Presentation on theme: "SEXUAL TECHNIQUES AND EXPRESSION"— Presentation transcript:
1SEXUAL TECHNIQUES AND EXPRESSION SOLO SEXMale Masturbation:Oscar Wilde: Masturbation is clean, efficient and you meet a better sort of peopleSex is like bridge: if you don’t have a good partner, you better have a good handHowever: not a preparation for heterosexual sex for men
2Female Masturbation: masturbation helps for heterosexual sex many people masturbate, including coupled and married peopletechniques vary but basically men stroke the shaft up and down and women stroke the vulvar area (clitoris, labia, minora), some stroke the mons, different motionssome women have used cucumbers, bananas, even bottle necks. NOT recommended
3Devices Designed to Curb Masturbation some people masturbate rubbing against objects, such as a hard pillow, a teddy bear, etc.masturbation greatly censored in Judeo-Christian traditionDevices Designed to Curb Masturbation
4Graham crackers (invented by Rev Graham crackers (invented by Rev. Graham, 1830s) and Kellogg’s corn flakes (by Dr. Kellogg, a psychiatrist) were marketed based on the belief that grains could neutralize sexual desire. (anaphrodisiac)saltpeter (potassium nitrate) was rumoured to be used by the U.S. Army as a food additive for the same purposeacceptance and openness more common today but still uncomfortable topic
5Gender Differences in Fantasy While Masturbating: more detailed and elaborate in women, but more frequent in men (+90 vs. 70%) Influence of culture.use of porn: more common in menInternet: illusion of partner, replaced paid phone sex.need to know what feels good and what doesn’t
6Sex toys for solo sex or couples. Variety. Therapeutic uses. Giving permission to enjoy sex.Vibrators used in the late 19th/early 20th century by physicians to treat female hysteria.
7Techniques vs. genuine pleasure in giving pleasure, focus on partner. Importance of other senses (cleanliness)
8Is sex natural or does it require learning? Basic impulse natural, behaviours to satisfy it mostly learned. Interesting cultural differences, both in solo and partnered sex.Children curious, explore their bodies, find pleasurable stimulation. Playing doctor.Sadly, we also need to unlearn sex-negative messages.
9INTERPERSONAL SEXGeneral and specific touchingCan use hands, mouth, other body parts or objectsVary touch, pressure, speed and frequency based on reactions (verbal and non-verbal)
10TWO PERSON SEX Most common erogenous zones: Males: penis, scrotum, area in front of the anus (prostate gland)Females: nipples, whole breast, clitoris, labia minora, mons, perineumThese stimulations can lead to orgasm, and/or be a preparation for sexual intercourseAreas that have more nerve endings can also feel more pain in addition to more pleasure: glans of penis and clitoris very sensitive when fully aroused
11Foreplay:can begin hours before sexual intercourse, in the kitchen, car, shopping mall, etc.: looks, wordsOn the “scene”:touching e.g., squeeze, caress, rubbing, kissingmovementssoundssmellssights, facial expression, gesturesvaried speed and durationGreat variability between and within individuals (fast/slow, rough/gentle, etc.)= every time is the 1st time! focus, attentionGeneral formula: longer foreplay better sex
12TWO PERSON SEX Positions for penis-in-vagina intercourse; most common: man on top (missionary)woman on toprear entrysideways frontal or spoonAlmost endless variations in each positionPersonal preferences, mood, circumstances
13TWO PERSON SEX Oral-genital sex: cunnilingus fellatio sixty-nine More likely in higher SES/educationTaste of ejaculate:bitter: coffee, alcohol, cigarettes, potsharp: red meats, greasy foods, dairy, asparagus, spinach, broccolimild: vegetarian diet, fruit (pineapple), parsley, celery
23Emotional involvement, love, trust...do they make a difference? Rule of Thumb:ask (do you like this?) and observe reactions.have fewer rules, more funEmotional involvement, love, trust...do they make a difference?Tantric sex: Eastern approach, combines spiritual, emotional and physical aspects of sex for a higher order experience. Can take several hours. Not for every day.