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1 Mentoring "Let's get started!" (Workshop #1)

2 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup

3 Purpose: Spiritual growth to the likeness of Christ. Biblical basis: (Colossians 2:7) urges believers to be "rooted and built up in Christ, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness."

4 Informal Mentoring : Non-structured, spontaneous, informal; often called "modeling" though not the same; most common; tend to be overlooked and undervalued. Examples: gatherings for information dispatch & discussion; teacher showing students knowledge information; two people gathering often for interest & chatting, etc.

5 Formal Mentoring : structured, facilitated, & formal; commonly used in church (discipleship programs), business & education. Requires: understanding of biblical concept & carrying it out; identifying needs & importance; recruitment of mentors & mentorees; setting up preparations for building up relationships; setting up mentoring agreement with a specific purpose, goal, action steps, target time for completion, resources required, and process of evaluation.

6 Qualities & Role of a Mentor : Predestined to be conformed to likeness of Jesus (Romans 8:29) Attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ (Eph.4:13) Promotion of spiritual, emotional, & social growth - toward goal Model for mentoree to follow; play key role in God's pattern for growth in mentoree Help mentoree to reach goals efficiently

7 Avoid : criticizing; giving advice; casting judgment; rescuing by taking over Possess skills to focus on and meet mentoree needs Provides information, knowing things the mentoree does not Provides wisdom by applying truth and knowing what to do next Coaches with skills relative to God's plan for mentoree's life

8 Is a sounding board for asking questions and pre-testing ideas Is a trusted and respected friend without regard to schedule Helps devise broad-spectrum plans by giving perspective and advice Nurtures curiosity, opens doors, and shows possibilities Willing to take a chance on the mentoree

9 Can cultivate a relationship based on one another's needs Has the respect of other Christians and those in the marketplace Has a network of resources and makes them available Is consulted by others and is a source of godly and worldly wisdom Talks and listens, being both teacher and counselor Has a consistent lifestyle

10 Is able to diagnose and act on needs, seeing things in perspective Is biblically literate and skilled in biblical interpretation Expects and personally acts in terms of co-accountability Commits only to low-maintenance and light-impact mentorees Is process- and goal-oriented, being committed to results.

11 Role and Responsibilities of a Mentoree : Has insight into his/her own needs; is goal-oriented, and seeks challenging assignments and greater responsibilities Has an early evidence of a sense of purpose, often referred to as vision, mission, or God-given destiny Has a teachable spirit and puts aside the pride that prevents growth

12 Demonstrates initiative and is willing to be a doer, not just a hearer of the Word, thereby readily accepting responsibility Will have open eyes, recognizing that mentors are human and have the responsibility of making the mentoree more dependent on the Lord than on the mentor Has a servant's heart as it applies to the mentor

13 Will gradually increase in transparency, as the relationship with the mentor grows; some refer to this as becoming more "like family" Will not be "high maintenance and low impact" and will have the potential for purpose-related leadership.

14 Benefits of being a mentor : A close personal relationship with another person, including peer relationship, e.g. friendship between David & Jonathan (1 Sam.18:1); life-on- life relationships esp. among men; keep connected to the younger generation (a younger man often serve as a useful sounding board to bounce ideas off). There is the built-in accountability of answering to a younger man, and serving as his role model.

15 Personal renewal and revitalization. Mentoring helps younger men mature and older men rejuvenate, as we grow most in the process of helping others grow. At church, we need more interaction between generations. A sense of self-fulfillment - leaving a heritage to our next generation (Ps.90:12, The development of people is not a burden, but a blessing (Ps. 71:17-18).

16 Enhanced self-esteem - knowing our mentoree is attending to our saying and doing, which could sometimes be intimidating, but also exhilarating.

17 The confidence of having made a difference with your life. David is not concerned by what he possessed, but "what does God think of me?" (Ps. 71:18). He was not a perfect man, but a purposive man. He knows why he was out on this earth. No wonder he was described as a man after God's heart (1 Sam. 13:14; Acts 13:22). Mentoring is one means of making the move for one's life from success to significance, as it forces a man to think, not about acquisition of material resources, but about the unleashing of spiritual resources to another individual's life, which can make a difference, for now and for eternity.

18 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup

19 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup

20 Spiritual Growth Areas Setting Goals

21 Over-arching goal for Christians:  TO GROW TOWARD WHOLENESS IN THE IMAGE OF CHRIST FOR THE SAKE OF OTHERS.  Genesis  2 Cor. 3:18  Ephesians 2:10

22 “We are spiritual beings whose emotions, psychology, body and mind are the incarnation of our spiritual life in the world. Holistic spirituality always takes place in the midst of our emotional, psychological, physical, and mental conditions and emerges out of them.” ROBERT MULHOLLAND

23 “If you don’t know where you are going, you might wind up somewhere else.” Yogi Berra, Baseball Great

24 Tips for goal setting with mentees…  Set a long-term goal.  Determine a number of short-term goals.  Set goals for different areas of life and ministry but not so many that they become overwhelming.  Write goals down.  Prioritize goals.  Determine steps to achieve the goal.  Determine how you will measure success along the way.

