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1 Child and Youth Protection How do we keep our kids safe?

2 1/20/2010 Developed by Sharon Davis Licensed Mental Health Counselor Edited and Presented by Woody Bodden, Ed.S., Ph.D. Edited and Presented by Woody Bodden, Ed.S., Ph.D. Licensed School Psychologist

3 Tampa District Florida Conference United Methodist Church

4 Focus of General Conference Requirement of Florida Annual Conference Focus of General Conference Requirement of Florida Annual Conference

5 Why ? Protection of the children Adopt standards of secular world Assurance that the church is a safe place Those who work with children are required to formally review the Protection policy annually. Protection of the children Adopt standards of secular world Assurance that the church is a safe place Those who work with children are required to formally review the Protection policy annually.

6 Prayer

7 US Statistics 3 million cases of child abuse are reported annually Represents 1 million confirmed cases Four deaths daily 3 million cases of child abuse are reported annually Represents 1 million confirmed cases Four deaths daily

8 US Statistics 8,219 each day 342 each hour 6 every minute 1 every 10 seconds 8,219 each day 342 each hour 6 every minute 1 every 10 seconds

9 Church Statistics 70 abuse allegations by churches weekly Tampa District is no exception 70 abuse allegations by churches weekly Tampa District is no exception

10 Tale of Two Churches Forest Hills Cork Forest Hills Cork

11 Statistics 1 in 6 sexually females assaulted during their lifetime Though females are abused more than males, cases involving males are increasing. – 73% by someone they know 1 in 6 sexually females assaulted during their lifetime Though females are abused more than males, cases involving males are increasing. – 73% by someone they know

12 Sexual Offender Stats 1266 – Hillsborough Co 855 - Tampa 22 - Lutz 37 - Brandon 1266 – Hillsborough Co 855 - Tampa 22 - Lutz 37 - Brandon

13 Sexual Offender Stats 90 - Forest Hills - 33612 14 - 1st Brandon - 33510 6 - Hillsborough - 33617 9 - Saint James - 33647 1 - Van Dyke - 33558 90 - Forest Hills - 33612 14 - 1st Brandon - 33510 6 - Hillsborough - 33617 9 - Saint James - 33647 1 - Van Dyke - 33558

14 Definitions Child Abuse: Any willful act or threatened act that results in any physical, mental, or sexual injury or harm that causes or is likely to cause the child’s physical, mental, or emotional health to be significantly impaired.

15 Corporal discipline of a child by a parent or legal custodian for disciplinary purposes does not in itself constitute abuse when it does not result in harm to the child. [Fla. Statute: s.39.01(2)]

16 If Abuse is Suspected? Do not act on your own and initiate an interview. Do inform those you are in charge; e.g. pastor, church leaders etc… of your information. “When in doubt shout it out” in other words, ask for help and guidance. Do not act on your own and initiate an interview. Do inform those you are in charge; e.g. pastor, church leaders etc… of your information. “When in doubt shout it out” in other words, ask for help and guidance.

17 Physical Abuse Violent non-accidental contact which results in injury.

18 Physical Abuse Violent non- accidental contact which results in injury.

19 Physical Indicators Unexplained bruises, welts, burns, lacerations, abrasions In suspicious areas Unexplained bruises, welts, burns, lacerations, abrasions In suspicious areas

20 Location of Injuries Normal Bruising Areas –Forehead –Elbows –Knees –Shins Normal Bruising Areas –Forehead –Elbows –Knees –Shins

21 Location of Injuries Suspicious Bruising Areas - Front –Face –Groin –Upper thighs Suspicious Bruising Areas - Front –Face –Groin –Upper thighs

22 Location of Injuries Suspicious Bruising Areas - Back –Back –Back of upper leg –Back of lower leg Suspicious Bruising Areas - Back –Back –Back of upper leg –Back of lower leg

23 Behavioral Indicators Behavioral extremes –Aggressiveness –Withdrawal –Overly compliant –Depressed –Hyperactive Behavioral extremes –Aggressiveness –Withdrawal –Overly compliant –Depressed –Hyperactive

24 Behavioral Indicators Afraid –Of parents –Of going home –Of physical contact –When other kids cry Afraid –Of parents –Of going home –Of physical contact –When other kids cry

