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Understanding and Supporting the Anxious Child Allan Donsky MD FRCPC Psychiatry FRCPC Pediatrics Clinical Assistant Professor, Department of Psychiatry, University of Calgary Adjunct Professor, Department of Child and Youth Studies, Mount Royal University Mountain Park November 21, 2013
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General Principles Root word : Anxious, Anger, Anguish = Torment Anxiety can be a Symptom or a Disorder. Synonyms : apprehension, anguish, unease, concern, nervous, misgiving, qualm, disquiet, distress, dread, distraught, threatened, uneasiness, edgy, jittery, trepidation, timid, tense, uneasy, consternation,worry. Anxiety is apprehension, tension, or uneasiness from Anticipated danger. Anxiety has survival value Impairment or distress/suffering makes it a Disorder
10 The Spectrum of Fear and Anxiety in Children Typical, developmentally appropriate Severe anxiety symptoms
How common are Mental Health Disorders ? DisorderEstimated Prevalence % Any Anxiety Disorder6.4 ADHD4.8 Conduct Disorder4.2 Any Depressive Disorder3.5 Substance abuse0.8 PDD0.3 OCD0.2 Any Eating Disorder0.1 Tourette Syndrome0.1 Schizophrenia0.1 Bipolar<0.1 Any Disorder14.3 Waddell, Offord et al Can J Psychiatry 2002;47(9):825-832
What about temperament ? Arousal Behavioral Inhibition J Am Acad Child Adolesc Psychiatry. 1993 Jul;32(4):814-21.
How does Anxiety arise ? Genetics Temperament Environment Family Insecure Attachment Modeling Stress Media School Social Trauma Anxiety +/- Disorder Psychological Splitters and Clumpers
Cognitive Worry is a defining feature Attention Concern about adult matters Catastrophic thinking Rigid Hard time letting go Struggle to make choices Unable to see success Negative view of self and others
Behavioral Fight Flight ( avoidance) Freeze Repetitive actions Nail biting, licking lips, pull hair, chew clothing, pacing Obsessions (repetitive thoughts) or compulsions. Need for reassurance, help seeking, overdependence
Why is Anxiety missed ? Awareness Internalizing Silence is seen as absence of problem Tend to normalize shyness Labeled as other things ( very unhelpful !! )
Labeled as other things Oppositional Defiant Manipulative Attention seeking Demanding Confrontational Sneaky Pushes buttons Lazy Avoidant Selfish Aggravating Annoying Ignorant Rude Stubborn The real question: “What is going on ?”
So what if there is Anxiety? Academic Attendance, Avoidance, Underachievement Behavioral Avoidance, oppositional Cognitive No risks, confidence, image Developmental Image, success, confidence, Emotional Stunted Family Power struggles, tired Physical Gym avoidance Social Loneliness, tobacco & alcohol use
Common Beliefs About Worries: All untrue Worrying: Motivates me Helps find solutions to problems Prevents negative outcomes Protects me from negative emotions Is a positive personality trait …it means I care Francis, K. & Dugas, M. J. (2004). Assessing positive beliefs about worry: Validation of a structured interview. Personality and Individual Differences, 37, 405-415.
What can I do to help ? Treat own Anxieties Get Educated Stop Criticism Rescuing” – Makes it worse Dismissing their experience Reassuring the wrong way ( “ Don’t worry”) Start Reassuring the right way ( “ You can handle this “) Bravery = Support activities in spite of Anxiety Encourage facing new situations
Are Feelings Real ? “My feelings are real but they don’t always tell me the truth”
Relationship is everything Establish trust People don’t care how much you know till they know how much you care Be authentic …let them see your weaknesses Stay calm….even if you do not know what to do ! Act as a coach, not solver Recognize patterns so they can be: Explored Explained Expanded Have proactive conversations Use student’s ideas first and then yours
How much do I push ? Stress Performance Breaking point Rage Lose it Meltdown Freak out Over-react Peak PushBack off
Life is Simple, not easy Moments Feelings Actions Helpful Unhelpful ( F words) Avoidance Relief “Pop ups” Anxiety Education Relaxation Emotional vocabulary Coaching Reality check Evidence Realistic & Constructive Worry Thermometer Mastery & Pleasure Internal praise Modeling Social engineering Exposure Experiments Problem Solving Thoughts
Excellence and “ Good Enough” Perfectionism is unattainable = set up for failure = never feel good enough = give up or burn out trying Need to be real Effort is most important Honor roll is 80 % No such thing as a mistake what is worst thing that can happen ? Celebrate “Not knowing” “Own it,fix it, Show some learning “ Self worth is not tied to achievement
Balancing Act for Adults Gentle Firm limits Refrain from Criticism Exposure Courage/Bravery Treat Parental Anxiety Unified & Consistent Goldilocks
Educational Learning Disabilities Attentional issues can be secondary School Modifications Teacher/ Resource and Admin support Time out/Quiet place Bullying Academic load Homework issues Tutoring. Attendance
But I don’t have time to do this ? Definition of Insanity……… Until you stop doing what is not working there is no space to do something different
Online Resources American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. Aacap.org Anxiety Disorders Association of America adaa.org AnxietyBC™. Anxietybc.com Canadian Paediatric Society. caringforkids.cps.ca/behaviour/fears.htmcaringforkids.cps.ca/behaviour/fears.htm Chansky, T. (2004). Freeing your child from anxiety: Powerful, practical solutions to overcome your child’s fears, worries, and phobias. New York: Broadway Books. Cheng, M. (2006). Selective mutism: A guide for teachers. www.drcheng.ca/resources/Articles/selective_mutism-for_school.doc Cheng, Mi. (2009). Overcoming anxiety: A guide for families. www.drcheng.ca/resources/Articles/anxiety_info_for_families.doc Garland, E.J. & Clark, S.L. (2000). Taming worry dragons: A manual for children, parents,, and other coaches. Vancouver, BC: Children’s and Women’s Health Centre of British Columbia. “ What to do when you worry too much; A kids guide to overcoming Anxiety” Dawn Huebner
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