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Tips On Supporting Your Transition Derek Vergara Dean of Student Affairs
Smile! Show confidence and reassurance to your new college student. Reassure your child that they are making the right decision to go to college. Don’t wait until move-in day or the end of August to discuss and show your thoughts and feelings about separating. Prepare yourself for “the ride home”
Do Not Call Every Day While closeness and open communication are essential qualities to have with your new college student, begin to curtail your daily communication with them. No college student wants their Mom and Dad checking up on them daily.
Ask “Generalized” Questions (but not too many) As parents, we believe that we have the “right to know” everything that goes on with our children… “How was WOW (Week of Welcome)?” “Are you having fun?”
Listen with an Open Mind Listen and resist judgment Don’t immediately give solutions and try to “fix it” for them When asked, give them options and resources to tap in to Give them the freedom to make their own choices
Have a Discussion about “Facebook”, “Myspace”, and “Twitter” Personal electronic websites are positive and negative Encourage your student to be judicious Employers use these sites to research prospective and qualified hires.
Encourage Them Encourage them to take over the daily tasks of their lives if they have not already. Encourage them to take responsibility for their own actions Encourage them to explore life’s possibilities
Encourage Involvement Inside and Outside of the Classroom Engage in their community Encourage to leave their “mark” at CUI!
Have Another Discussion About Alcohol and Drugs In a recent survey of our current students, alcohol use/abuse and marijuana use are prevalent among our students Alcohol Edu While alcohol and drug use are common, CUI will not tolerate abuse of these substances.
Do NOT Make Surprise Visits To School While surprise visits can be exciting, I encourage you to set a mutual date/time to visit. Talk about visitation and respect their wishes Although it may seem easy, entertaining parents/family is stressful and takes some maneuvering for the college student.
Resist the Urge to Decorate Your Student’s New Room Impetus to building and strengthening roommate relations Develops positive boundaries between parent- student Leaves the student responsible and accountable to their own space in a large, “not so private” college community
Talk About Credit Cards and Finances Before School Begins Discuss your partnership with financing their college education Discuss the “financial strategy” for the next 4 to 5 years Allowing the student into this realm will relieve much of the psychological stress associated with financing college
Be Interested, Not Critical, Of Course Selection Students may change their academic major 3 to 4 times during their tenure in college. Express interest in, rather than criticism, of their choices. Ask yourself: “Who’s career aspiration is in question…mine or his/hers?”
Your Student’s Grades Are No Longer Sent Home Via US Mail Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) All “educational” files are confidential If you have an investment in and/or a high “need to know” your student’s grades, discuss and make a mutual agreement on this subject.