25 Sexual Abuse Any form of sexual activity with a child/youth, whether at the church, at home, or any other setting.

26 Physical Indicators Difficulty walking, sitting Pregnancy Bloody, stained or torn underwear Difficulty walking, sitting Pregnancy Bloody, stained or torn underwear

27 Physical Indicators Bruises or bleeding in external genitalia, vaginal or anal areas Venereal disease Bruises or bleeding in external genitalia, vaginal or anal areas Venereal disease

28 Behavioral Indicators Unwilling to change for gym Sexual knowledge beyond age Sexually acting out Sometimes none Unwilling to change for gym Sexual knowledge beyond age Sexually acting out Sometimes none

29 Emotional Abuse A pattern of intentional conduct which crushes a child’s spirit.

30 Physical Indicators Speech disorders Lags in physical development Failure-to-thrive Speech disorders Lags in physical development Failure-to-thrive

31 Behavioral Indicators Habit disorders Learning disorders Sleep disorders Poor self concept Extremes in behavior Habit disorders Learning disorders Sleep disorders Poor self concept Extremes in behavior

32 Neglect The failure to provide for a child’s basic needs.

33 Physical Indicators Consistent hunger Poor hygiene Inappropriate dress Lack of supervision Unattended medical needs Consistent hunger Poor hygiene Inappropriate dress Lack of supervision Unattended medical needs

34 Behavioral Indicators Begging/stealing food Constant fatigue Developmental lags Seeks attention and affection Begging/stealing food Constant fatigue Developmental lags Seeks attention and affection

35 Behavioral Indicators Cautions Present differently with each child Be aware of cultural differences Present differently with each child Be aware of cultural differences

36 Behavioral Indicators Cautions There may be no indicators Behaviors may relate to other disorders There may be no indicators Behaviors may relate to other disorders

37 Reminder When in doubt shout it out, seek out help and guidance. Once you and church personnel confirm suspected abuse, we are responsible for calling it in to the Abuse Line. When in doubt shout it out, seek out help and guidance. Once you and church personnel confirm suspected abuse, we are responsible for calling it in to the Abuse Line.

38 Profile of an Abuser

39 Any occupation Any race or ethnic group Any economic or social group Any occupation Any race or ethnic group Any economic or social group

40 Profile of an Abuser Any gender Any age Any marital status Any sexual orientation Any gender Any age Any marital status Any sexual orientation

41 Profile of an Abuser Probably abused as a child Note: People who were abused do not all abuse, but most who do abuse were abused. Probably abused as a child Note: People who were abused do not all abuse, but most who do abuse were abused.

42 Additional Stressors Substance abuse Marital problems Emotional problems Job problems Substance abuse Marital problems Emotional problems Job problems

43 Though rare, and individual can call the Abuse Line on themselves. They have a desire to protect others and themselves. Possibly an offender who is following guidelines of the law. Though rare, and individual can call the Abuse Line on themselves. They have a desire to protect others and themselves. Possibly an offender who is following guidelines of the law.

44 Profile Physical Abuser Negative attitude Hot temper Low self-esteem Blames others Negative attitude Hot temper Low self-esteem Blames others

45 Profile Sexual Abuser Desires power and control Poor impulse control Manipulative Moves frequently Desires power and control Poor impulse control Manipulative Moves frequently

46 Profile Sexual Abuser Excessive interest in children Tries to be alone with children Excessive interest in children Tries to be alone with children

47 Profile Sexual Abuser Grooming behaviors Engages child’s parents Slowly develops relationship with child If child does not object, intensives Grooming behaviors Engages child’s parents Slowly develops relationship with child If child does not object, intensives

48 Responding to Abuse Not if, but when

49 Responding to Allegations Acknowledge Facilitate Act Acknowledge Facilitate Act

50 Avoiding accusations According to CPP and HUMC policy, when teaching or working with children you should have at least two teachers/adults per class. If only one teacher is available, that class should be conducted in an open observable location within close proximity to other classes or teachers. According to CPP and HUMC policy, when teaching or working with children you should have at least two teachers/adults per class. If only one teacher is available, that class should be conducted in an open observable location within close proximity to other classes or teachers.

