Presentation on theme: "Healthy Relationships"— Presentation transcript:
1Healthy Relationships Objectives:To understand components of a healthy relationshipState what is important to YOU in a relationship – values and opinionsArticulate concrete ways to improve upon negative situations and improve relationships.
3When I am with someone else I need to feel: ________________. A relationship is a bond or connection you have with other people.
4Evaluating a Relationship Activity The purpose of this activity is to heighten awareness of what constitutes a good relationship and to help you learn how to evaluate your own relationships.Use this worksheet to evaluate any type of relationship including a romantic relationship, friendship, or family relationship.Think of a relationship, past or present, that is important to you and use this worksheet to evaluate that relationship.
5Scoring Your Worksheet One point for each “yes” response to questions 2, 3, 4, 6, 9, 11, 12, 13 and 14.One point for each “no” response to questions 1, 5, 7, 8 and 10.
6What does the score mean? 1-3:There are few constructive elements in this relationship. You may want to think about your reasons for continuing the relationship, or work toward improving it.4-6:This relationship has problems that might be resolved by working on honesty and communication.7-10:There is the basis for a good relationship. Focus on the positive elements and work on improving the destructive ones.10-14:You're doing well and have what it takes to build a successful and satisfying relationship.
7Traits of a healthy relationship Mutual respectCaringHonestyCommitment
8Three C’s of healthy relationships CommunicationCooperationCompromise
9Codependent Relationships Codependency – making the relationship more important to you than you are to yourselfTrying to make the relationship work with someone else who’s not tryingBehaviors of codependent people:Low self esteemFixersPeople pleasersFear abandonment
10Relationships Healthful Harmful Promotes mutual respect, productivity, and health (physical, emotional, mental and social)Free of violence, harmful behaviors, and drug useHarmfulHarms self respect, interferes with productivity and health (physical, emotional, mental, and social)Includes violence and/or drug abuse, harmful behaviors
11Harmful Relationship Profiles People PleaserSeeks approvalDoes anything to be likedActs like a “doormat”The EnablerSupports harmful behavior of othersMakes excuses for behavior of othersTakes over other peoples responsibilities
12Harmful Relationship Profiles The ClingerNeedy and dependentChases and clingsSuffocates othersThe FixerFixes other peoples problemsQuick to give adviceTakes over other peoples responsibilities
13Harmful Relationship Profiles The DistancerEmotionally unavailableAvoids sharing feelingsKeeps people at an arms length awayThe ControllerPossessive, jealous, and domineeringDoes not respect the will of othersDemands one wayThe CenterSelf centeredTalks but does not listenIgnores the needs of others
14Harmful Relationship Profiles The AbuserAbusivePuts down othersThreatens and harms othersThe LiarDoes not tell the truthBuilds relationships on liesManipulates others into responses they wantThe Promise BreakerUnreliableMakes plans and cancels themAgrees to change behavior and does not do so