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1 Perspective The human and the spiritual together Spirituality is an inherent part of our human journey— Spirituality is an inherent part of our human journey—not to see spirituality as “other worldly” or as “escaping” our humanness The self and God together, interrelated My human being with God as a spirituality for the second half of life

2 Five Parts I. Adulthood and Spirituality II. Midlife Challenges III. Ways of Being IV. Adult Imaging of God V. The Imago Dei

3 I. Adulthood and Spirituality

4 What does it mean to be an adult? Two essential hallmarks: integrity and mutuality A mature adult is integral A mature adult is integral (its own whole). This whole relates in considered mutuality to the other. This whole relates in considered mutuality to the other.

5 Integrity and Mutuality Integrity and considered mutuality always go together. (If I can be fully me, then the other can be fully other.) Integrity and considered mutuality define what it means to be fully human. Caution: we all have unfinished pieces and shortcomings. Integrity and relating in considered mutuality need not be perfect, only “good enough.”

6 A self that is integral Has grown up, can stand on its own, is self- possessed. Can own all of its “pieces,” the good and the bad, the welcome and the unwelcome. Has its locus of valuing inside and not with significant others outside. Is its own cohesive, felt-from-within, self- authoring whole.

7 What is considered mutuality? Relating to whomever or whatever is other in a way that respects that other’s difference, individuality, and boundaries Genuine concern for the unique character, particular history, and special needs of the other.

8 So, considered mutuality… 1. finds the unique wholeness of the other relates to an unique actual other, “this” other person, institution, or aspect of the environment. two distinctive features of relating: - includes the culture, context, and circumstances of the other; - includes the culture, context, and circumstances of the other; - senses the nature or purpose or spirit of the other - senses the nature or purpose or spirit of the other

9 So, considered mutuality… 2. is love and care for the other “Becoming accomplished in the mutuality of love is the indispensable key to becoming human.” “Becoming accomplished in the mutuality of love is the indispensable key to becoming human.” And what is love? “Love is the thoughtful and deliberate practice of attending to the needs, concerns, and well-being of others.” And what is love? “Love is the thoughtful and deliberate practice of attending to the needs, concerns, and well-being of others.” All of us need this kind of love that flows from integrity and considered mutuality. All of us need this kind of love that flows from integrity and considered mutuality.

10 So, considered mutuality… 3. is justice for the other. Impels us to respond to the other in ways that are just. Often, this justice is framed in terms of the rights of the other or of equality under the law. Impels us to respond to the other in ways that are just. Often, this justice is framed in terms of the rights of the other or of equality under the law. But if we are all equal, we are also all quite unique. Paying attention to the “inner” of the other is also part of justice. “A great deal of our integrity relies on how well we can listen to others.” Empathy and justice go together.

11 Why talk about being an adult? If we are mature adults, the human and the spiritual actually do go together. To be an adult is to be a spiritual person. A spirituality grounded in the fullness of the human is about wholeness and considered mutuality. A fully human and fully embodied spirituality is always about integrity and respect, loving care, and justice for the other.

12 Important Characteristics of Being an Adult As part of integrity and considered mutuality, adults have: As part of integrity and considered mutuality, adults have: 1) their own voice 2) empathy for self and other 2) intimacy with the other 4) dialogue with the other

13 Voice From our integrity, from the wholeness of our embodied, experienced selves. –There are times we need to say (verbally or symbolically) who we are and what we attest to. To have a voice is to have a self, and not to have a voice is not to be in adult relationship with the other. Not to listen to the other’s voice is to withhold respect, loving care, and justice.

14 Empathy Self-empathy is felt integrity, owning all the “pieces” of the self. To know and feel what we are feeling lets us be whole. Empathy for the other—being “in the inner world of the other as if it were my own” At the heart of integrity and of considered mutuality Makes intimacy possible

15 Intimacy Welcoming the feeling and depth of the other into the feeling and depth of the self Without it, and the empathy that goes with it, we cannot know the “inner” of the other. “Crucial to a mature sense of mutuality is an appreciation of the wholeness of the other person, with a special awareness of the other’s subjective experience.” (Judith Jordan)

16 Dialogue Happens when voice, empathy, and intimacy come together Wholeness of the self engaging the wholeness of the other, in respect, loving care, and justice. Without knowing the “inner” of the other: –change and transformation do not occur, and –integrity and considered mutuality of both parties is compromised. Adults dialogue (voice, empathy, intimacy).

17 Examples in Adult Religion Adult prayer –Is there a way of praying that is adult? Adult church –Is there a way of being church that honors and fosters a community of adults?

18 Adult Prayer? Allowing my whole embodied voice, coming from my feeling and the “inner” of myself, to be in conversation with the living God. Listening for God’s voice to touch me in my feeling and depth, my “inner.” Allowing the empathy of the living God to dwell within the “inner” of my self. Prayer as a dialogue of voice, of mutual empathy, and of intimacy.

