Preferred Preferred ComfortableComfortable EasierEasier AutomaticAutomatic NaturalNatural SmootherSmoother FamiliarFamiliar Non-Preferred Uncomfortable like a right handed person having to function with their left hand Temperament: A person's normal, preferred manner of thinking, behaving or reacting.
Temperament Does Not Indicate... Temperament Does Not Indicate... Ministry potential Stress Level Psychiatric Factors Skill Level Maturity Intelligence Emotions
Temperament Does Indicate your Preferred Ways of Thinking and Behaving And can help you to: –Understand your specific calling from God, –Relate to other people more effectively, –Contribute more fruitfully, –Be more focused and purposeful.
Problem: We May Use Different Personas At work In troubleIn competition On a team At home While relaxing
We can feel like a rubber band that gets contorted out of shape
Temperament Studies Help You Understand the “Real You” as Intended by God
Divine Design Prevents Projection of Ourselves on Others We usually think others should relate, decide, communicate, and work in the same way as we.
The Source of Most Conflict
Temperament Studies Help Us Understand Relationships
Conflict in the Church Crowell (1990); Tharp (1984); Leas (1980) Causes of Conflict % of congregations Powerful minority of members 71%Powerful minority of members 71% Congregational stress 52%Congregational stress 52% Conflict over values 38%Conflict over values 38% Doctrinal differences25%Doctrinal differences25% Pastor’s people skills 24%Pastor’s people skills 24%
AffirmationAffirmation Quality Time Join the Team Brainstorm New Ideas Brainstorm Deeds of Service Service AdventurePartnerAdventurePartner PhysicalTouchPhysicalTouch GiftGivingGiftGiving “Love Languages” Gary Chapman “Love Languages” Gary Chapman
PEOPLE PLEASING CONFLICT - AVOIDANCE PEOPLE PLEASING CONFLICT - AVOIDANCE ANXIETY FEAR OF REJECTION ANXIETY AMBITION FEAR OF FAILURE AMBITION COMPETITIVENESSARROGANCECOMPETITIVENESSARROGANCE DISCRIMINATIONCONTROLDISCRIMINATIONCONTROL ADDICTIONRECKLESSNESSADDICTIONRECKLESSNESS SENSUALITYDEBTSENSUALITYDEBT CONSUMERISMSELFISHNESSCONSUMERISMSELFISHNESS TemptationsTemptations
Diagnostic Questions on the Myers-Briggs Scale Diagnostic Questions on the Myers-Briggs Scale 43% 17% 10%30% Intuitive Feeling Intuitive Thinking Sensing Feeling Sensing Thinking
1.From where is your energy naturally derived? Extraverts' energy is directed outward primarily, towards people and things outside of themselves.Extraverts' energy is directed outward primarily, towards people and things outside of themselves. Introverts' energy is primarily directed inward, towards their own thoughts, perceptions, and reactions.Introverts' energy is primarily directed inward, towards their own thoughts, perceptions, and reactions.
Extraverts: Speak and then listenSpeak and then listen Prefer a public rolePrefer a public role Like to be around people a lotLike to be around people a lot Prefer to do lots of things at oncePrefer to do lots of things at once Introverts: Listen and then speak Prefer "behind-the- scenes” work Feel more comfort- able being alone Prefer to focus on one thing at a time
Extroverts Extroverts Have high energyHave high energy Can sometimes be easily distractedCan sometimes be easily distracted Think out loudThink out loud Act then thinkAct then think Are outgoing and enthusiasticAre outgoing and enthusiastic Introverts Have quiet energy Have good powers of concentration Think quietly inside their head Think then act Are self-contained and reserved
This tale of love and values unfolds in the class- conscious England of the late 1700’s. The five Bennet sisters include strong-willed Elizabeth (ENFJ).This tale of love and values unfolds in the class- conscious England of the late 1700’s. The five Bennet sisters include strong-willed Elizabeth (ENFJ). A wealthy bachelor, Mr. Darcy (INTJ), takes up residence in a nearby mansion, but when Elizabeth meets up with the prideful Mr. Darcy, the battle is joined.A wealthy bachelor, Mr. Darcy (INTJ), takes up residence in a nearby mansion, but when Elizabeth meets up with the prideful Mr. Darcy, the battle is joined.
