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1Responding to Angry Patients and Upset Family Members Guiding your responses and controlling your reactions in tense situations.Responding to Angry Patients and Upset Family Members
2Program Overview We will discuss and share examples of: The advantages and limitations of this training.The definitions and outcomes of anger;Our reactions, both positive and negative, to anger and strong emotions and how to encourage our positive responses;
3Program OverviewThe stages of crisis development, what to look for and how to respond;The verbal escalation continuum, what to look for and what to say;Nonverbal communication and how to present ourselves in a way that will reduce emotion and encourage reasoning; andEngaging in joint problem solving with the concerned parties.
4Advantages & Disadvantages What this training will and won’t provide
5Advantages of this Training It promotes consistency and uniformity when working with people. This will help us be more predictable and thoughtful.It will give us some ideas and insights into why things may be happening. This will help us to prevent some problems before they occur and others from getting worse. It will also help us to feel and show empathy for the other person.
6Advantages of this Training It will help us to communicate more effectively and consistently, especially during emotionally charged events. If we do this we may be able to stop a small problem from escalating into a larger one.It can enhance the delivery of services to our patients and their families. It helps us to better identify and meet their needs.It provides a structured approach to problem solving.
7Limitations of this Training It will not prevent/stop all incidents;It will not provide all of the answers;It will not change the people we interact with; andIt will not make us experts.REMEMBER: Unfortunately, there are no guarantees whenworking with people.
8Understanding AngerWhy? Because empathy comes easier with understanding
9A General Definition of Anger According to the Random House Dictionary of the English Language (Unabridged Edition) Anger is a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by real or supposed wrong.
10A Clinical Definition of Anger The clinical description of anger is much broader. It is described as a state of heightened activation or arousal of the autonomic nervous system that is fueled by our cognitive interpretations (Conscious and subconscious).
11What Causes Anger in You? We all have different things that push our buttons. What triggers your anger response?What has or would trigger your response in situations like our patients and their families face?
12What Typically Causes Anger In Our Patients? The Angry I’s from Mark Gorkin’s The Four Faces of Anger:You have a palpable sense of:InjusticeInjuryInvasionIntention
13The Angry I’s INJUSTICE: A rule of conduct, a cherished belief or instrumental goal is being threatened or abused; you see yourself (also others with whom you are psychologically dependent or connected) as a victim of an injustice, unfairness or disloyalty.
14The Angry I’sINJURY:You feel disrespected, discarded or ignored; there's a sense of insult and humiliation along with injury - often psychological, at times also physical.
15The Angry I’s INVASION: Your freedom, autonomy, boundary and personal space are perceived to be constricted, disrupted or violated; your identity and bodily and/or psychological integrity are being threatened or attacked.
16The Angry I’s - Exercise Discuss at your tablesEach group is to come up with examples of each of the Angry I’s:InjusticeInjuryInvasionWhen we come back together we will share examples, discuss how we have seen it play out and the impact is has had on the job.
17The Last Angry I INTENTION: There is an energy and determination to do something about the aforementioned injustices, injuries and invasions; you are ready - reflexively and/or purposefully - to challenge the status quo. When it goes from internal to external.
18Is Anger Always a Bad Thing? No, but it certainly can be. So let’s set some criteria so we can better describe it and categorize it. Mark Gorkin, in Anger or Aggression: Confronting the Passionate Edge (1986) identified these four:PurposefulSpontaneousConstructiveDestructive
19Anger Criteria Definitions Purposeful - When anger expression is intentional, with a significant degree of consideration or calculation; there is also a significant degree of self-control.Spontaneous - When anger expression is immediate with little contemplation or planning; there is little to moderate self-control.
20Anger Criteria Definitions Constructive - When anger expression affirms and acknowledges one's integrity and boundary without objectively intending to threaten or violate another's integrity or appropriate boundary.Destructive - When the expression of anger defensively projects and rigidly fortifies one's identity and boundary by threatening or violating another's integrity and appropriate boundary (Whether the intention is conscious or not).
21The Four “Boxes of Anger” What do these criteria produce when combined?ConstructiveDestructivePurposefulAssertionHostilitySpontaneousPassionRage
22If anger can be positive, what is the critical variable? THE LEVEL OF EMOTIONAs the level of emotion goes up; reasoning ability goes down and when that happens communication breaks down too.
23So, if we help reduce emotion we can restore reason? YesBut first we need to be calm and reasonable ourselves. And that’s not always easy, given our natural reactions to the strong emotions of others. So what do we do?
24Our Reactions to Strong Emotions You can’t help others if you can’t control yourself
25The Reciprocal Reaction As we have already discussed when emotions are high, reasoning suffers and also, what we do can affect how it will proceed for us. Our reactions matter! This is referred to as the Reciprocal Reaction.EmotionsReasoningHighLow
26The Reciprocal Reaction It is based on the simple concept of action reaction. What you say and do affects the behavior of others and vice versa. In this application it involves consciously monitoring yourself and getting involved in order to defuse an emotional situation.