51 Is it true? But kids lie… Our pastor wouldn’t do that… He was only alone with him for a minute… But kids lie… Our pastor wouldn’t do that… He was only alone with him for a minute…

52 Is it true? Women don’t do that… He’s never been like that with me… It would ruin her reputation if I report… Women don’t do that… He’s never been like that with me… It would ruin her reputation if I report…

53 Is it true? But he’s a –Doctor –Sunday School teacher But she’s the –Chair of Staff Parish –Neighborhood Police Officer But he’s a –Doctor –Sunday School teacher But she’s the –Chair of Staff Parish –Neighborhood Police Officer

54 Reporting Abuse Suspicion of abuse Reporting mandated by law Confidentiality of reporter Suspicion of abuse Reporting mandated by law Confidentiality of reporter

55 Reporting Abuse 1-800-96-ABUSE or 1-800-962-2873 For suspected abuse by persons responsible for a child’s welfare 1-800-96-ABUSE or 1-800-962-2873 For suspected abuse by persons responsible for a child’s welfare

56 Reporting Abuse Report to local law enforcement For suspected abuse by non caretaker Report to local law enforcement For suspected abuse by non caretaker

57 Reporting Abuse Policy Ensure child’s safety Remove accused from group Ensure child’s safety Remove accused from group

58 Reporting Abuse Policy Do not act on your own. Notify pastor Notify DS Notify parents (If parent is the accused, follow advice of authorities.) Do not act on your own. Notify pastor Notify DS Notify parents (If parent is the accused, follow advice of authorities.)

59 Reporting Abuse Policy Notify accused if staff or volunteer The accused must remove themselves from having direct contact with children, until the case is investigated and cleared. Note: Share only that allegation has been made. Notify accused if staff or volunteer The accused must remove themselves from having direct contact with children, until the case is investigated and cleared. Note: Share only that allegation has been made.

60 Reporting Abuse Policy Written report Only predetermined spokesperson speaks to media Written report Only predetermined spokesperson speaks to media

61 Facilitating a Disclosure Child’s greatest fears –No one will believe –Someone will be hurt –Offender will go to jail –Family will be split up Child’s greatest fears –No one will believe –Someone will be hurt –Offender will go to jail –Family will be split up

62 Facilitating a Disclosure A child has a reason –For choosing you –For choosing now A child has a reason –For choosing you –For choosing now

63 Facilitating a Disclosure Relax. Do not react with shock, disgust or disbelief. Relax. Do not react with shock, disgust or disbelief.

64 Facilitating a Disclosure Go slowly. Use open-ended questions or “tell me more”. Go slowly. Use open-ended questions or “tell me more”.

65 Facilitating a Disclosure Avoid leading or yes/no questions. Use the child’s language. Avoid leading or yes/no questions. Use the child’s language.

66 Facilitating a Disclosure Allow the child to determine how much to disclose. Congratulate the courage to disclose. Allow the child to determine how much to disclose. Congratulate the courage to disclose.

67 Facilitating a Disclosure Reassure that help is available. Explain what will happen next. Reassure that help is available. Explain what will happen next.

68 Role Play

69 Facilitating a Disclosure 1. Relax. 2. Do not react with shock, disgust or disbelief. 3. Go slowly. 4. Use open-ended questions or “tell me more”. 5. Avoid leading or yes/no questions. 6. Use the child’s language. 7. Allow the child to determine how much to disclose. 8. Congratulate the courage to disclose. 9. Reassure that help is available. 10. Explain what will happen next. 1. Relax. 2. Do not react with shock, disgust or disbelief. 3. Go slowly. 4. Use open-ended questions or “tell me more”. 5. Avoid leading or yes/no questions. 6. Use the child’s language. 7. Allow the child to determine how much to disclose. 8. Congratulate the courage to disclose. 9. Reassure that help is available. 10. Explain what will happen next.

70 Care for Victims Immediate Care Acknowledge Be there Care Immediate Care Acknowledge Be there Care

71 Care for Victims Victims are: Never responsible for causing abuse Never to be blamed Never capable of consent Victims are: Never responsible for causing abuse Never to be blamed Never capable of consent

72 Care for Victims Child Sexual Abuse Abuser is: Always Wrong! Solely responsible! Child Sexual Abuse Abuser is: Always Wrong! Solely responsible!