Mr. Darcy Elizabeth Bennet Extrovert (Elizabeth) Introvert (Mr. Darcy)
2. What kind of information do you notice and remember? Sensors notice the facts, details, and realities of the world around them.Sensors notice the facts, details, and realities of the world around them. Intuitives are more interested in patterns, relationships between facts as well as the meaning, or possibilities of the information.Intuitives are more interested in patterns, relationships between facts as well as the meaning, or possibilities of the information.
Intuition Sensing “Look at that fabulous house” “This would make a great safari park”
Sensors: Like practical solutionsLike practical solutions Notice each element that makes up the wholeNotice each element that makes up the whole Live in the here- and-nowLive in the here- and-now Like step-by-step instructionsLike step-by-step instructions Intuitives: Admire creative ideas Notice anything new, different or what does not fit Think about future implications Like to figure things out for themselves
Sensors Sensors Focus on the finer pointsFocus on the finer points Trust actual experienceTrust actual experience Like to use established skillsLike to use established skills Are pragmatic - see what isAre pragmatic - see what is Work steadilyWork steadily Intuitives Focus on ideas and the big picture Trust their gut instincts Prefer to learn new skills Are imaginative - see what could be Work in bursts
Deductive Style General Specifics 1. An Introduction based on an idea or theme 2. Gathering of evidence, 3.Presentation of Conclusion 1. An Introduction based on an idea or theme 2. Gathering of evidence, 3.Presentation of Conclusion
Inductive Style SpecificsGeneral 1.Observation of evidence, 2.Examination of evidence, 3.A conclusion based on the evidence 1.Observation of evidence, 2.Examination of evidence, 3.A conclusion based on the evidence
InductiveReasoning DeductiveReasoning Looks at information from a global perspective, identifying patterns and relationships, then applies The Forest Conclusion Looks at facts and details that provide information to explain the world The Trees Sensing iNtuitive Principle SystematicTheology BiblicalTheology
Type Differences in Close Relationships (S vs. N) Sensors with strong grounding in reality can make Intuitives feel impractical and unobservantSensors with strong grounding in reality can make Intuitives feel impractical and unobservant Intuitives with quick insights can make Sensors feel slow and mundane Let me fix it…. How about a wild garden instead?
They enjoy good experiences, focus on pertinent facts, reality.They enjoy good experiences, focus on pertinent facts, reality. Sensing types benefit from Intuitive types:Sensing types benefit from Intuitive types: “FANTASTIC!” “I’ve just had a great idea for next week’s meeting” Intuitive types benefit from Sensing types: New possibilities, future trends, long-term goals.
3. How do you decide or come to conclusions? Thinkers make decisions based primarily on objective and impersonal criteria —what makes the most sense and what is logical.Thinkers make decisions based primarily on objective and impersonal criteria —what makes the most sense and what is logical. Feelers decide primarily on issues of harmony, empathy and relational dynamics.Feelers decide primarily on issues of harmony, empathy and relational dynamics.
Thinkers: Thinkers: Make decisions objectivelyMake decisions objectively Take few things personallyTake few things personally Are more straight- forward and directAre more straight- forward and direct Argue or debate issues for funArgue or debate issues for fun Feelers: Decide based on relationships Take many things personally Are diplomatic and tactful Avoid arguments and conflicts
Thinkers Thinkers Value honesty and fairnessValue honesty and fairness Appear cool and reservedAppear cool and reserved Are motivated by achievementAre motivated by achievement Are most convinced by rational argumentsAre most convinced by rational arguments Feelers Value harmony and compassion Appear warm and friendly Are quick to compliment others Are motivated by appreciation
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Feeling Types can Improve Relationships with Thinking Types by: Stating their wishes clearly so that the Thinking type does not have to guess about their needs and desires Stating their wishes clearly so that the Thinking type does not have to guess about their needs and desires Learning to differentiate between the Thinker’s intended critical assessments that sound like personal criticism Learning to differentiate between the Thinker’s intended critical assessments that sound like personal criticism but are merely impersonal observations from the viewpoint of the Thinker
Mutual Helpfulness F types benefit from T types: F types benefit from T types: Consequences, critical feedback, stand firm, fair. T types benefit from F types: T types benefit from F types: How others feel, praise, teach and coach, harmony
Captain John Miller: ESTJ Pvt. James Ryan: ENFP Thinker: Capt. Miller Feeler: Pvt. Ryan
4. What environment is best for you? Judgers prefer a struct- ured, ordered, and fairly predictable environment, where they can make settled decisions.Judgers prefer a struct- ured, ordered, and fairly predictable environment, where they can make settled decisions. Perceivers prefer to experience as much of the world as possible by keeping their options open and by adapting.Perceivers prefer to experience as much of the world as possible by keeping their options open and by adapting.