27How Do You Experience Anger? How was anger expressed in your family growing up?How do you express it now?How does your experience affect how you respond to anger now?
28Your Reaction to Stressful Situations The Fight or Flight ResponseWhat is it? First described by Walter Bradford Cannon - The theory states that we react to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system, priming us for fighting or fleeing.
29Unmanaged Reactions to Stressful Situations FreezeInaction, inability to react to a situation. Example: Stage frightOverreactRationally – Misperceive situation, make it worse than it really is.Sensorimotor – Motor skills don’t function normally.
30Unmanaged Reactions to Stressful Situations Inappropriate ResponseVerbally – Saying things that are not pertinent to the circumstances, not helpful, or even damaging to the situation.Physically – Slamming, shoving, throwing something intentionally or unintentionally.
31Managed Reactions to Stressful Situations Increase in Sensory AcuitySpecial alertness or sharpening of your senses takes place.Decrease in Reaction TimeWe respond more quickly to circumstances than normally.Increase in Speed and StrengthHormones released into our bloodstream increase these abilities.
32How Can We Help Ensure Managed Reactions? Understand what about these situations makes us fearful or anxious.Learn what to do when such situations arise.Use a team approach. Not being the only one in the situation helps.Know what to do in case of an emergency.
33How Do You Stay Calm & Objective? Staying cool and calm is important and we need to find techniques that work for us. Some of these techniques are:Count to ten;Don’t personalize the person’s reaction;Controlled breathing;Positive self-talk (I am O.K., I can do this);Empathize – Walk in their shoes;Here them out, really listen; orRealize that the only person you can truly control is you.
34The Stages of Crisis Development What to look for and how to respond to them123
35Why This Knowledge Matters Due to the nature of these situations, it is vital that you stay calm and proceed with a plan. This information will help you to respond appropriately to the individual given their current emotional state.Even more important is the fact that crisis moments don’t just sprout into being; there are almost always warning signs that let you know an individual’s behavior is escalating. The earlier you intervene the better.
36The Stages of Crisis Development 1. Anxiety2. Defensive3. Acting Out4. Tension Reduction
37Crisis Stage #1 – Anxiety Anxiety: An observable and unusual change in behavior. This may mean an increase or a decrease in activity.In your setting, what would you look for?
38Crisis Stage #1 – Anxiety Your Response: Be empathetic; convey to the individual that you know he or she is anxious and that you would like to help alleviate it.What might you say?
39Crisis Stage #2 –Defensive Defensive: His or her emotional level is increasing and rationality is decreasing. He or she may begin challenging you or the authority you represent and become belligerent.There are verbal and nonverbal cues that he/she is losing control. What are they?
40Crisis Stage #2 –Defensive Your Response: Provide guidance, be directive. Take control of the escalating situation and set limits. Focus on what you can do and what they should do.What might you say?
41Crisis Stage #3 – Acting Out Acting Out: The person has lost control of his/her behavior and can be verbal and/or physically acting out. Not usually capable of reasoning at this point.
42Crisis Stage #3 – Acting Out Your Response: Make sure that you and those around you are safe and activate your emergency procedures as directed for your location. Request assistance as needed.
43Crisis Stage #4 – Tension Reduction Tension Reduction: After an episode subsides. The emotion fades, the individual regains rationality and in many cases realizes he or she has done something inappropriate.
44Crisis Stage #4 – Tension Reduction Your Response: Reconnection and problem solving. Communicate with the person as they calm down. They look to “make amends” this affords an opportunity to effect positive growth.What might you say here?
45A Deeper Look at Verbal Escalation & Intervention What to look for and what to say
46OverviewNow we will dig deeper and look specifically at verbal escalation as it begins in stage 2. This is the crisis level we are usually confronted with on the job. We’ll explore the action reaction steps so we can respond more quickly, effectively, and hopefully, move things towards a positive outcome.
47Level #1: Questioning Questioning: Information Seeking – A rational question seeking a rational response.Question Authority – Power struggle – evasiveness.
48Level #1: Questioning Intervention: How would you say it? Rational responseStay on topic ,focus on the issue at hand and what can be done about it.How would you say it?
49Level #2: Refusal Refusal: Non-compliance. Slight loss of rationalization.
50If you do this, this can happen If not, then this will happen. Level #2: RefusalIntervention: Set Limits (simple negotiations)If you do this, this can happenIf not, then this will happen.
51Level #3: Release Release: Acting out, emotional outburst, loss of rationality. Venting, screaming, swearing. High energy output, no focus.
