Coaching Your Student to Success New Student Orientation 2014
In 2012, the number of 18- to 30-year-olds living with their parents grew to 20.7 million, a 3.9 percent gain from 2010. In 1986, about half of parents reported that they had spoken with a grown child in the past week. In 2008, 87 percent said they had. In 1988, less than half of parents gave advice to a grown child in the past month, and fewer than one in three had provided any hands-on help. Recent data show that nearly 90 percent of parents give advice and 70 percent provide some type of practical assistance every month. TWO TRENDS
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COACHING TOWARDS AUTONOMY Helen Johnson, author of “Don’t Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money,” suggest that parents think of themselves as coaches.
KEEPING A BALANCE Before becoming involved in a situation, ask yourself if it helps or hurts your child in the long run if they handle it themselves. Ask yourself if your involvement is helping or hurting your child’s ability to become autonomous, independent and interdependent. Ask how you can balance challenge and support to aid them in addressing the issues they face.
BUT INVOLVE YOURSELF IN IMPORTANT THINGS After all financial aid is applied to your bill, there may be aid left over. In most cases, this will be added to your higher one card. Make sure students spend this responsibly.
RESOURCES Students who are not performing well, are behaving inappropriately or attending infrequently may be reported to the iCare program.
RESOURCES Ask Jack/Tell Jack Available on our website. By emailing firstname.lastname@example.org In person at our two Involvement Center locations (BPSC/Steen Hall). Students can direct any question to Ask Jack. If they have a concern or complaint they can also submit it via Tell Jack.
RESOURCES This is our Summer Reading for students. They need to complete this prior to coming to SFA. It has information to help them be successful.
RESOURCES Conversations for the Car Ride Home CAR TALK Pg. 20-21 of the Parent Handbook n Communication Connection This has good conversation starters for the ride home!
Many give new students a piece of advice that seems sound, don’t get involved until you know you can handle the workload in the classroom. This seems advisable, but has a clear flaw. Students who do not get involved will not necessarily spend that time studying. They’ll spend it in unproductive ways (video games, Facebook, etc.). It is important to maintain balanced involvement. Too involved is just as bad as not involved at all. INVOLVEMENT
Students who get involved… Make more friends Get better grades Graduate at higher rates Are more dedicated alumni WHY GET INVOLVED
RESOURCES Our Award-Winning Involvement Center Students can meet with students who are specially trained to help them find ways to get involved.
Do your research! Know your student. Use the “power of the purse.” GREEK LIFE?
Freshman Leadership Academy is a special section of SFA 101. Participants interact weekly with student leaders and administrators. Participants participate in meaningful service. Students who complete the program are eligible to travel with the group to Monti Christi, Dominican Republic. Four will be selected to have all of their expenses paid.
Resources tailored for first-year students placed right where many live. Open to residential and commuter students. AARC and IC locations. Targeted programming for residents. FIRST-YEAR COMMONS
While we may be tempted to encourage students to go for majors that make the most money, we have to remember their individual gifts. Our personality type dictates where we get our energy. If we do a job we hate for money, there will come a day when no amount of money is enough. “Do what you love and you’ll be the best at it, someone will always pay you well if you are the best.” TRY NOT TO PRESSURE FOR A MAJOR
For three of the ten areas identified, students indicated they had learned the skill in cocurricular programs more than in the classroom. For five of the ten areas, student leaders indicated they had learned the skill in cocurricular programs more than in the classroom.