bride to enter the nuptial relationship with the approval of the bishop so that marriage may be according to the Lord and not according to concupiscence St. Augustine (389 AD) Defends dignity and sanctity of Christian Marriage Pope Nicholas I (866 AD) Consent of partners an essential element of Christian Marriage Pope Alexander III (1159-1181) Mutual consent makes marriage; bond is perfect & becomes absolutely indissoluble through consummation
DEVELOPMENT OF DOCTRINE St. Thomas Aquinas (1272) Three Goods of Marriage: 1.Blessing of Offspring 2.Fidelity & Love for each other 3.Indissoluble Sacrament of Grace Council of Constance (1418) He who rejects the solemnization of marriage sins mortally Council of Florence (1439) 17 th Ecumenical Council Reaffirms the 3 Goods of Marriage Couples may separate on account of adultery, but they are still married and not permitted to contract another marriage because the marital bond is perpetual
COUNCIL OF TRENT (1563) God created indissoluble bond of matrimony Christ instituted Sacrament of Marriage as one of the 7 Sacraments Evangelical and Apostolic Doctrine teach that the marriage bond cannot be dissolved Affirms the importance of celibacy and virginity
DEVELOPMENT OF DOCTRINE Pope Leo XIII, Arcanum Divinae Sapentiae, On Christian Marriage (1880) Church’s authority over Marriage Pope Pius XI, Casti Connubii, On Christian Marriage (1930) Supernatural Mystery of Marriage & Graces of Marriage True marriage cannot be supplied by any human power Lumen Gentium, Light to the Gentiles, Vatican II, (1964) Marriage = Christ & Church (Ecclesial Character) Gaudium et Spes, Joy and Hope, Vatican II, (1965) Sacredness of Marriage & Family
ABUSES OF MARRIAGE Abuses = not used for proper intention, purpose, or by intended user Remember: Three Goods of Marriage: 1.Blessing of Offspring 2.Fidelity & Love between Man & Woman 3.Indissoluble Sacrament of Grace Sterilization Abortion Adultery Polygamy Infidelity Divorce Same Sex Unions
THEOLOGY OF THE BODY Blessed Pope John Paul The Great Nuptial Meaning of the Body The Language of the Body is “Gift” – between man, woman and God The male & female body and sexual union proclaim God’s own eternal mystery of Love Love: Eros and Agape Spousal Analogy combined with love and fruitfulness The Communion of the sexes is the deepest foundation of human ethics and culture Pope John Paul II: The confusion of sexual morality involves a danger perhaps great than is generally realized: the danger of confusing the basic and fundamental human tendencies, the main paths of human existence.
SUMMARY SCRIPTURE: OLD TESTAMENT: 1.Genesis 1:26-28 2.Genesis 2:18, 24 NEW TESTAMENT: 1.Matthew 19:3-6 2.John 2:1-12 3.Ephesians 5:21-25, 31-32 DEVELOPMENT OF DOCTRINE: SAINTS: 1.St. Ignatius (107 AD) 2.St. Augustine (389 AD) 3.St. Thomas Aquinas (1272) POPES: 1.Pope Nicholas I (866 AD) 2.Pope Alexander III (1159-1181) 3.Pope Leo XIII (1880) 4.Pope Pius XI (1930) 5.Pope Paul VI (1968) 6.Pope John Paul the Great (1981) COUNCILS: 1.Council of Constance (1418) 2.Council of Florence (1439) 3.Council of Trent (1563) 4.2 nd Vatican Council (1964 & 65)
SUMMARY KEY POINTS: Man Created in God’s Own Image; Male & Female; There is a dignity and Sanctity to Christian Marriage GOD’S BLESSING: Be fertile & multiply; Fill the Earth Suitable partner for man = woman (life giving; essential) God made them Male & Female; Man clings to his wife and the two become one flesh; God created indissoluble bond of matrimony; Marriage is what God Joins together Christ instituted Sacrament of Marriage as one of the 7 Sacraments Husbands are like Christ; Wives are like the Church; Subordination (follow; obedience; humility) is out of reverence for Christ! The 2:1 flesh; The Great Mystery is in reference to Christ and the Church Enter the nuptial relationship with the approval of the bishop Couples may separate on account of adultery, but they are still married and not permitted to contract another marriage because the marital bond is perpetual ; Evangelical and Apostolic Doctrine teach that the marriage bond cannot be dissolved Church’s authority over Marriage He who rejects the solemnization of marriage sins mortally Supernatural Mystery of Marriage & Graces of Marriage Three Goods of Marriage: 1.Blessing of Offspring 2.Fidelity & Love between Man & Woman 3.Indissoluble Sacrament of Grace ABUSES OF MARRIAGE: Sterilization, Abortion, Adultery, Polygamy, Infidelity, Divorce, Same Sex Unions
What is the Purpose of the Family? Economic theory of households and business consider that a household exists as a means to provide for a division of labor. Two adults marry so that each can increase their utility, understood as pleasure or satisfaction. By contrast the neo-Scholastic assumption is that the main economic purpose of a household is the procreation, education and maintenance of human beings. This means a household is built around the union between a man and a woman.