19 Adult Church? A “place” where one can have a voice that is able to speak and be listened to A “place” of mutual empathy and shared pastoral care A “place” of intimacy, where the feeling and depth of the self and of the other are able to be honored A “place” where dialogue is an official language, allowing religious experience to be shared and God’s voice of challenge and transformation to emerge and be heard

20 Interlude Can you talk very briefly (2-3 minutes) with one or two people around you? Do the human and the spiritual go together? Does any part of this understanding of integrity and considered mutuality make sense for being an adult and a fully spiritual person? Do you think voice, empathy, intimacy, and dialogue go together in adulthood and in an adult spirituality, religious or not?

21 II. Midlife Challenges

22 Midlife Age thirty-five or forty, and beyond: A transition (easy or hard), a crisis for some and a liberation for others. The major life transition between the first and second half of life; the midpoint between birth and death. Often there is liminality, a “state of disorientation” as goals, identifications, values, and sense of self are in flux.

23 Midlife and Spirituality “But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the programme of life’s morning— for what was great in the morning will be little in the evening…” (Jung) The prizes for the first half of life are for “achievement,” not for “personality.” (Jung) “Among all my patients in the second half of life—that is to say, over thirty five—there has not been one whose problem in the last resort was not that of finding a religious outlook on life.” (Jung)

24 Four Challenges at Midlife (and a call to deeper spirituality?) 1. The Body 2. The Dream 3. Evil 4. Death

25 The Body At Midlife May not be the “obedient servant” as before Perhaps less stamina, the eyes less sharp, libido less strong, bones less dense, fat cells more autonomous, etc. Perhaps feeling less attractive Perhaps we have a major illness or loss or disability, or perhaps those we are close to experience these.

26 The Body At Midlife Midlife Question: Can I accept my body as it is now? Can I be my aging body? Am I more comfortable in my body now? Spirituality Question: How do I embody my spirituality now? Is there something God is calling me to embody in my life now?

27 The Dream At Midlife As a young adult: what I will be as I become my own person Usually about “love and work” Where is the dream now? Did it bring what I hoped it would? Could I even live it out? Am I disillusioned or depressed? Is family life or marriage changing? Is work and its meaning changing

28 The Dream At Midlife Midlife Question: Do I have a dream at this point in my life? If not, is there someone who can help me find it? Can the dream give me new life and draw me forward? Spirituality Question: Is there something calling me now, perhaps something important in a way that is new or different? Is my faith part of the dream?

29 Evil At Midlife Evil in the world and the evil in the self are not so easily ignored now. In what ways do I need to stand against violence, hatred, and injustice? If I made a list of things I can’t stand in other people, could it be that the list is also in me? Can I say: “There but for the grace of God go I”?

30 Evil At Midlife Midlife Question: Can I accept the reality of evil in the world (violence and injustice) and in myself (injustices, vices, or addictions)? Spirituality Question: Is there a way for “natural evil to be swallowed up in supernatural good?”

31 Death At Midlife Easily becomes a personal reality: “I am going to die.” Death as culmination raises the question: “What is the meaning of my life?” If it is my death, if no one can die for me, does that mean it is my life, no one can live for me? What goes into my understanding of death now? Is it loss, transition, annihilation, culmination, transformation, celebration, or what?

32 Death At Midlife Midlife Question: Can I accept the reality of death? What does it mean if I do that? What does it mean if I don’t? Spirituality Question: What meaning can I now make of death and of the Paschal Mystery (the suffering, death, and resurrection of Jesus)? What meaning can I now make of death and of the Paschal Mystery (the suffering, death, and resurrection of Jesus)?

33 Interlude Can you talk very briefly (2-3 minutes) with one or two people around you? Is (or was) your experience of midlife more like a transition, more like a crisis, more like a liberation, or what? Could coming to terms with the body, the dream, evil, and death open me to a spirituality of compassion?

34 III. Ways of Being in the Second Half of Life

35 Second Half of Life Choices Many dialectical choices: ways of being that are very human and very religious Jesus talked about some of these choices as ways of being Three (of a number) of ways of being

36 Being Fearful vs. Having Trust and Courage Being fearful: issues of health, physical harm, safety, financial concerns, concerns for family, wars, political unrest, etc. Jesus talked about fear, and he kept talking about having trust and courage. “Trust in God.” “Do not be afraid.”

37 Being Judgmental vs. Being Forgiving Being judgmental: all the things that are not the way they should be, the ways I have been violated, disrespected, etc. Jesus talked about being judgmental and being forgiving. “Judge not that you be not judged.” “Forgive your neighbor, not seven times but seventy times seven.” “Forgive your neighbor, not seven times but seventy times seven.”

