The Bullied Student The bullied student feels: –Unworthy of respect, unpopular, isolated, shamed. –Boys are less likely than girls to tell an adult. Coloroso, Barbara (2010). The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School--How Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle (Updated Edition) (p. 49). HarperCollins e-books. Kindle Edition. 77% of students have admitted to being a victim of bullying
4 Markers of Bullying Imbalance of power Intent to harm Threat of further aggression Terror
The Bully Bullying is not about anger. It’s not even about conflict. It’s often about contempt—a powerful feeling of dislike toward somebody considered to be worthless, inferior, or undeserving of respect. Bullying can also be about an attempt to increase social status among peers or friends.
H. Priebe-Diaz, Human Relations, Diversity & Equity Bullying Then & Now
Facebook, emails, text messages, IM, Ask FM, any electron form of communication NOTE: Cyber bullying is more than a school issue it is a legal issue. Police can become involved if it is founded that cyber bullying has occurred Stop- Block- Tell- Stop- Stop communicating Block- Block them from your contacts Tell- Tell an adult
May include: Hurtful name- calling, teasing, gossiping, making threats, making, rude noises, taunting, racial slurs, sexual comments. Verbal Bullying
May include: Rejecting, terrorizing, extorting, defaming, intimidating, humiliating, blackmailing, manipulating friendships, isolating, ostracizing, using peer pressure, or rating or ranking personal characteristics. Relational Bullying
Girl Drama & Relational bullying Cliques Isolating ganging up siding Teasing Clothes Body image Not all drama is bullying.
Bystander Over 6 million American schoolchildren have been bullied in the past six months. Whether you cheer on the bully, or silently watch, you are supporting the bully.
What can a bystander do? Try to diffuse the situation. If you can, stand up to the bully and let them know that it's not okay. Take a stand –“What you are doing is not right” –“Knock it off.” Report it at school Refuse to watch Don’t join in. Support the victim. Let them know you care and you don't think what happened to them was fair or right.
R ecognize R efuse R eport Solution to ending bullying
R ecognize R espond R eport Staff Referral Teacher and Assistant Principal Investigation Consequence Communication Documentation Counselor Victim Support Teach Resiliency Bully
Bullying Report Process 1. Target/ Bystander makes a report by filling out a witness statement 2. Counseling support will be offered if the student is in crisis 3. Investigation is conducted by Assistant Principal Cooper 4. If bullying has occurred it is documented and consequences are given
Review What can you do if you witness bullying at school? What is the definition of a bully? Out of the 3 roles of bullying, the Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, who has the greatest impact in helping to end bullying? How can a bystander help end bullying? How do you make a report of bullying?