Presentation on theme: "First-time Parents Of A First-Year Student"— Presentation transcript:
1 First-time Parents Of A First-Year Student Rory McElwee, PhDAssistant Vice Presidentfor Student Retention
2 What the Research Tells Us about Entering First-Year Students College is very different from high schoolNew student goals for first year in order of priority1. Make friends and have fun2. Become independent person3. Choose financially rewardingmajor4. Get good grades
3 They Don’t Know What They Don’t Know They actually have to learn a whole new set of values, norms and expectations.The Rowan First-Year Experience is designed to help our new students make a successful transition to college life.
4 Academic DifferencesOverall academic ability is higher (stand out less)Much more reading and writingReadings may not be discussed in classFew opportunities for a grade(midterm and final)Extra credit is rareCourses go twice as fastNo bells or hall passesClasses don’t meet five days a weekAssume you read the syllabus
5 More Differences Many new students lack understanding about major 3 to 4 semesters before immersionOn their own to manage their time and affairs --financial, social, work, laundry, etc.Calendar & daily rhythmMust learn many sets of rules-residence life, academic major, financial aid, academic policies, etcLearn college resources & location
6 What Role Should Parents Play in this Transition? Three Stages of Student AdjustmentSeparationTransitionIncorporation
7 Separation Homesickness – wants to come home weekends Emotional roller coaster- “I like it, I hate it.”Personal problems – “I hate my roommate”Confusion – “All the liberal arts majors are interesting.”
8 Transition Finding “your kind” of friends Campus begins to shrink Discovery daily & weekly rhythmMay contemplate transferConfusion over majorFinding help and resourcesBegins to practice time managementLearning to juggle school, work and social life
9 Incorporation Knows academic advisor Involved on campus Satisfied with majorSeeks guidance, not help, from parentsRealistic expectations for college & selfRowan is “my home”
10 Stages are Quite Variable from Student to Student Duration of each stage varies by studentSome learn lessons “the hard way”t
11 Parental Adjustment to Child in College Stress LevelFinancial concernsSafety & security of my studentStudent’s adjustment to RowanFamily issuesYour separation anxietyt
12 What Should My Role Be in the Transition Process? You are IMPORTANT!!Be a guideFERPA an opportunity, not obstacleBe an active listener and be patientEvery story has at least two versionsRx homesickness = come to visitTry, try again: Not “one and done”
14 Get on the Same Page Do you share expectations? You both list expectations of each otherExchange lists and DISCUSS HONESTLYSuggested Issues to AddressMoneyFrequency of contact and trips homeSharing of academic & other informationFears and concernsDecision-making
15 Questions? email@example.com www.rowan.edu/atp LINK FOR ATP WEBSITEAcknowledgements to Jay Chaskes
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