38 Being Entitled vs. Being of Service Being entitled: all the things that should be mine, all the things I have worked so hard for, all that I deserve for what I have done, etc. Jesus talked about being entitled and about being of service. “Do not take the first place.” “I came not to be served but to serve.” “I came not to be served but to serve.” “The last shall be first.” “The last shall be first.” The washing of the feet at the Last Supper. The washing of the feet at the Last Supper.

39 Interlude Can you talk very briefly (2-3 minutes) with one or two people around you? Why are being fearful, being judgmental, and being entitled so seductive in the second half of life? Is one of these or some other my favorite? What helps me to go forward with trust, courage, forgiveness, and in service to others?

40 IV. Adult Imaging of God in the Second Half of Life

41 Imaging God Develops as we ourselves develop and mature In childhood and adolescence, while our imaging of reality is still developing, our imaging of God is usually childlike and adolescent. In adulthood, as reasonably whole selves relating in considered mutuality, our imaging of God is at least able to be adult as well.

42 A “Superego God” The God of childhood and adolescence. It has parent-like authority and a parent- like voice, and it is very interested in controlling how we should be and how we should act. From the perspective of adulthood—it is an incomplete God, a God still forming, a God is which all the “pieces” have not quite come together.

43 A “Living God” The God of adulthood is a God of mutuality. We we can relate to this integral God out of our own integrity. A God of transforming mutuality in an adult relationship with us. A complete God, a God of adult imaging, a God fully formed. Imaging this “Living God” is best described by the saints and the mystics.

44 Imaging the “S uperego God” Supreme Being—all-powerful, at a great distance from us, and yet all-seeing. God of Law—to obey the law is to be OK with God; we are guilty when we fail. God loves us when we are good and punishes us when we are bad. God of Belief—to have the right belief is to be right with God. God of Control—most of the things I really want to do are not allowed. God of the Group—church is the “place” where we worship the Supreme Being, the God of Law, the God of Belief, and the God of Control.

45 Imaging the “Living God” A transformation of the ways we image the Superego God of childhood and adolescence. We personally experience rather than know about this God. –An experience of salvation rather than its promise. –Close and intimate rather than distant. –Not interested in control but in our growth and flourishing as whole adults who relate to creation in considered mutuality.

46 A “Living God” is… 1. a God as Thou Transformation of the Supreme Being An intimate, personal relationship: “What God asks is a living relationship, an ‛I am,’ an ‛I am who is,’ an ‛I am with you.’ What God wants is an answering ‛I am’ too, one that says, ‛Here I am too. I am with you.’” (Ann Ulanov) “You are closer to me than I am to myself.” (Saint Augustine) (Saint Augustine)

47 A “Living God” is… 2. a God of Love Transformation of the God of Law God of Unconditional Acceptance. Is there anything that can make God not love us? God of Conscience and Personal Responsibility—respecting the “inner.” In mutual indwelling with us, and we experience a synergy (or shared energy), an empowerment in God which makes us even more our own integral process.

48 A “Living God” is… 3. a God of Mystery Transformation of the God of Belief We dwell in the God of Mystery and the God of Mystery dwells in us. “In my childhood, your love was there waiting for me; “In my childhood, your love was there waiting for me; As I grew up, it grew with me; As I grew up, it grew with me; And now it is like a great chasm whose depths are past sounding.” And now it is like a great chasm whose depths are past sounding.” (St. Thérèse of Lisieux) (St. Thérèse of Lisieux)

49 A “Living God” is… 4. a God of Freedom Transformation of the God of Control Struggle for freedom from God is transformed into a freedom in God. We surrender to a God who lets us be free, and our realization of the freedom comes from the surrendering. “Love God and do what you will.” (St. Augustine)

50 A “Living God” is… 5. a God of Community Transformation of the God of the Group Church is the “place” where we celebrate God as Thou, the God of Love, the God of Mystery, and the God of Freedom Deeply enlivening experience; we want to give back what we receive Deepens integrity, mutual love, mutual caring, mutual respect, and justice—all reaching across boundaries.

51 Interlude Can you talk very briefly (2-3 minutes) with one or two people around you? Does how we image the “Superego God” as we are growing up and how we are at least able to image the “Living God” as adults make any sense? Can our experience of the “Living God” deepen our integrity and considered mutuality in the second half of life?

52 V. The Imago Dei

53 The Imago Dei How the human and the spiritual come together To see the fullness of adulthood and adult spirituality in the image and likeness of God

54 Imago Dei God is Integrity and Considered Mutuality (The Trinity) God is Love God is Justice

55 Imago Dei God is Empathy (The Incarnation) God is Care God is Forgiveness

56 Imago Dei God is Freedom God is Mystery God is the Witnessing Community

57 Imago Dei God is the Servant God is a Resurrected Body God is the Dream

58 The journey into self is a journey into God, and the journey into God is a journey into self.

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