Violence in the Family Physical Force to injure damage or destroy oneself, others or property Domestic violence – sexual, physical emotional abuse Violent family members are usually controlling An ongoing cycle
Abandonment When a person chooses to give up or refuses responsibility for those in his/her care Physical or emotional abandonment Children who have been abandoned feel unlovable, worthless and guilty Teens who have been abandoned are more likely to act “tough” defy authority figures, refuse to follow school rules and have negative attitudes
4 Kinds of Abuse Teens may have to deal with the following types of abuse in their families Physical – violent treatment that results in physical injury Sexual – sexual contact that is forced on a person by physical force or manipulation Emotional – verbal put downs, making someone feel worthless, withholding affection in order to cause pain Neglect – failure to provide care or guidance
The Tree of Codependence
Codependent Relationships Codependent people have difficulties with intimacy Intimacy : a deep meaningful kind of caring between two peopleIntimacy : a deep meaningful kind of caring between two people Enmeshment –a condition in which a person becomes obsessed with the needs of another person and no longer can recognize his or her own needs. Interdependence – a condition in which two people depend upon each other, yet each has a separate identity
Enmeshment or Interdependence Read the following scenarios and decide whether it is describing interdependence or enmeshment Carlos: I can’t go out with you on Friday because my parents are having friends over and they want me there. Can we go to a movie on Sunday instead? Caitlin: Sure, I’ll work on my report on Friday Interdependence
Enmeshment or Interdependence Eddie: I can’t help you with your French homework tonight because I have a big project due tomorrow. Jenna: But you promised to help me every day! Eddie: Ok, maybe I can just stay up later to work on my project Enmeshment
Complete the following Abandonment Affection Alateen Dysfunctional family Enmeshment Family Family relationships Healthful family Interdependence Recovery program Value Work ethic 1. __ is a tender feeling a person has towards another 2. A(n) __ is the basic unit of society. 3. __ is a relationship in which two people depend upon one another, yet each has a separate identity 4. A(n) __ is an attitude of discipline, motivation, and commitment towards tasks. 5. A(n) __ is a family that promotes loving, responsible relationships. 6. __ is refusing responsibility for those in your care 7. A(n) __ is a group that supports people who want to change their behavior 8. A(n) __ is a family that doesn’t promote loving, responsible relationships. 9. ___ is a recovery program for teens with a family member who has an addiction 10. __ is a condition in which a person is obsessed with the needs of others.