2 Accidents/Illness of Family Members Honest explanation of what is happening geared to their ability to understandIf the person is sick and will recover the child should be reassured the person should soon be well againIf the illness is serious adults should tell children the truth in a calm, reassuring way.Reassure that nothing they did caused the accidents/illnessChildren sometimes overhear the wrong things about accidents/illness
3 Divorce 10% of all children currently live with a divorced parent Keep things as normal as possibleParents should not discuss problems of divorce with childrenGive children honest answersExplain the custody plan to children who are old enoughDevelop new traditionsNever give the child false hope of parents reunitingHelp the children stay in touch with friendsWatch for changes in the child’s behaviorWork with the school to help your child adjust
4 DeathBasic part of lifeAllow children to talk and grieveExplain at the child’s level what has happenedExplain well enough that they do not expect person to returnChildren need to know that they did not cause the deathMaintain the child’s routine
5 Domestic violenceBe a support person for the childSeek help from family and local domestic violence agenciesSeek counselingWork with the school for the child’s safety
6 Job Loss/Financial Difficulties Make a special effort not to argue about money in front of childrenIt is important not to hide financial problems from older childrenParents need to be clear about possible consequences of the problems and the need to cut back on spending
7 Relocation/Family Move Point out the positive reasons for movingBe honest about the move, mention bad as well as the goodExplain each step that will happen as they moveIf possible, take children to see where they are movingLet children help with packingPlan to spend more time with children before and after the move
8 Substance Abuse-Drugs and Alcohol Parents can draw from support groups with people in the same situationTalk to school counselor, trusted teacher, or religious leader
9 World Events- Natural Disasters, Terrorism Seek safe shelterKeep children safeTalk to them and let them know what is happeningSeek counselingReassure children
10 Types of Assistance Agencies that Help Families in Crisis Aid to Families with Dependent Children-AFDC—Federal Program that helps families with little or no income. Also known as WelfareAmerican Red Cross—Helps people when a natural disaster occurs, such as a flood, hurricane, tornado, earthquake, etc. Can supply temporary food and shelter
11 Employment Security Commission—State agency that helps people find jobs that match their skills. Health Department—Government agency that provides health care for low and no income families as well as educational programs.March of Dimes—Non-profit agency that researches and tries to help fight birth defects a well as providing funds for persons with disabilities that need assistance.
12 Narcotics Anonymous—Non-profit group that lends support to persons addicted to drugs and their familiesAlcoholics Anonymous—Non-profit group that lends support to persons addicted to alcohol.Parents Anonymous--Non-profit group that lends support to parents who are at risk for abusing their children.Social Services—Governmental agency that helps people with low income in getting health care, food stamps, and help for family members with disabilities.
13 Grief Share—Grief Recovery Support group to help anyone with the loss of a family member. Local churches with this Support Group are listed on their website.S.C.A.N.-Stop Child Abuse Now—Helps parents who are at risk of abusing their children