Judgers: Judgers: Make decisions quicklyMake decisions quickly Pay attention to time and are promptPay attention to time and are prompt Flourish with schedulesFlourish with schedules Want things decidedWant things decided Perceivers: Make decisions deliberately Are less aware of time and run late Want to keep their options open Want spontaneity
Judgers Judgers Work first, play laterWork first, play later See the need for most rulesSee the need for most rules Like to make and stick with plansLike to make and stick with plans Prefer to finish projectsPrefer to finish projects Perceivers Play first, work later Question the need for many rules Like to keep plans flexible Prefer to start projects
Where are You? FlexibleFlexible P Ambiguous Focused J J Rigid
In 1957 in a mining town called Coalwood, Homer Hickam is inspired when the first artificial satellite, Sputnik goes into orbit. With that event, Homer becomes determined to learn how to build rockets.In 1957 in a mining town called Coalwood, Homer Hickam is inspired when the first artificial satellite, Sputnik goes into orbit. With that event, Homer becomes determined to learn how to build rockets.
Friends Homer Homer Hickam: Judgment Friends: Perceiving
Phil (P) and Rebecca (R) Douglass I JP TF S N E RR P R P P P R
Douglass’ Temperament on the Myers-Briggs Inventory I JP TF S N E |P P |P |P Relaxing Sermon prep Sunday morning Monday morning Conversing with Kara Conversing with Rebec
Sensing Intuition Four different types of people Thinking Feeling
Main Benefit MINISTRY STYLE IMPROVEMENT
Tips for Extraverts Style can overwhelm intraverts Recognize the need for written communications
Tips for Intraverts Be assertive Let others know where you are and what you need Ask for time to respond Recognize the need for face to face communications
Tips for Sensors Your helpful questions and useful details may cut off others’ sharing of ideas Ask others for their ideas and perspective Allow time for brainstorming
Tips for Intuitives Others may need to do a reality check on your ideas or compare them with past experience While brainstorming, think of what it will take to make the idea work
Tips for Thinking Types Personal connection and acknowledgement are necessary to Feeling types to commit to a project Your idea of a “lively difference of opinion” may represent a “conflict” tp Feeling types, creating tension
Tips for Feeling Types Logical structure and clarity are necessary for Thinking types to commit to a project T types may see your relationship-oriented approach as obscuring your commitment to planning and completing tasks Let others know if their style is bothering you
Tips for Judging Types Recognize that structure is restrictive to P types - limit to essentials Allow time for deliberation and decision Hold others responsible for results, rather than dictating the process Use asking tones, rather than insisting tones
Tips for Perceiving Types Recognize that your exploratory style may seem like a waste of time to Judging types Set deadlines for your own results and decisions Follow through on your commitments
Common Type Biases E’s may think I’s are withholding information I’s may think E’s are changing their minds S’s may think N’s are changing the subject N’s may think S’s are unimaginative T’s may think F’s are over-personalizing F’s may think T’s are harsh and cold
Personality Type—INFJ Understanding the feelings and motivations of others.Understanding the feelings and motivations of others. Finding creative ways for people to accomplish tasks, making the process enjoyable.Finding creative ways for people to accomplish tasks, making the process enjoyable. Modeling integrity and follow through.Modeling integrity and follow through. Lending future oriented ideas to planning and development.Lending future oriented ideas to planning and development.