1. Drama Drama Drama Karpman Drama Triangle A way of understanding
Winners Triangle
A new way of communicating
Kim Gregory

2. Stephen Karpman Drama Triangle
Rescuer
Persecutor
Feel they know ‘best’
Do more than their fair share
Has difficulty saying “no”
Rescues even when not invited
Are often lonely, attends to others needs and ignores their own
Becomes their identity- often rewarded
Stephen Karpman Drama Triangle
Criticize, put downs, sarcastic, bully, angry
Have a rigid authoritative stance
Blame other people
Ridicule, fault finding
Are often burnt out, tired, overwhelmed
Victim
Will feel helpless, victimized, oppressed, hopeless, powerless, ashamed, put down, worthless, inadequate
“I can’t do it”
Poor me

3. Acey Choy Winners Triangle
Resourceful
Powerful
Caring
Acey Choy Winners Triangle
Assertive
Does not take over unless asked or wants to
Do their share only
Does not do the thinking for the person
Feels genuine concern, not fear or seeking to meet their own needs
Asks for what they want, no mind reading required
No sulking or punishing behavior
Says “no”
Makes changes to get their needs met
Vulnerable
Skills needed
Skills needed
Use feelings as information or data about self
Acts from adult ego state
Problem solver
Skills needed
Self awareness
Self awareness and listening skills
Self awareness
Ability to express needs without over powering person

4. Parental role Culture Responsibility First educators
Facilitators/Gatekeepers of social experiences

5. Professional Role Enabler See unrecognized capabilities/strengths
See a “snapshot” of the story only
Unique contributors
Bring a fresh perspective

6. Working together to bring change
Together – bridge the gap
Recognize BOTH parties play a huge role in clients lives
Both bring unique contribution
Communicate Communicate Communicate….keep each other “in the loop”.
Be mindful, not reactive

7. References http://dynamicleadership.co.nz/pdfs/Karpman%Triangle.pdf
Kim Gregory