25 SMART Guidelines for Setting Goals  S = specific.  M = measurable.  A = action oriented.  R = realistic and reasonable.  T = time defined.

26 My over-all statement of goal: To glorify God by being a faithful disciple of Jesus Christ, consistently growing into His image and reflecting His character in all areas of my life: growing holistically in my personal life, loving and leading my family, and serving with joy at SCBC, making full use of my gifts to encourage, equip and empower others to do the work of the ministry both in the church community and beyond.

27 PERSONAL: to stay on course toward holistic and well-balanced personal growth.  Physical – to do a consistent cardio physical exercise and maintain a healthy diet 1. To do a 1-2 hours exercise on a treadmill (or stationary bicycle) and swimming 2. Eat less carbohydrates (2 cups of rice/day) and more leafy, green vegetables, and fibre. Eat more fish and less red meat and noodles.

28 PERSONAL: to stay on course toward holistic and well- balanced personal growth.  Family – spend more time and engage in healthy conversations with them 1. maintain a consistent daily devotional time with my family 2. a date with Sandra, once a month 3. to engage in conversation with EJ and Tim at least once a week. 3. Family outing (once a month) – dine out, movies, play, etc. 4. Family vacation (2x/year)

29 PERSONAL: to stay on course toward holistic and well- balanced personal growth.  Spiritual – more intentional in seeking the Lord and being in His presence through silence, solitude and lectio divina (devotional reading) 1. Daily Prayer Hours (3x/day) using “A Guide To Prayer” 2. Days with the Lord – November 20, December 11, January 15, February 12 (no dates planned yet beyond these in view of my plan to do a Sabbatical leave) 3. Meeting a spiritual director once a month

30  Intellectual – to keep myself informed of the current events around the world and to be up to speed with relevant spiritual and ministry topics. 1. Read 1 book per month. Write a reflection summary for each book. 2. Read/watch news daily

31  Social – to capitalize my friendships with the Filipino community and reach out to them. 1. Attend friends and classmates’ social gatherings. 2. Use social networking to reach out to them.

32 “ ” MINISTRY: to lay out the groundwork for my new role in congregational care and outreach and ensure a smooth transition strategy from youth ministry.

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37 “ ” Mentors are just #2!

38 Homework: Reflect on the kind of person you want to be at age thirty, at fifty, at eighty.

39 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup

40 Spiritual Gifts 1. What it is and what it is not: not a talent and not a personality temperament 2. What are they? Biblical examples of these Spiritual gifts; 3. What is the difference between ministry spiritual gifts and edifying spiritual gifts; but it is not a ministry but an empowered ability to edify individuals as well as the Body of Christ

41 Spiritual Gifts 4. Working as a Body of Christ with humility and grace: seek to understand other people’s gifts; seek to look for God’s will and timing and not your own (God centered vs. self-centered) a. How can a mentor help their mentee discern the timing and apply his or her Spiritual gift in ministry and personally? b. How can a mentor complement his/her Spiritual gift with the mentee?

42 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup

43 Spiritual Gifts discussion  Work together with your own Spiritual gift group or one that you are interested in and identify how this gift can be used to edify others (as a mentee or as a mentor)

44 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup

45 Where to find mentors that meet my needs? It takes time to find one who can meet your needs; sometimes have to adjust our exxpectation, and devote more time and effort in the process. At church, pay attention to pastors, leaders, or mature Christians who might possess the characteristics you desire, amongst whom, the most desirable ones would be those who can challenge your faith, and those who are steadfast in faith and service.

46 Most important is to pray and consistently trust it to God for His guide and provision (2 Cor.5:7; Matt.7:7-8) Start finding: pray and open your eyes and see what's out there! Make contact by inviting possible ones for coffee/lunch, pray with him/her and find out if there is a chemistry there, and see if the relationship can start on mutual concerns and interests, most probably the area of our expertise. Bear in mind that effective communication is listening.

47 Some possible suggestions: Call him/her up and ask for an appointment to see him/her about a specific issue. Use a go-between to set up a meeting Get a referral (networking) Praise the person on his/her expertise, then ask him/her to use it to help you develop yours.

48 Offer to join his/her team or project - make yourself useful and learn from him/her Offer to solve a problem for him/her Bring him/her an interesting opportunity that you may have, or, bring him/her information in which he/she might be interested, or, ask him/her to read and react something that you have written.

49 Give him/her periodic update on yourself (occasional phone call or seasonal greeting card etc.) Wait for the right timing Pray for a mentor. Ask God to bring men/women into your life who can take you to a higher level of personal and spiritual maturity.

50 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup

51 Discussion

52 What’s happening 9:30 am- 9:45 amIntro 9:45 am - 10:15 am Sam Chan on Mentoring 10:15 am - 10:30 am Break 10:30 am - 11:00 am Pastor Johnston: Growth areas 11:00 AM - 11:30 amMarilyn Law: Spiritual Gifts (Intro) 11:30 am - 12:00 pmSpiritual Gifts (discussion) 12:00 pm - 1:00 pmLunch 1:00 pm - 1:20 pm Sam Chan: Where to find a mentor? 1:20 pm - 2:00 pm Discussion on personal goals, gifts, and mentoring model 2:00 pm - 2:30 PMSignup and cleanup


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