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1 Establishing Healthy Boundaries Molly Smith, DMH Clinician Karen Furman, School Social Worker

2 What are Boundaries? Think about a map. When you look at a map, do you see boundaries? What are they?

3 Personal Boundaries People have boundaries too. Knowing my boundaries means: Establishing limits Knowing where I end and others begin Understanding the difference between what is mine and what is not Respecting people’s privacy Being strong when other people try to take advantage of me Not taking advantage of others when they don’t know as much about something as I do

4 Personal Boundaries Include: Your own body Your own things Your own space (can also be called Personal Space) Respecting yourself enough to say, “No, leave me alone, I don’t want to, I can’t now, I want to talk to my friends now, etc.”

5 Respect What does respect have to do with personal boundaries?

6 Respect Showing consideration for myself and others Treating myself and others with dignity Understanding and valuing my boundaries and rights understanding and valuing other people’s boundaries and rights

7 Power What does Power have to do with respecting personal boundaries?

8 Power Continued… Power means having control and influence. People abuse this power when they take advantage of other people or violate the personal boundaries of others.

9 Ways that people can have Power over another person: People who may appear to have power may be: Bigger Older Smarter “Better looking” More popular Have more money

10 Not Respecting the personal boundaries of others can be considered: Peer Pressure Harassment Sexual Harassment Bullying

11 Peer Pressure Being forced or pressured into doing something because your peers are doing it or making you do it, not because you want to.

12 Harassment Persistent and unwanted behavior of an offensive nature intended to disturb or upset the victim.

13 Sexual Harassment Any unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature, whether the behavior is written, verbal, or physical such that the person is uncomfortable, intimidated, or threatened by the behavior.

14 Bullying When any word or action causes someone else harm. REMEMBER R.I.P. R – Repeated I – Intending to cause harm P – Power imbalance

15 Personal boundaries can be violated when: You are touched by somebody else You are verbally harassed by somebody else (this can also include over text, e-mail, Facebook, etc.) Your belongings are taken or touched by somebody else You are forced or pressured to do something that you don’t want to do

16 How does it feel to have your personal boundaries violated? Uncomfortable Confusing Unsafe Uneasy Scary Embarrassing Vulnerable Powerless What else?

17 What do you do if your personal boundaries are violated? Say NO! Get away from the situation. Tell the violator how you feel. Tell an adult Remember that it’s not your fault

18 Appropriate vs. Inappropriate Appropriate means something that is suitable for the occasion or circumstances. It also refers to behavior that is respectful or socially acceptable. Inappropriate means the opposite – something that is not suitable for the occasion or circumstances.

19 Example #1 Jamal has a crush on Tamara. Tamara doesn’t know that Jamal exists. In order to get Tamara’s attention, Jamal sneaks up behind her at her locker and smacks her in the back of her head.

20 Example #2 Lisa is late to class and needs a pencil. She cannot find one in her locker. She remembers Angela’s locker combination from the beginning of the year and decides to go help herself to a pencil from Angela’s locker. While she’s in there, she also decides to borrow some gum and lip gloss. Angela won’t mind!

21 Example #3 Every day, Ken makes a comment about Diamond’s weight when he passes her in the hallway.

22 Example #4 Jason is running down the hallway and accidentally runs into Ben, hitting Ben’s arm and knocking Ben’s books to the ground.

23 Example #5 Albert and Rhonda are walking to Union Station after school. Albert reaches out and grabs Rhonda’s hand, which she likes. Then, he puts his arm around her, which makes her uncomfortable. Rhonda asks Albert to take his arm off of her, and he replies, “But you’re my girl.”

24 Example #6 Tanya and Jess meet up on the playground before school. Tanya hasn’t done her homework, so she says, “Jess, why don’t we skip today.” Tanya knows that school is important to Jess, but she tries to convince her to skip anyway by enticing her with lunch at Chipotle.

25 RESOURCES DCPS Municipal Regulations GOOD-TOUCH/BAD-TOUCH® Curriculum Guide

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