52Level #3: Release Intervention: If possible, allow the person to vent. Remove audience or individual from area.When individual starts to quiet, state directives that are non-threatening. Tone should be one of understanding and reason.Be ready to enforce any limits you impose.
53Communicating Nonverbally Making sure that the message you’re sending is the message they’re receiving!
54OverviewWe will define what communication is and discuss its components;Discuss why nonverbal communication is a critical consideration when communicating;Identify how to use nonverbal methods to help communicate more effectively with persons in emotional situations; andReview and apply those nonverbal techniques.
55What is Communication? How would you define it? Communication is a two or more way, dynamic, interactive process of information exchange. It is multi-level.The more levels used, the more likely the information is to be received/understood as sent.
56Face to Face Communication Considerations 7% of message pertaining to feelings and attitudes is in the words that are spoken.38% of message pertaining to feelings and attitudes is paralinguistic (the way that the words are said).55% of message pertaining to feelings and attitudes is in facial expression.Albert Mehrabian, PhD: Professor Emeritus of Psychology, UCLA
57Via Telephone Communication Considerations 15% of feelings and attitudes is in the words that are spoken.85% of feelings and attitudes is paralinguistic (the way that the words are said). (From 38% 85%).0% of feelings and attitudes is in facial expression (From 55% 0%).Deborah Edwards, PhD, Office of Information Technologies, University of Mass.Considering this, just imagine the challenges we face with !
58The Importance of Nonverbal Communication Once we have figured out the words we need to say, just saying them isn’t enough. If our body and/or voice is sending a different message it can confuse or even contradict what we are trying to communicate. Body language can also effect emotion.As a wise friend of mine once said, “It doesn’t matter what you said, it’s what they heard.”
59Nonverbal Communication & Emotional Situations There are three components to consider in nonverbal communication when addressing an emotional situation:Personal SpaceBody Posture and MovementPara-verbal Communication
60Nonverbal Communication Exercise Let’s examine the following nonverbal behaviors to determine:Is the person’s response to the interaction learned or instinctive (Why is that important?)Does the action likely increase emotion/anxiety or promote reasoning/allow and encourage the person to be calm?
61Nonverbal Communication Exercise: Personal Space ActionLearned ResponseInstinctive ResponseIncreases EmotionPromotes ReasoningClose (< 18”)Normal (18” – 36”)Far (> 36”)XXX
62Nonverbal Communication Exercise: Body Juxtaposition ActionLearned ResponseInstinctive ResponseIncreases EmotionPromotes ReasoningSideFrontRearXXX
63Nonverbal Communication Exercise: Height Relationship ActionLearned ResponseInstinctive ResponseIncreases EmotionPromotes ReasoningAboveLevel/EqualBelow*XXX
69Para-verbal Communication Exercise : Pitch ActionLearned ResponseInstinctive ResponseIncreases EmotionPromotes ReasoningTone – High PitchTone – Moderate PitchTone – Low PitchXXX
70Para-verbal Communication Exercise: Inflection ActionLearned ResponseInstinctive ResponseIncreases EmotionPromotes ReasoningSharp/HaltingFlowingXX
71Para-verbal Communication Exercise: Rate of Speech ActionLearned ResponseInstinctive ResponseIncreases EmotionPromotes ReasoningSlowModerateFastXXX
72Given What We Have Just Reviewed . . . What is the most “non-threatening” approach?Personal SpaceBody JuxtapositionHeight RelationshipEye ContactGesturesEnergy LevelPosturePara-verbal CommunicationVolumePitchInflectionRate of Speech
73Sorry, No Sign Language Allowed Nonverbal Role PlaysNot sure how effective nonverbal communication is or what we are able to receive/perceive from others.Let’s experiment. We will do some role plays – with no words, nonverbal techniques only.Sorry, No Sign Language Allowed
74Let’s Put it All Together Reviewing the key concepts presented
75Putting it All Together As was said before, due to the nature of these situations it is vital that you stay calm and proceed with a plan. Crisis moments don’t just happen; there are almost always warning signs that provide an opportunity to intervene before a crisis occurs.By following these tips, you can often intervene before the crisis becomes problematic.
76Our “Checklist”BE AWARE: Remember the signs to watch out for when someone is becoming anxious or otherwise more emotional such as:An observable and unusual change or increase in behavior; orHe or she may begin challenging you or the authority you represent and become belligerent.
77Put yourself in their shoes . . . BE EMPATHETIC: Try not to judge or discount the feelings of others. Whether or not you think their feelings are justiﬁed, those feelings are real to the other person. Pay attention to them.
78Really Listen!CLARIFY MESSAGES: Listen for the person’s real message. What are the feelings behind the facts? Ask reﬂective questions and use both silence and restatements.
