1. Creating and Maintaining Healthy Relationships

2. Pursuing Biblically Effective Relationships Matthew 9:9-13; 11:16-19 Pursuing Biblically Effective Relationships Matthew 9:9-13; 11:16-19

3. 9 As Jesus went on from there, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at the tax collector’s booth. “Follow me,” he told him, and Matthew got up and followed him. 10 While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples. 9 As Jesus went on from there, he saw a man named Matthew sitting at the tax collector’s booth. “Follow me,” he told him, and Matthew got up and followed him. 10 While Jesus was having dinner at Matthew’s house, many tax collectors and sinners came and ate with him and his disciples.

4. 11 When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” 12 On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. 13 But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ [a] For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” Matt. 9:9-13a 11 When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” 12 On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. 13 But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ [a] For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” Matt. 9:9-13a

5. 16 “To what can I compare this generation? They are like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling out to others: 17 “‘We played the pipe for you, and you did not dance; we sang a dirge, and you did not mourn.’ 18 For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, ‘He has a demon.’ 16 “To what can I compare this generation? They are like children sitting in the marketplaces and calling out to others: 17 “‘We played the pipe for you, and you did not dance; we sang a dirge, and you did not mourn.’ 18 For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, ‘He has a demon.’

6. 19 The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners.’ But wisdom is proved right by her deeds.” MATT. 11:16-19 19 The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Here is a glutton and a drunkard, a friend of tax collectors and sinners.’ But wisdom is proved right by her deeds.” MATT. 11:16-19

9. 20 “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, 21 that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. 22 I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one.

10. 23 I in them and you in me - so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.”

11. “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in.

12. “ 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ Matt. 25:31-46 “ 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ Matt. 25:31-46

13. How we act toward and before God How we act toward and before God

14. How we act toward others How we act toward others How we act toward and before God How we act toward and before God How we act toward others How we act toward others

15.  How we act toward and before God  How we act toward others  How we use and create opportunities  How we act toward and before God  How we act toward others  How we use and create opportunities

17. Is the measure of success where everyone is happy? Jn. 8:59 - they wanted to stone Jesus. Acts 7:54 - they gnashed their teeth at Stephen Jesus in the temple – angry at moneychangers Jesus in temple – angry that leaders didn’t want healing on Sabbath Is the measure of success where everyone is happy? Jn. 8:59 - they wanted to stone Jesus. Acts 7:54 - they gnashed their teeth at Stephen Jesus in the temple – angry at moneychangers Jesus in temple – angry that leaders didn’t want healing on Sabbath

18. Is it where there is little conflict? “Turn the other cheek….” Luke 6:27-31 Or where all is a win-win? Where there is no injustice? “Blessed are you when men revile you…” Is it where there is little conflict? “Turn the other cheek….” Luke 6:27-31 Or where all is a win-win? Where there is no injustice? “Blessed are you when men revile you…”

19. Of what motivated him, Jesus said, “I do nothing on my own, but what the father wants me to say I speak to you, what he teaches me, I speak to you.” Jn 8:26, 29 Jn. 6:38 “I do not do my will, but the will of my father who sent me.” Of what motivated him, Jesus said, “I do nothing on my own, but what the father wants me to say I speak to you, what he teaches me, I speak to you.” Jn 8:26, 29 Jn. 6:38 “I do not do my will, but the will of my father who sent me.”

20. How do we grow successful/effective relationships ?

23. Proverbs ties our …. Heart - passions, values, convictions to Our mind - our will, our ‘engine’ for “doing” to Our actions - eyes, ears, lips/tongue/mouth/lips, feet, hands to Expected results - the effect on ourselves and others, spiritually, socially, financially

24. Stay aware of how important relationships are. They will define us. Matt. 25:34-36 Be intentional about being effective Success is defined as ‘God honoring’ Stay aware of how important relationships are. They will define us. Matt. 25:34-36 Be intentional about being effective Success is defined as ‘God honoring’

25. Know the guidelines and tools you have available to you.  Word. Prayer. Holy spirit. Paul, “His strength is made perfect in my weakness…”  Proverbs (15) Know the guidelines and tools you have available to you.  Word. Prayer. Holy spirit. Paul, “His strength is made perfect in my weakness…”  Proverbs (15)

26. Keep God part of every relationship. Bring Jesus into your interactions…

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