73 Care for Victims Ensure proper mental health care by professional

74 Care for Victims Issues Trust Spiritual Emotional Physical Issues Trust Spiritual Emotional Physical

75 Care of Victims Reactions Fear Guilt Anger Shame Reactions Fear Guilt Anger Shame

76 Care of Victims Possible outcomes Aggressiveness Depression Low self-esteem Boundary difficulties Possible outcomes Aggressiveness Depression Low self-esteem Boundary difficulties

77 Care of Victims Possible outcomes Promiscuity Dependency problems Develops “tough skin” Rescues others Possible outcomes Promiscuity Dependency problems Develops “tough skin” Rescues others

78 Care of Other Victims Family Members Peers Other Workers Congregation Family of Accused Abuser Family Members Peers Other Workers Congregation Family of Accused Abuser

79 What About Offenders? Do they belong in the church? How do we help them? Can they be cured? Do they belong in the church? How do we help them? Can they be cured?

80 Discipline Unacceptable Corporal punishment Hitting, shoving, pushing, poking, kicking Yelling, screaming Unacceptable Corporal punishment Hitting, shoving, pushing, poking, kicking Yelling, screaming

81 Discipline Unacceptable Belittling, humiliation Sarcastic and degrading Remarks Confinement Unacceptable Belittling, humiliation Sarcastic and degrading Remarks Confinement

82 Discipline Acceptable Encouraging Reinforcing Giving alternatives Acceptable Encouraging Reinforcing Giving alternatives

83 Discipline Acceptable Giving Consequences Setting limits Time outs Diversion Acceptable Giving Consequences Setting limits Time outs Diversion

84 Discipline Speak –Respectfully, calmly, low tone Listen –Take an interest Establish trust Speak –Respectfully, calmly, low tone Listen –Take an interest Establish trust

85 Discipline Appropriate to developmental level of child Interesting activities with high level of involvement Appropriate to developmental level of child Interesting activities with high level of involvement

86 Boundaries Careful use of touch Hand, shoulder, upper back (never areas covered by bathing suit) In presence of other adults Careful use of touch Hand, shoulder, upper back (never areas covered by bathing suit) In presence of other adults

87 Boundaries Never touch Against a child’s will If the child uncomfortable If over-stimulating Never touch Against a child’s will If the child uncomfortable If over-stimulating

88 Boundaries No roughhousing No massages No sitting in laps (older children) No embarrassing student about body No roughhousing No massages No sitting in laps (older children) No embarrassing student about body

89 Boundaries Roles Teacher, director, leader Not best friend Roles Teacher, director, leader Not best friend

90 Boundaries Not everything is confidential Suspected abuse and neglect Potential danger to self or others Not everything is confidential Suspected abuse and neglect Potential danger to self or others

91 Child and Youth Protection Policy Keeping Our Kids Safe

92 Protection Policy Screening Pastors Staff Volunteers (6 months at church) Screening Pastors Staff Volunteers (6 months at church)

93 Protection Policy Screening Process Application Interview Reference Checks Criminal Records Checks Screening Team Review Screening Process Application Interview Reference Checks Criminal Records Checks Screening Team Review

94 Prior convictions Typically, having a record of traffic violations, misdemeanors, and other minor infractions does not exclude someone from being able to work with children.

95 Protection Policy Criminal Records Checks and Sexual Offender Registry: http://www.fdle.state.fl. us/CriminalHistory/ Criminal Records Checks and Sexual Offender Registry: http://www.fdle.state.fl. us/CriminalHistory/

96 Protection Policy Supervision One Screened Adult Two Adults Recommended Two Screened Adults Preferred Supervision One Screened Adult Two Adults Recommended Two Screened Adults Preferred

97 Supervision Recommendations Reasonable ratios 3:1 under 3 5:1 3-6 10:1 for 7 and up Reasonable ratios 3:1 under 3 5:1 3-6 10:1 for 7 and up

98 Protection Policy Sign In/Out Procedure Required Infants – 2 nd grade Recommended Grades 3-5 Sign In/Out Procedure Required Infants – 2 nd grade Recommended Grades 3-5

99 Protection Policy Training Initially Annually Training Initially Annually

100 Questions??? www.foresthillstampa.org

101 Closing Prayer

102 Developed in 2004 By Sharon Davis Responsive Reading from Safe Sanctuaries by Joy Thornburg Melton Discipleship Resources Responsive Reading from Safe Sanctuaries by Joy Thornburg Melton Discipleship Resources


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