79Keep Your Distance!RESPECT PERSONAL SPACE: Stand at least 1.5 to 3 feet from an acting-out person. Invading personal space tends to increase the individual’s anxiety and may lead to acting-out behavior.3’
80Don’t Confront!BE AWARE OF YOUR BODY POSITION: Standing eye-to-eye and toe-to-toe with a person sends a challenging message. Standing about 3’ away and at an angle off to the side is less likely to escalate the individual.
81Power struggles are a “Lose – Lose” Don’t Argue, RedirectIGNORE CHALLENGING QUESTIONS: When a person challenges your authority or a facility policy, redirect the individual’s attention to the issue at hand. Answering challenging questions often results in a power struggle.Power struggles are a “Lose – Lose”
82Let Them Vent!PERMIT VERBAL VENTING WHEN POSSIBLE: Allow the individual to release as much energy as possible by venting verbally. If you cannot allow this, state directives and reasonable limits during lulls in the venting process.
83Choices and Consequences SET AND ENFORCE REASONABLE LIMITS: If the person becomes belligerent, defensive, or disruptive, state limits and directives clearly and concisely. When setting limits, offer choices and consequences to the acting-out individual. Of course never promise any consequence you can’t deliver on.
84Keep it in NeutralKEEP YOUR NONVERBAL CUES NONTHREATENING: The more an individual loses control, the less that individual listens to your actual words. More attention is paid to your nonverbal communication. Be aware of your gestures, facial expressions, movements, and tone of voice.
85The only one you can control is . . . AVOID OVERREACTING: Remain calm, rational, and professional. Your response will directly affect the person’s behavior.
86You have the right to . . .ASSUME THE PATIENT/ FAMILY MEMBER HAS A RIGHT TO BE ANGRY: Don’t use statements that minimize their problems or their feelings. “Apologize” and focus on what you can do for them, not what you can’t do.
87Solving the Problem or Addressing the Concern Now that things have calmed down, where do we go from here?
88They’re calm, isn’t that enough? Not if there is still a problem! Consider the Cost of an Upset “Customer”Average business doesn’t hear from 96% of unhappy customers.For every one complaint received, there are 24 people with unvoiced problems, six of which are serious.>= 90% who are dissatisfied with the service they receive will not come back.
89And if the problem continues? Of those who complain, 50% - 70% will do business again if complaint is resolved. 95% will return if resolved quickly.Average customer with a complaint tells 9 to 10 people, 13% tell more than 20 people.Those who have complained and had resolution tell five people.
90And the customer is always right! Right? Let’s take a moment to address the single most popular false idea about customer service. It’s a great slogan, credited to H. Gordon Selfridge, “ The customer is always right.” Unfortunately, it’s wrong and misleading.
91If they are not always right . . . Clearly, they are not always right.They may make unreasonable requests;Have unreasonable expectations;Perhaps even play fast and loose with the truth; andThey may not even understand how your services operate and what you can and can’t do for them.
92If they are not always right . . . Practically speaking, you can’t operate under the assumption that the customer is always right because you are not able to give every customer what he or she wants.
93Then what should our Values Statement be? Here are two short phrases that set the tone for how should we treat our patients and family members.The patient/family member always deserves to be treated as if he or she is important and his or her opinions, needs, and wants are worth your attention.The patient/family member deserves to receive the maximum effort of those serving him or her, even when his or her expectations, wants, and needs may be impractical.
94And given that Values Statement, what should we do? The implications for customer service are simple:The individual has other important wants and needs besides what was requested that you likely can meet;Even where you can’t do what the individual asks, you can contribute to the individual’s positive impression about how he or she is treated;We focus not only on what we provide, but on how we provide it. That’s the key to realistic and excellent service.Now let’s get on with the problem solving.
95The Problem Solving Steps Listen actively and confirm your understanding of the problem expressed.Problem solve together, find any solution that can work for the individual and the organization.Discuss possible options and offer a choice if at all possible.
96The Problem Solving Steps Research and/or Reach Out; don’t rely solely on what you already know. There may be additional options or supports available.Resolve the situation if you can. If not, try to bring in someone who can.
97Keep it Positive!In so far as it is up to you, always keep the discussion POSITIVE!Always tell the person what you can do, not what you can’t do.Use positive statements and keep your voice and body language neutral/positive.
98Keep it Positive!If you cannot do what the individual is asking, first apologize and then explain why.If at all possible, offer an alternative if you cannot meet their original need.
99And If You Are Unable Address The Individual’s Needs? You will need to determine who is best suited to address the patient’s questions and concerns and hand them off if necessary.For example, someone with particular expertise or authority such as your manager could be contacted/brought in.
100When a Problem Turns Into a Complaint Some problems will result in complaints, which generally must be handled in accordance with policies and procedures.But often times we have the chance to fix the problems or suggest a solution before it escalates further. Remember, the earlier we intervene, the less upset the patient will likely be.
101Open DiscussionWhat questions, concerns, or situations would you like to discuss?