Marriage Preparation in the Diocese of Lincoln A minimum of 6 months meeting with your parish priest Prayerfully Discerning Marriage Readiness Assessment (FOCCUS) Setting the Date To be held in a Catholic Church Instruction on Marriage Basic teachings of the Catholic Church Engaged Encounter Weekend Natural Family Planning Liturgy Planning Sacrament of Marriage
Marriage Preparation Policy Established by the Bishop Published by the Family Life Office www.dioceseoflincoln.org
Marriage is for Keeps TABLE OF CONTENTS: 1.Marriage & Discipleship 2.Why Get married in the Church 3.What has to happen for you to Marry? 4.“Until Death Do Us Part” 5.Marital Love & Sexuality 6.In Marriage, Who’s the Boss? 7.Communication 8.Birth Control 9.Natural Family Planning 10.Finances 11.The Wedding 12.The Honeymoon
Engaged Encounter Weekend The weekend consists of a series of presentations beginning Friday evening and ending Sunday afternoon. Led by a team of married couples and a priest, the two of you are encouraged to talk privately with each other on many aspects of marriage, always from the viewpoint of your own relationship. Among the subjects you will have an opportunity to discuss with each other are your ambitions, goals, attitudes about God, sex, money, children, family, and your role in the church and community. Personal reflection and couple discussion are the main focus of our weekend.
Natural Family Planning A Faithful Response to Humanae Vitae The FertilityCare TM Center of Omaha (FCCO) distributes this newsletter for college-aged and post-college-aged women. www.popepaulvi.com
5 Love Languages The Secret to Love That Lasts 1.Words of Affirmation 2.Gifts 3.Acts of Service 4.Quality Time 5.Physical Touch Author: Dr. Gary Chapman Paperback: 208 pages Publisher: Northfield Publishing; Reprint edition (January 1, 2010) Language: English ISBN-10: 9780802473158 ISBN-13: 978-0802473158
5 Languages of Apology How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships 1.Expressing Regret (“I’m Sorry”) 2. Accepting Responsibility (I was wrong & it’s my fault) 3. Making Restitution (what can I do to make it right?) 4. Genuine Repentance (I’ll try not to do that again) 5.Requesting Forgiveness (Will you please forgive me?)
Cohabitation: Practicing Marriage or Practicing Divorce? Why Not Live Together Beforehand? Try it before you buy it Financially I need a roommate I’m lonely Everybody does it We’re going to get married anyway HOMEWORK: Read Handout Follow Instructions Carefully DUE: End of Class
How to Avoid Marrying A Jerk! The HEAD: learn about 5 predictive areas The HEART: learn about 5 bonding dynamics in a relationship www.nojerks.com
How to Avoid Marrying A Jerk! Five Key Areas to Grow to Know (F.A.C.E.S.) Family Background Attitude & Actions of Conscience Compatibility Potential Examples of Other Relationships Skills of Communication
How to Avoid Marrying A Jerk! Cohabitation: Enduring or Entrapping Cohabitation: Practicing Marriage or Practicing Divorce? Better health, better sex, better financial wealth, better parenting outcomes STDs Sex is More than Physical (always relational & intensifies closeness) Do You Do as You Believe? (The things I do in my relationships will affect my future marriage …) Living for the Present While Risking Your Future: Waiting in Dating Can Improve Sex in Marriage Living for the Present While Overlooking Your Future: Waiting in Dating Can Improve Your Judgment What you gain from pacing your Sexual Involvement Attitude of the marital relationship (sacred & lifelong commitment?) “The values you use will determine the partner you choose”
Why is it that “Expectations Lead to Disappointments?” Attachment Theory & Three Common Causes of Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Idealization filling gaps with ideal image vs. experience Identification imbalance in your own personality which you try to balance with someone else (key: fix yourself first, rather than attempting to use the relationship to balance you) Incarnation reenacting previous relationship patterns with a different person
Why is it that “Expectations Lead to Disappointments?” Why you Keep Making Mistakes in Relationships Only Seeing What you Want to See Using Love to Get your Act Together It has always been this way and it always will Three Practical Principles for Pacing Reliance (I.R.A.) Principle of Investment (in the other person / relationship) Principle of Reciprocity (is it returned / mutual?) Principle of Accumulation (over time & in different situations)
For Further information on Marriage: http://catholicharboroffaithandmorals.com/ Marriage%20Impediments.html
inspire each other. Marriage: A Road to Holiness!
REVIEW FOR QUIZ Biblical Foundation Development of Doctrine Goods of Marriage Abuses of Marriage YouCat on Marriage (261-271) Marriage Preparation in the Diocese of Lincoln 5 Love Languages 5 Languages of Apology Cohabitation & Oxytocin
Test on Marriage 1. Go over all the information regarding Marriage. 2. Get in your groups and each person summarize 6 most important truths about marriage a person should know and why. 3. Be ready to present your ideas to me orally. 4. Rubric: 10 pts everyone in the group must participate. 30 pts for substantial information given 30 pts for appropriate application of information 20 pts demonstrates a genuine understanding of the truths that they present. 10 pts anyone in the group is able to answer any questions that might be asked regarding the concepts presented by the group.